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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Abby: Event Food Hogs

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

My suggestion would be to move the refreshments into a different room and invite only the actual art patrons in there.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

If I saw someone taking that much food, I'd fart in his or her face.

(Too soon?)

flan

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

flan327 wrote:
If I saw someone taking that much food, I'd fart in his or her face.

(Too soon?)

flan

LOL!

TrudyML · Guru

My brothers kids do this. DRIVES ME CRAZY! I called them out on it. Because they don't eat it. Just load up all the turkey on a plate and not eat it. They aren't invited to many events anymore.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Or they could not provide plates, only napkins. Cut back on the amount presented at any one time. Or have it on trays that are carried around and they take one or two and then the tray moves on.

Do it in waves. Have a beginning app, then a middle one or two a little later and a sweet one a little later than that.

Invitation only would make a huge difference too.

TrudyML · Guru

Did we ever discuss the Halloween moment? My tiny niece and nephew beg for my mac & cheese. I go over answer the door, get her buffet ready. This friend of my sister shows up with a container and takes it all. Me being me I start to go over to tell her off but my sister stopped me. WTF!

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

TrudyML wrote:
Did we ever discuss the Halloween moment? My tiny niece and nephew beg for my mac & cheese. I go over answer the door, get her buffet ready. This friend of my sister shows up with a container and takes it all. Me being me I start to go over to tell her off but my sister stopped me. WTF!

You have got to be kidding??????

Who does stuff like that?

Beyond rude!

TrudyML · Guru

I was so hot. I glared at that hag all night. It is not cheap or easy to make. My tiny loves asked me for another. I mean she took it from them!

ed11563 · Guru

TrudyML wrote:
Did we ever discuss the Halloween moment? My tiny niece and nephew beg for my mac & cheese. I go over answer the door, get her buffet ready. This friend of my sister shows up with a container and takes it all. Me being me I start to go over to tell her off but my sister stopped me. WTF!

Why did your sister stop you?????

TrudyML · Guru

She knows I'd go ape **** on her. My sister knows me.

JPT · Senior Member

We are having a grand opening event next month, and it will be by invite only. Too many freeloaders and drunks that will gorge and swill on anyone else's nickel.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

TrudyML wrote:
Did we ever discuss the Halloween moment? My tiny niece and nephew beg for my mac & cheese. I go over answer the door, get her buffet ready. This friend of my sister shows up with a container and takes it all. Me being me I start to go over to tell her off but my sister stopped me. WTF!

She brought a container along & just cleaned out your food?? WTF?? Who does shyt like that. That is not only rude but really strange behavior.

TrudyML · Guru

Yep. I bet my sister raved about it and said it was coming. It is made with sharp cheddar and gruyere cheese. Topped with tiny bread crumbs soaked in butter that turn golden while cooking

-- Edited by TrudyML on Friday 16th of January 2015 11:58:31 AM

JPT · Senior Member

Sounds delicious...and gruyere cheese isn't cheap!

TrudyML · Guru

No, that is the thing! We call it the crack & cheese or the $50 mac & cheese. That cheese isn't cheap.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Trudy, I think your sister needs a new friend. Gosh, dump that loser fast!!!
I would have been furious.

TrudyML · Guru

I was screaming mad! It was a huge pan. She knows never have me in the same room with her. I'd tell her off today!

Who does that? My babes had frowns on their faces. I couldn't have that.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

TrudyML wrote:
I was screaming mad! It was a huge pan. She knows never have me in the same room with her. I'd tell her off today!

Who does that? My babes had frowns on their faces. I couldn't have that.

You have way more self control then I do. I would NOT have let her get away with it, period. I wouldn't have given two hoots what my sister said. That leach was way out of line in your house.

NAOW · Vette's SS

What?! Why would she think its OK to take all of it..or even some of it? If she wanted to try it she could have sat down and had some with you. I would have said something. I'm a little upset your sister didn't say anything and chose to stop you from saying anything. She has a rude friend.

And I want that recipe :)

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

just Czech wrote:
TrudyML wrote:
I was screaming mad! It was a huge pan. She knows never have me in the same room with her. I'd tell her off today!

