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Southern_Belle


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DD, her BFF and I were walking around Goodwill this afternoon having a good time. The girls were looking at T-shirts with sayings on them and laughing and then my phone rings. DD's grandma. Great Grandma passed away this morning, she was 95. She's crying as she tells me and wants me to tell DD. I choked back the tears and walked around for a minute and caught DD'S BFF and told her and then I started crying as DD came up and then DD burst into tears so we were standing in a circle. DD and I crying and BFF trying to comfort us. 

What makes it worse is EXMIL'S sister is very sick with cancer and doesn't have too much longer, ans sister's DH is very ill with cancer as well. Grandaddy (98) is devastated.  I know what it's like to lose a mother and a sister in a short period of time so I can relate. It's an awful feeling that never quite goes away.



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I'm so sorry SB. There's really no words. I hope you and your daughter can find some peace.

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I'm sorry to hear that SB.

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I am so sorry SB.

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I'm supposed to be on call next weekend. I imagine that's when the funeral would be. I want DD to go but someone would have to come get her or I could meet them 1/2 way. I am considering going but I have been divorced from my ex for 12 years and he's been remarried quite a while. We don't really have a friendly relationship but I am very close to exmil. I don't know what to do.

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I'm so sorry, SB. Sending warm thought your way. (((HUGS)))

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I'm so sorry, Prayers for strengh for you and your dd

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I am very sorry to hear this. That's is so sad.

Praying for you all.

So, so sorry.

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How about you call GM and tell her you want to be there but don't want to make new wife uncomfortable and can you meet for lunch or dinner and a nice talk?

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Well, it's a 500 mile drive...I could drop DD off and hang out at the hotel.

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EX's family is so nice. They would insist I stay. Ex is the only jerk in the family.

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You do what you need to do for your daughter.

She may want you there. You don't have to be in anyone's constant field of vision.

Go in, pay your respects, find a seat out in the common area of the funeral home and just be there if your daughter needs you.

If that isn't plausible, then pay your respects, and let your daughter know you are a phone call away and then find something to do.

I couldn't stand my exMIL but I paid my respects. I got blocked in and couldn't leave so I had to stay for the funeral. I found a seat in the very back and was respectful.

And my kids had no clue and were not there.

Ask your daughter if she wants you there. Her feelings right now are more important than anyone else's.

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Southern_Belle wrote:

EX's family is so nice. They would insist I stay. Ex is the only jerk in the family.

Same here.

I'm so sorry for all the sadness right now, SB.  Prayers sent your way.



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I'm sorry too, SB. Do what you and DD need to do, don't worry about ex or his wife.

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Cyber hugs to you SB.

ps. My kindle changed it to cyberchugs which also makes sense since you're drinking tonight...I will cyberchug with you.

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(((Hugs)))

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Thanks all. DD's friend was just sitting next to me so I couldn't post. This is my secret hideaway.

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You have my deepest condolences, Southern_Belle.

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I'm sorry, SB. Do what you want to do for the funeral, it might be comforting to your DD to have you with her.

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So sorry to hear about your loss. Sending positive vibes your way.

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You have my sympathy, SB. Sending hugs your way.



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500 miles?

Very few people will travel that far for a funeral unless they were VERY close emotionally.

(Is that one way or round trip?)

 



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One way Ed. I know it's far. DD'S father will have to travel from SW Fl. If he wants to I can meet him in Macon so he can pick DD up and bring her. It's about 1/2 for me.

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I'm so sorry, it's much sadder when this happens near the holidays...

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Southern_Belle wrote:

One way Ed. I know it's far. DD'S father will have to travel from SW Fl. If he wants to I can meet him in Macon so he can pick DD up and bring her. It's about 1/2 for me.

Anyone who would undertake a 1000 mile drive to attend a funeral deserves respect, and appreciation for caring enough to go. 

 



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*hugs and prayers*

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