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DEAR ABBY: I'm carrying a heavy burden concerning my 14-year-old grandson. He told me in strictest confidence that he had sex with a 14-year-old girl. I have been his male support system, mentor, adviser, disciplinarian and friend for 12 years because his father is rarely in the picture.

He swore me to secrecy, which I want to respect, but I'm torn about telling my daughter. She has a right to know that her son is sexually active and needs closer supervision. We discussed condoms (they used them), accidental pregnancy, possible criminal charges and responsibility, but I think he is more proud than alert to the possible consequences.

If I share this with my daughter, I break a long-held trust. When I urged him to tell his mother, he refused. What do I do? This is tearing me up. -- KANSAS GRANDPA

DEAR GRANDPA: Without betraying the confidence, start talking to your daughter about how, at 14, her son is fast becoming a man with all that it entails, including raging hormones. Then suggest she have some frank talks with the boy and keep a closer eye on him, unless she wants to become a grandma before he's out of high school.

 

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YES!

He can tell her and she can talk to him without letting the kid know gramps told.

Some things you don't keep secret.

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Or you can drop the whole 'this is a really big deal . . . you have 3 days to tell her or I will' bit...

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????? Criminal charges???? WTF is he talking about?

I suppose if they sext naked pics, maybe.

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I like the advice. He doesn't have to disregard the confidence of his GS, but make it a serious convo with the mom.

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So..... what exactly does Kansas Grandpa think his daughter can do about it?  Her boy is 14 and already sexually active - I say good luck preventing it going forward even with 'closer supervision'.  I guess she can buy him comdoms?   confuse

 



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Honeys_Mom wrote:

So..... what exactly does Kansas Grandpa think his daughter can do about it?  Her boy is 14 and already sexually active - I say good luck preventing it going forward even with 'closer supervision'.  I guess she can buy him comdoms?   confuse

 

 Well and make sure he is not home alone with company.



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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Honeys_Mom wrote:

So..... what exactly does Kansas Grandpa think his daughter can do about it?  Her boy is 14 and already sexually active - I say good luck preventing it going forward even with 'closer supervision'.  I guess she can buy him comdoms?   confuse

 

 Well and make sure he is not home alone with company.

Do you think that would work? I don't think so. Where there are hormones, there's a way. And there are places. (At home is safer, imho)



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