Who does that? My babes had frowns on their faces. I couldn't have that.
You have way more self control then I do. I would NOT have let her get away with it, period. I wouldn't have given two hoots what my sister said. That leach was way out of line in your house.

Me too Czech. I absolutely would have grabbed the container out of her hand and tell her straight out that she is not to touch it.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Being involved in a professional society that hosts monthly luncheons, I often have to shoo moochers away from the buffet. It is amazing how someone will go up to a table, know there are 40 people that have paid to eat and still take most of the sandwiches/lasagne/pizza or just what the fare of the day is.

Years ago, I, my BF, and two other couples spent the w/e at my family's cottage. The adults were going to the casino on Saturday night with my 14YO watching my friends 2 younger boys. That was fine. Next morning I get up and make bacon and sausage, put them on platters on the kitchen island, then proceeded to make pancakes for everyone. The 2 young boys came in, grabbed plates and started loading their plates up with all the bacon. I stopped them and told them that there are 7 other people who will be eating so they could not take all the food. The mother was actually livid I spoke to her children like that. Guess how many times I invited them again? Guess.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

I'm pretty sure I'd have asked her just what the he11 she thought she was doing. Especially when she was stealing food from the mouths of the children you made it for at their request.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Being involved in a professional society that hosts monthly luncheons, I often have to shoo moochers away from the buffet. It is amazing how someone will go up to a table, know there are 40 people that have paid to eat and still take most of the sandwiches/lasagne/pizza or just what the fare of the day is.

Years ago, I, my BF, and two other couples spent the w/e at my family's cottage. The adults were going to the casino on Saturday night with my 14YO watching my friends 2 younger boys. That was fine. Next morning I get up and make bacon and sausage, put them on platters on the kitchen island, then proceeded to make pancakes for everyone. The 2 young boys came in, grabbed plates and started loading their plates up with all the bacon. I stopped them and told them that there are 7 other people who will be eating so they could not take all the food. The mother was actually livid I spoke to her children like that. Guess how many times I invited them again? Guess.

The mother was livid at you?? She should be livid or at least embarrassed by her sons' behavior.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Being involved in a professional society that hosts monthly luncheons, I often have to shoo moochers away from the buffet. It is amazing how someone will go up to a table, know there are 40 people that have paid to eat and still take most of the sandwiches/lasagne/pizza or just what the fare of the day is.

Years ago, I, my BF, and two other couples spent the w/e at my family's cottage. The adults were going to the casino on Saturday night with my 14YO watching my friends 2 younger boys. That was fine. Next morning I get up and make bacon and sausage, put them on platters on the kitchen island, then proceeded to make pancakes for everyone. The 2 young boys came in, grabbed plates and started loading their plates up with all the bacon. I stopped them and told them that there are 7 other people who will be eating so they could not take all the food. The mother was actually livid I spoke to her children like that. Guess how many times I invited them again? Guess.

I hope you told her to take her kids and leave. Bye bye, biotch. Gosh, people think they are entitled.

ed11563 · Guru

TrudyML wrote:
She knows I'd go ape **** on her. My sister knows me.

Send her a bill. Materials $75, Labor $65, Letting her walk out alive $150.

I don't care how long ago this was, send her a bill NOW.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Trudy,

Will you make me your mac & cheese to celebrate the Colts' win over the Pats?

flan

TrudyML · Guru

I'd fling it at you IF they won. Breathe easy. That will never happen.

TrudyML · Guru

NAOW wrote:
What?! Why would she think its OK to take all of it..or even some of it? If she wanted to try it she could have sat down and had some with you. I would have said something. I'm a little upset your sister didn't say anything and chose to stop you from saying anything. She has a rude friend.

And I want that recipe :)

Let me scan it in. I will have it for you next week. Or lemme look it up!

TrudyML · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Being involved in a professional society that hosts monthly luncheons, I often have to shoo moochers away from the buffet. It is amazing how someone will go up to a table, know there are 40 people that have paid to eat and still take most of the sandwiches/lasagne/pizza or just what the fare of the day is.

