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-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Friday 7th of November 2014 09:20:25 PM

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How old is your daughter?

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My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

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20.

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I think u are overreacting. It's a letter. And she hasn't received any anyway. And no u are not necessarily entitled to know everything.

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She's an adult. Her choice.

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How old is your daughter? If she's an adult, she can make her own decisions.

I think you should put your anger aside, because this falls into the category of

"Don't sweat the small stuff".

BIG stuff might be, your mother swearing at you and calling you names, and sometimes hitting you.

 

To me it's "no harm, no foul".



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Obviously your ex pushes certain buttons. But he is their dad and they may work out whatever relationship with him they choose and no it is not your business if they receive letters from him at another address. Step back mom.

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I get your ex is a nasty person and you don't like him, but your daughter has every right to exchange letters with her father. . . But I am not sure why this even matters because there has not been any letters. I guess I don't see why you need to be in the know on this.

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Keeping secrets from parents is a normal part of being a child. I think it is good your daughter is willing to confide in her grandmother, and I do not fault your mother for keeping her confidence. How did you find out, anyways?

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Why did you delete Lilly?

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It was a vent. I needed to get it out.

Thanks for the perspective.


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Venting can be much better than exploding.



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Regardless of who or what your ex is your kids have to work out their own relationship with him.

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I think you want to be careful to not overreact. And, if your kids want a relationship with their dad be it letters, email, calls or anything else, that is entirely up to them. If you overreact and try to discourage it or cast negative light on that, then they will do it probably just stop telling you completely. I don't think that is the direction you want to go. And, if they WANT to interact with him on some level then you need to step aside and let them.

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