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DEAR ABBY: I have been divorced for more than a year and recently started dating a very nice man, "John." My eldest daughter and her children live with me. I'd like to be able to invite John over to our house, but my daughter doesn't want "strange men" around her kids, which I understand. I tried suggesting that she meet John before assuming that he is a strange man, but she's hesitant about meeting him.

Abby, I'd like to be able to spend some nights at home with him instead of always going out. It hurts because I have allowed the father of her children to live with us, yet I can't have someone I care about visit me at the home I work hard to pay for.

Please, Abby. I need advice on how to make my relationship with him and her work. -- STRESSED IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR STRESSED: I wish I had more information about your daughter and her attitude. Did she disapprove of your divorce from her father and harbor hopes that you will reconcile? Could she be worried that if you and John become serious, she will have to find another place to live? That she'd refuse to even meet him seems peculiar.

It was generous of you to allow her children's father to live under your roof. (Has he left yet?) Notice that I said "under your roof." If you want to entertain a guest, as the person who pays the mortgage, that should be your privilege. If that makes her uncomfortable, perhaps it would be better if she took the children to their father's or another relative's place for the evening.

You are entitled to live your life without your daughter controlling you, but it appears that may be exactly what she's trying to do.

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I can understand the daughters concern but it isn't like she is having her boyfriend move in with her. It is her home and her rules.

She should be able to have him into her home for a evening and for a celebration. Maybe they could arrange for a babysitter and go out to dinner where the daughter could get to know her friend a little better.

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Tell her she can get her own damn place if she doesn't like your rules.

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I don't think this is the whole story - I agree with the thought that maybe daughter just doesn't want mom to see men other than her dad.  I would have guests in my own home for sure - getting a babysitter is a good idea for the gentleman's first visit just to keep the peace, but after that... my house, my visitors.



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Lexxy wrote:

Tell her she can get her own damn place if she doesn't like your rules.

 



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What is with needing to have a man stay the night?

Yes it is her house. The daughter needs to realize that.

Mom should not have let her daughter's baby daddy stay in the house either.

Mom needs to have a come to Jesus talk with her daughter and lay down the law.

And ALL of them need to make sure the kids are not hurt in the process.

Multiple families living together is hard. Everyone has to make concessions.



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She didn't say she wanted him to spend the night. Just that she wanted to invite him over for a date instead of always going out.

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Lexxy wrote:

She didn't say she wanted him to spend the night. Just that she wanted to invite him over for a date instead of always going out.

This is what I read too...She just want's to be able to have him over for dinner and a movie.  She needs to fix this situation immediately! 



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Ohfour wrote:
Lexxy wrote:

She didn't say she wanted him to spend the night. Just that she wanted to invite him over for a date instead of always going out.

This is what I read too...She just want's to be able to have him over for dinner and a movie.  She needs to fix this situation immediately! 

 This is where I got the staying over.

"I'd like to be able to spend some nights at home with him instead of always going out."

It could be anything.

But I was talking about all of them.



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She should just install a stripper pole and say that is the deal now.

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The most she should do is tell the daughter when this guy is coming over so the daughter can make other arrangements if she doesn't want her kids around him. But that's it. It's her house, she can bring whoever she wants over. And if she wants him to stay the night, that's her business too. It's her house, if her daughter doesn't like the way her mother lives, the daughter can move.



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Her house, her rules.

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lilyofcourse wrote:

What is with needing to have a man stay the night? 

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 Maybe she wants to have sex all night until her eyeballs rattle?   biggrin



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Ohfour wrote:
Lexxy wrote:

She didn't say she wanted him to spend the night. Just that she wanted to invite him over for a date instead of always going out.

This is what I read too...She just want's to be able to have him over for dinner and a movie.  She needs to fix this situation immediately! 

 Me three!

And Mom needs to start acting like an adult.

flan

 



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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

What is with needing to have a man stay the night? 

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 Maybe she wants to have sex all night until her eyeballs rattle?   biggrin

 I must be doing something wrong...evileye

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If daughter doesn't like it - she can move. Simple, really.