Years ago, I, my BF, and two other couples spent the w/e at my family's cottage. The adults were going to the casino on Saturday night with my 14YO watching my friends 2 younger boys. That was fine. Next morning I get up and make bacon and sausage, put them on platters on the kitchen island, then proceeded to make pancakes for everyone. The 2 young boys came in, grabbed plates and started loading their plates up with all the bacon. I stopped them and told them that there are 7 other people who will be eating so they could not take all the food. The mother was actually livid I spoke to her children like that. Guess how many times I invited them again? Guess.

Ugh! This is what I hate! I am glad you stopped it.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

We had friends that did this all the time. They weren't quite as bad as the examples but still pretty rude. When we moved from Ohio, DH was coaching 3 teams there and each one had a going away pot luck party for him. This same couple was invited to each party. They brought exactly nothing to each party. They heaped piles of food on their plates as if they had not eaten in days. Then when it was time to leave, they loaded up plates of food "for the road". By the third party, one of the other coaches' wives leaned in towards me and said "here they go..." I just don't understand people like this. The party was for us and I felt guilty that we didn't bring anything !!

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

When I worked at my last Indy library (bigger staff than most of the branches), it was the same thing. At pitch-ins, there were those few people who would contribute nothing but take more than their share.

flan

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

TrudyML wrote:
I'd fling it at you IF they won. Breathe easy. That will never happen.

No, you will feed it to me in dainty spoonfuls (while keeping the Pinot chilled).

flan

TrudyML · Guru

LOL!

I remember a sister telling me about pizza days at her work. $5 in the bowl they'd order pizza and salad. You had to sign you paid in. Well, this one guy never gave a buck and was always the first one there. That was stopped by a manager. What a tool.

-- Edited by TrudyML on Friday 16th of January 2015 01:59:22 PM

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Being involved in a professional society that hosts monthly luncheons, I often have to shoo moochers away from the buffet. It is amazing how someone will go up to a table, know there are 40 people that have paid to eat and still take most of the sandwiches/lasagne/pizza or just what the fare of the day is.

Years ago, I, my BF, and two other couples spent the w/e at my family's cottage. The adults were going to the casino on Saturday night with my 14YO watching my friends 2 younger boys. That was fine. Next morning I get up and make bacon and sausage, put them on platters on the kitchen island, then proceeded to make pancakes for everyone. The 2 young boys came in, grabbed plates and started loading their plates up with all the bacon. I stopped them and told them that there are 7 other people who will be eating so they could not take all the food. The mother was actually livid I spoke to her children like that. Guess how many times I invited them again? Guess.

My nephew and niece will do the same thing. Every time. Even if it is something they don't like.

Why? Because their mom uses food as a weapon and a treat at the same time.

She is one who will lock the fridge and pantry. They are not allowed anything she doesn't approve. They are 17 and 14 and they have never been able to eat without it being measured, weighed, and timed. They get punished if the eat something that is not on her list.

She has always said she is teaching them how to eat healthy. But what she has taught them is to sneak around, hide and hoard food.

I am not saying your situation is the same. But that is why they do it here.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Oooh 34 posts. You guys were busy! lol

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

A place I worked at years ago had an office staff and a maintenance crew. We had to hide goodies in a desk drawer because when the maintenance crew took their morning break, they would swoop into the office and clean out ALL the goodies. This was food the office staff brought to share, not purchased with company funds.

So rude...

TrudyML · Guru

Reliving our own food horrors, Gaga

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

Lily, I really feel sorry for your neice and nephew...

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

Honeys_Mom wrote:
A place I worked at years ago had an office staff and a maintenance crew. We had to hide goodies in a desk drawer because when the maintenance crew took their morning break, they would swoop into the office and clean out ALL the goodies. This was food the office staff brought to share, not purchased with company funds.
So rude...

When we worked in a high rise the janitorial staff was hired by the mangement company to clean all offices in the building. Many times candy & other goodies would be missing. We started locking it up too. So pathetic.

Bonny22Pye · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Being involved in a professional society that hosts monthly luncheons, I often have to shoo moochers away from the buffet. It is amazing how someone will go up to a table, know there are 40 people that have paid to eat and still take most of the sandwiches/lasagne/pizza or just what the fare of the day is.

