Q. Road Trips: I love to travel, and really enjoy getting away for the weekend whenever possible. However, my boyfriend of four years has put a real damper on this for me. He seems obsessed with the idea of my flashing truckers when we are on the road. He will pull up beside an 18-wheeler and slow down, expecting me to show off the goods. This makes me very uncomfortable. When I refuse, it turns into a huge fight and he ends up not speaking to me for days. He claims that he does so much for me every day and he can’t understand why I can’t do this thing for him. It has caused a lot of ridiculous fights between us. What can I do?
A: I like Dan Savage’s formulation that people in sexual relationships should be GGG—Good, Giving, and Game. That is, good in bed, generous sexually, and open to exploring the corners of their beloved’s erotic life. However, if being GGG on a road trip means you end up as road kill, then it’s time to bow out of engaging in your boyfriend’s fantasies. It doesn’t matter if on a daily basis your boyfriend cooks you Michelin-worthy meals and then massages your feet. He gets turned on by your exposing yourself to strangers driving a rig who if they get distracted could squash you like a bug. The answer to your boyfriend’s request is very firm, “No.” If that causes him to stop speaking to you, then you need to extend the silence to forever because he’s simply a creep.
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The Principle of Least Interest: He who cares least about a relationship, controls it.
Wen I was driving on highways a lot more, and talking on my CB Radio, a couple of times I heard truckers talking about someone passing them while showing them her breasts.
I don't doubt that this is (or could be) real.
There are probably plenty of examples in YouTube.
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Oh I believe that's real ed, I meant the letter writer and her question, it seems really silly that it's even an issue between them but stranger things have happened I guess!
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Was it a bad day?
Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?
Oh I believe that's real ed, I meant the letter writer and her question, it seems really silly that it's even an issue between them but stranger things have happened I guess!
I think it might be an issue he keeps pushing because he's trying to groom her for bigger and nastier things.
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The Principle of Least Interest: He who cares least about a relationship, controls it.
