TOTALLY GEEKED!

huskerbb · Guru

Prudie is way too hard on the LW here.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

She's not too hard on him. Being 'a guy' does not mean that your brain is in your pants. Try keeping them on, buddy.

I do agree that the wife needs to address the inappropriate sister situation, but because of inappropriateness. Not because her husband can't keep his pants on.

Ohfour · Hooker

I agree. He's a cad. What a loser.

huskerbb · Guru

Tignanello wrote:
She's not too hard on him. Being 'a guy' does not mean that your brain is in your pants. Try keeping them on, buddy.

I do agree that the wife needs to address the inappropriate sister situation, but because of inappropriateness. Not because her husband can't keep his pants on.

He wants to do that--not so easy when you have women coming on to you. That's EXACTLY HOW infidelity occurs. He doesn't want to go down that route.

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
I agree. He's a cad. What a loser.

Because he doesn't want to cheat on his wife? Got it.

I guess that must be what passes for "loser" these day, apparently. Fidelity.

Ohfour · Hooker

Because he has a hard time not cheating on his wife with her sister. But I wouldn't expect you to feel any differently...

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

She was not to hard on him. Life brings us lots of temptations. Just because the sister would do it with him does not mean he has to. He is a jerk as is the sister.

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
Because he has a hard time not cheating on his wife with her sister. But I wouldn't expect you to feel any differently...

Who says he has a hard time? He just doesn't want it LIVING with him.

Why should he have to just "suck it up" and deal with it if it makes him uncomfortable in his own house.

As for your second comment--that's even more idiotic than the one you posted on the other thread since I've been married 23 years, together 28, and have never cheated on my spouse.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
I agree. He's a cad. What a loser.
Because he doesn't want to cheat on his wife? Got it.

I guess that must be what passes for "loser" these day, apparently. Fidelity.

If he doesn't want to cheat on the wife than why is he writing? Because he is contemplating it!

huskerbb · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
She was not to hard on him. Life brings us lots of temptations. Just because the sister would do it with him does not mean he has to. He is a jerk as is the sister.

No, life does not being "lots of temptations". I can't really think of any times I've been "tempted"--but I don't have them living with me, either. Why should he have to put up with that?

Ohfour · Hooker

Must be a guy thing to say that you can't control who you screw...I never had that problem...

huskerbb · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
I agree. He's a cad. What a loser.
Because he doesn't want to cheat on his wife? Got it.

I guess that must be what passes for "loser" these day, apparently. Fidelity.
If he doesn't want to cheat on the wife than why is he writing? Because he is contemplating it!

No, it's because he doesn't want to--but doesn't want the temptation living in his house every day, either.

Why do you think they recommend that alcoholics not to have alcohol in the house? Because they are terrible people? No, it's because it's easier to remove the temptation before one gives in.

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
Must be a guy thing to say that you can't control who you screw...I never had that problem...

Maybe no one ever wanted to do it with you.

Ohfour · Hooker

If he loves his wife, he wouldn't be tempted to screw her sister. Loser...

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
If he loves his wife, he wouldn't be tempted to screw her sister. Loser...

The third idiotic thing you've posted.

That's like saying if an alcoholic wants to stay sober, he would never be tempted by booze. Moronic.

Ohfour · Hooker

huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
Must be a guy thing to say that you can't control who you screw...I never had that problem...
Maybe no one ever wanted to do it with you.

Hahaha! Good one! You can only dream...

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Infidelity occurs because people have sex with people who are not their spouses. Not because people are attracted to each other. Keep your pants on and you'll be fine. The level of disrespect that the SIL is showing the wife here is outrageous though. That alone should get her booted from the house.

And then the LW and wife can have a little chat about his need to screw things that aren't her, and his concern about being unable to control himself.

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
Must be a guy thing to say that you can't control who you screw...I never had that problem...
Maybe no one ever wanted to do it with you.
Hahaha! Good one! You can only dream...

The truth is what it is.

huskerbb · Guru

Tignanello wrote:
Infidelity occurs because people have sex with people who are not their spouses. Not because people are attracted to each other. Keep your pants on and you'll be fine. The level of disrespect that the SIL is showing the wife here is outrageous though. That alone should get her booted from the house.

And then the LW and wife can have a little chat about his need to screw things that aren't her, and his concern about being unable to control himself.

He wouldn't have any concern his wife wasn't moving said concern into his house.

huskerbb · Guru

If he truly wanted to cheat--then why write in to Prudie? He could have done it by now. That assertion makes no sense.

ed11563 · Guru

Either the sister was joking, in which case he could just laugh it off, or she's not joking.

If she's not joking, if they're ever alone in the house, she will escalate to overt behavior.

Presumably, he's already told her to stop. At least I HOPE he has.

huskerbb · Guru

ed11563 wrote:
Either the sister was joking, in which case he could just laugh it off, or she's not joking.