Years ago, I, my BF, and two other couples spent the w/e at my family's cottage. The adults were going to the casino on Saturday night with my 14YO watching my friends 2 younger boys. That was fine. Next morning I get up and make bacon and sausage, put them on platters on the kitchen island, then proceeded to make pancakes for everyone. The 2 young boys came in, grabbed plates and started loading their plates up with all the bacon. I stopped them and told them that there are 7 other people who will be eating so they could not take all the food. The mother was actually livid I spoke to her children like that. Guess how many times I invited them again? Guess.
My nephew and niece will do the same thing. Every time. Even if it is something they don't like.
Why? Because their mom uses food as a weapon and a treat at the same time.
She is one who will lock the fridge and pantry. They are not allowed anything she doesn't approve. They are 17 and 14 and they have never been able to eat without it being measured, weighed, and timed. They get punished if the eat something that is not on her list.
She has always said she is teaching them how to eat healthy. But what she has taught them is to sneak around, hide and hoard food.
I am not saying your situation is the same. But that is why they do it here.

That's super sad and mean.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

I think LL had a great idea about having the food in another room. Or Lily's idea about having servers pass food on trays. Either is a better idea than the advice the Abby gave since the OP specifically said she wanted to avoid confrontation to keep the townspeople happy.

We have a few food hoarders here at the school. The international kids tend to hoard food. Even though they are wealthy, food isn't typically available in such quantities where they are from (Russia, China, Korea). We have one or two who arrive at dinner when it starts, eat the whole 2 hours it's open, and take food back to their rooms (which isn't allowed). When the roommate notices (and they always do) they tell the dorm parent and the child gets sent to the schools' live in psychologist.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Our family hosts the family reunion each year.

There seems to be 3 who show up with nothing in hand, they will go through the line as everything is being put out and load up plates and then take them to their car to take home. Then they come back in and eat.

Now, I know it is pot luck and everyone helps themselves. But these are not even in the family. We ask them who they are related to and they talk forever about how they met so-n-so.

Well. We began doing things differently 2 years ago.

We started with those who were the original or oldest members of the family. Then let the youngest ones go with their parents.

By the time those 3 got to go through they didnt like it so much.

And for the last 2 years we had food left over. That had not happened for maybe ten years.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Lily that is truly bizzarro. They are family reunion crashers!!!

TrudyML · Guru

I just find it so odd.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

HM, I do too when it comes to things like this. it's is the mom's battle she is fighting and she shames them if she thinks they are not what she wants them to be. They are beginning to talk about moving in with their dad seriously. He is trying to get things in his life situated so they can.

Bonny, it is sad and mean. Here we treat them the same as my kids. We do have to sort of monitor what they are eating cause they will make them selves sick.

My niece loves pop tarts. So I keep them here. She will go through a box in a weekend.

My nephew loves little Debbies. I keep them here for them.

Of course they eat everything that is cooked. They have learned that if they want something here they can have it. They don't have to ask permission. The only thing they have to do is not eat until they get sick.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Mellow Momma wrote:
Lily that is truly bizzarro. They are family reunion crashers!!!

I guess that is what you call them.

Around here food is at every occasion. Funerals, church socials, reunions. And it is all in the paper. A person can eat rather well if they keep up with the home comings and reunions and funerals and such.

In these three people's defense, yes, they are friends of the family. They are in their 70s and 80s now and they did know some of the older siblings.

But the only time we see them is when there is food.

So we are nice and polite. Cause that is how we were raised. And we find ways to make sure everyone has enough to eat.

FNW · Guru

I think the gallery should hire a caterer that provides white glove service of the appetizers. The caterer could walk the room with the trays of food and stay away from the hoarders, or limit the pieces they grab off the tray the caterer is holding.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

They are old,I wonder if they are struggling to make ends meet? This could be their way of saving some money. Or else they have gone round the bend.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

FNW wrote:
I think the gallery should hire a caterer that provides white glove service of the appetizers. The caterer could walk the room with the trays of food and stay away from the hoarders, or limit the pieces they grab off the tray the caterer is holding.

Someone is already making that food, so it shouldn't be too difficult to get them to serve it too. If money is an issue, they could ask an art student from the local high school to volunteer to do it. Especially if the high schlol requires community service hours (as a lot do now). Kids are usually looking for ways to fulfill those hours.

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