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flan327 wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

What is with needing to have a man stay the night? 

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 Maybe she wants to have sex all night until her eyeballs rattle?   biggrin

 I must be doing something wrong...evileye

flan

Hijack...

I saw a post on Facebook this morning.  Someone posted about June Shannon (Honey Boo Boo's mom) getting caught in a threesome with a couple of guys.  The post said "She gets busy more than I do, and I'm pretty". 

I laughed... 



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Ohfour wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

What is with needing to have a man stay the night? 

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 Maybe she wants to have sex all night until her eyeballs rattle?   biggrin

 I must be doing something wrong...evileye

flan

Hijack...

I saw a post on Facebook this morning.  Someone posted about June Shannon (Honey Boo Boo's mom) getting caught in a threesome with a couple of guys.  The post said "She gets busy more than I do, and I'm pretty". 

I laughed... 

 Guys are attracted to women with triple chins?

Who knew???

flan



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She seems to have no problem getting men in her bed. Of course it helps if u dont rule out criminals and pedophiles.

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

She seems to have no problem getting men in her bed. Of course it helps if u dont rule out criminals and pedophiles.

 My standards are definitely high.

flan



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Ohfour wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

What is with needing to have a man stay the night? 

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 Maybe she wants to have sex all night until her eyeballs rattle?   biggrin

 I must be doing something wrong...evileye

flan

Hijack...

I saw a post on Facebook this morning.  Someone posted about June Shannon (Honey Boo Boo's mom) getting caught in a threesome with a couple of guys.  The post said "She gets busy more than I do, and I'm pretty". 

I laughed... 

 At last, a fool-proof diet that needs no willpower whatsoever!  Just think of this before dinner... biggrin



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Good grief. Boot your deadbeat daughter and her dead beat boyfriend out of the house. Make those losers pay for their own damn domicile.

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

What is with needing to have a man stay the night? 

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 Maybe she wants to have sex all night until her eyeballs rattle?   biggrin

 Hell Yeah!



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lilyofcourse wrote:

What is with needing to have a man stay the night?

Yes it is her house. The daughter needs to realize that.

Mom should not have let her daughter's baby daddy stay in the house either.

Mom needs to have a come to Jesus talk with her daughter and lay down the law.

And ALL of them need to make sure the kids are not hurt in the process.

Multiple families living together is hard. Everyone has to make concessions.

 First bolded:  Been a long time, huh?

 

Second bolded:  That's why it's a bad idea. 



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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

What is with needing to have a man stay the night? 

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 Maybe she wants to have sex all night until her eyeballs rattle?   biggrin

 Hell Yeah!

 I second that!



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Southern_Belle wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

What is with needing to have a man stay the night? 

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 Maybe she wants to have sex all night until her eyeballs rattle?   biggrin

 Hell Yeah!

 I second that!

 Well now THIS thread became suddenly more interesting, didn't it?!biggrin



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Honeys_Mom wrote:
Southern_Belle wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

What is with needing to have a man stay the night? 

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 Maybe she wants to have sex all night until her eyeballs rattle?   biggrin

 Hell Yeah!

 I second that!

 Well now THIS thread became suddenly more interesting, didn't it?!biggrin

 



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Details, I want details of all eye rattling sex

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I don't want to brag... But...lol!

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huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

What is with needing to have a man stay the night?

Yes it is her house. The daughter needs to realize that.

Mom should not have let her daughter's baby daddy stay in the house either.

Mom needs to have a come to Jesus talk with her daughter and lay down the law.

And ALL of them need to make sure the kids are not hurt in the process.

Multiple families living together is hard. Everyone has to make concessions.

 First bolded:  Been a long time, huh?

 

Second bolded:  That's why it's a bad idea. 

It's ironic that you made it personal with lily and then also said it was a bad idea. I know that's not what you meant but it's definitely you Husker...lol



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If the daughter doesn't want Mom to bring guys home, maybe the Daughter should buy the home from Mom.

Mom's house, Mom's rules. If the daughter doesn't like it, she's free to find lodging elsewhere.

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