If she's not joking, if they're ever alone in the house, she will escalate to overt behavior.
Presumably, he's already told her to stop. At least I HOPE he has.

He probably either has--or he might have been too embarrassed to say anything about it.

Either way, he did tell his wife--and she just laughed it off.

Ohfour · Hooker

Cause she doesn't realize she's married to a loser that is tempted to screw her sister. She needs to kick him to the curb...

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
Cause she doesn't realize she's married to a loser that is tempted to screw her sister. She needs to kick him to the curb...

Tempted ONLY because the sister wants to bed him. Why does she get a free pass?

What about her loyalty to her sister (or lack thereof)?

No, she didn't say the vows--but bros before hos--and I would assume sisters have somewhat the same code.

Ohfour · Hooker

Sorry, no excuse. You think people don't hit on my husband ALL the time? I believe him when he says its not even a temptation. Because he loves me and would never be tempted to ruin our marriage...

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
Sorry, no excuse. You think people don't hit on my husband ALL the time? I believe him when he says its not even a temptation. Because he loves me and would never be tempted to ruin our marriage...

None of them are living with him, either.

ed11563 · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
Sorry, no excuse. You think people don't hit on my husband ALL the time? I believe him when he says its not even a temptation. Because he loves me and would never be tempted to ruin our marriage...

This has already gone beyond her "hitting on" him. It's a lot easier to be not tempted when it's a stranger out in the world,

than if it's a young woman living in the house who could potentially walk around wearing way too little clothing,

or wake him up from a nap by climbing into bed with him naked.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
Sorry, no excuse. You think people don't hit on my husband ALL the time? I believe him when he says its not even a temptation. Because he loves me and would never be tempted to ruin our marriage...
None of them are living with him, either.

ha! I spent time with him in his hotel room. Had he not been married or otherwise with a friend of mine, I would have flirted!

ed11563 · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
Sorry, no excuse. You think people don't hit on my husband ALL the time? I believe him when he says its not even a temptation. Because he loves me and would never be tempted to ruin our marriage...
None of them are living with him, either.
ha! I spent time with him in his hotel room. Had he not been married or otherwise with a friend of mine, I would have flirted!

You spent time in a hotel room alone with Ohfour's husband?

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

ed11563 wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
Sorry, no excuse. You think people don't hit on my husband ALL the time? I believe him when he says its not even a temptation. Because he loves me and would never be tempted to ruin our marriage...
None of them are living with him, either.
ha! I spent time with him in his hotel room. Had he not been married or otherwise with a friend of mine, I would have flirted!
You spent time in a hotel room alone with Ohfour's husband?

Sure, she had to pee!

Ohfour · Hooker

Lol! And I would have left them longer than that if it was warranted. I trust my husband. And I trust IKWTDS. Never would have crossed my mind to be worried...

ed11563 · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
Sorry, no excuse. You think people don't hit on my husband ALL the time? I believe him when he says its not even a temptation. Because he loves me and would never be tempted to ruin our marriage...
None of them are living with him, either.
ha! I spent time with him in his hotel room. Had he not been married or otherwise with a friend of mine, I would have flirted!
You spent time in a hotel room alone with Ohfour's husband?
Sure, she had to pee!

So she did NOT leave you alone with him for several hours? Ok, I believe you.

(Also, I think I know you well enough to know that you're trustworthy, except when you're smuggling candy into the country smile )

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

ed11563 wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
Sorry, no excuse. You think people don't hit on my husband ALL the time? I believe him when he says its not even a temptation. Because he loves me and would never be tempted to ruin our marriage...
None of them are living with him, either.
ha! I spent time with him in his hotel room. Had he not been married or otherwise with a friend of mine, I would have flirted!
You spent time in a hotel room alone with Ohfour's husband?
Sure, she had to pee!
So she did NOT leave you alone with him for several hours? Ok, I believe you.
(Also, I think I know you well enough to know that you're trustworthy, except when you're smuggling candy into the country )

Eh even if several hours or days, I would never come on to him. Plus, because he is hands off, I have no attraction to him, not even a thought. but it's fun to tease O4.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

He does want to cheat. That's the problem. If he didn't he wouldn't be taking her flirting seriously and he would have put a stop to it a long time ago with the sister.

He is looking for an excuse for when he does. "It was all her fault, she came on to me!"

If a man has no control over himself, he is not a man. No matter what is put in front of him, a man, a real man, can restrain himself.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

This is NOT about the sister.
This is about a man who may not be able to keep it in his pants, because....well, he can't.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

A man can't be alone with another woman that is not his wife and refuse her sexual advances? He's a poor excuse for a man and a husband.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

He either has a back bone, or he doesn't. Everything else is BS.

chef · Guru

"I am, after all, a guy."

This is an insult to men who are fully committed to their marriage vows.

It doesn't matter if the temptation lives with him. If he is truly committed to his wife and to honoring his marriage vows, there wouldn't be any temptation.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Cheating stuff aside, I don't think anyone should have to move someone into their house if that person makes them uncomfortable.

huskerbb · Guru

just Czech wrote:
This is NOT about the sister.
This is about a man who may not be able to keep it in his pants, because....well, he can't.

You are full of crap. If he was "unable" to keep it in his pants--he would have already had sex with her.

Why should someone have to live in their own house with a person or situation that makes them uncomfortable?

Turn the situation around. Let's say it was his brother who was constantly hitting on the LW's wife. Why should she have to put up with that on a daily basis by having him live with her? It doesn't matter whether or not she would "give in"--she'd be faced with the situation of fending off his advances every day.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
A man can't be alone with another woman that is not his wife and refuse her sexual advances? He's a poor excuse for a man and a husband.

He can--but why should he have to do so on a daily basis in HIS OWN HOUSE?

If it were his brother who was constantly hitting on the LW's wife, would it be just cool that she would have to fend off his brother's advances every day? Whether or not she would "give in" or not is irrelevant.

Why should he be faced with that any more that his wife should be were the situation reversed?

Ohfour · Hooker

That's not the issue...he says he doesn't know if he can control himself...because he's a guy and that's what guys do...

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
That's not the issue...he says he doesn't know if he can control himself...because he's a guy and that's what guys do...

WTH are you talking about? It's absolutely the issue--he doesn't want SIL to live with them. Whether or not he would "give in" is irrelevant. He shouldn't have to put up with it any more than she should were the situations reversed.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
A man can't be alone with another woman that is not his wife and refuse her sexual advances? He's a poor excuse for a man and a husband.
He can--but why should he have to do so on a daily basis in HIS OWN HOUSE?

If it were his brother who was constantly hitting on the LW's wife, would it be just cool that she would have to fend off his brother's advances every day? Whether or not she would "give in" or not is irrelevant.

Why should he be faced with that any more that his wife should be were the situation reversed?

That's a separate issue from most of your original comment which says it would be hard on him to refuse.

OF COURSE the slutty sister shouldn't be welcome in her sister's house when she's continually making advances towards the husband. But not because it's too tempting for the husband - just because little sis is a stupid whore.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
That's not the issue...he says he doesn't know if he can control himself...because he's a guy and that's what guys do...
WTH are you talking about? It's absolutely the issue--he doesn't want SIL to live with them. Whether or not he would "give in" is irrelevant. He shouldn't have to put up with it any more than she should were the situations reversed.

LOL! No way you said that.

Ohfour · Hooker

Lol! Yes he did.....ha!

Ohfour · Hooker

He doesn't want her to live with them because he might pork her.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
A man can't be alone with another woman that is not his wife and refuse her sexual advances? He's a poor excuse for a man and a husband.
He can--but why should he have to do so on a daily basis in HIS OWN HOUSE?

If it were his brother who was constantly hitting on the LW's wife, would it be just cool that she would have to fend off his brother's advances every day? Whether or not she would "give in" or not is irrelevant.

Why should he be faced with that any more that his wife should be were the situation reversed?
That's a separate issue from most of your original comment which says it would be hard on him to refuse.

OF COURSE the slutty sister shouldn't be welcome in her sister's house when she's continually making advances towards the husband. But not because it's too tempting for the husband - just because little sis is a stupid whore.

But that's now what you or anyone else has been saying.

What most have been saying is that SIL should be able to move in and he should deal with it no matter what.

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
He doesn't want her to live with them because he might pork her.

???? So his wife should want her sister to live with them so he can do so?

Again, why would you keep vodka in the cupboard if your mate is an alcoholic? Sure alcohol is in society--and they have to deal with it in certain situations--but not IN THEIR OWN HOME.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
A man can't be alone with another woman that is not his wife and refuse her sexual advances? He's a poor excuse for a man and a husband.
He can--but why should he have to do so on a daily basis in HIS OWN HOUSE?

If it were his brother who was constantly hitting on the LW's wife, would it be just cool that she would have to fend off his brother's advances every day? Whether or not she would "give in" or not is irrelevant.

Why should he be faced with that any more that his wife should be were the situation reversed?
That's a separate issue from most of your original comment which says it would be hard on him to refuse.

OF COURSE the slutty sister shouldn't be welcome in her sister's house when she's continually making advances towards the husband. But not because it's too tempting for the husband - just because little sis is a stupid whore.
But that's now what you or anyone else has been saying.

What most have been saying is that SIL should be able to move in and he should deal with it no matter what.

No, we're saying DH is a dick because he thinks he can't control himself. That's a separate issue than her actually being there.