My daughter got married recently. It was a simple affair in a rural setting, just the way she and her fiancee wanted (and planned). I thought it was lovely.
My husband’s brother told my husband that if he had known in advance what the wedding would be like, he might not have come.
Please help me understand the motivation behind my brother-in-law sharing this information. Was it a warning that family weddings be more like he expects, otherwise he won’t share in our joy?
I know I should let this go, but I can’t. Right now, I don’t want to invite him to anything ever again.
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Assuming the couple didn’t ask too much of their guests, like hiking a mile uphill through mud because they hiked that trail on their first date, it’s probably this: Some people just don’t feel important unless they’ve had the last word. Poor guy, if indeed he feels small enough to have that impulse and rude enough to act on it — though I think we can call his telling his brother, not you, a mitigating circumstance.
On the bright side, you have the perfect punishment. Keep inviting him! Ironic and polite. Deep breath, let go.
The only reason I'd want to know what the venue was like would be so I could dress appropriately. Maybe he wore a designer suit and shoes and got them dirty. Or maybe he's a snob.
This is the result of how weddings have become more of a show for the guests instead of being about two people joining in a life long bond.
And as for this guy, meh. He is expressing a thought. Rude? Yes.
Oh well. Not something I would let ruin my experience.
-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Saturday 31st of January 2015 01:49:08 PM
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There are some things that don't need to be said and some people who don't know what those things are.
It's interesting though isn't it? What purpose did this serve? What was his objective? It served no purpose and his objective appears to be hurtful. So, does letter writer want to be around people who are hurtful?
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There are some things that don't need to be said and some people who don't know what those things are.
It's interesting though isn't it? What purpose did this serve? What was his objective? It served no purpose and his objective appears to be hurtful. So, does letter writer want to be around people who are hurtful?
Who knows what their relationship was prior to the wedding?
I understand her saying that she doesn't want to invite him to any more events.
There are some things that don't need to be said and some people who don't know what those things are.
It's interesting though isn't it? What purpose did this serve? What was his objective? It served no purpose and his objective appears to be hurtful. So, does letter writer want to be around people who are hurtful?
Exactly. It's a snotty nosed bratty thing to say. Oh, you're party was soooo boring! Wah! In other words, it is the job of other people to make sure he is entertained to his satisfaction. And, what is to be served other than be self serving and hurtful. It's over. I really HATE the Wedding Whiners. People who attend other people's weddings and then beyotche about what they didn't like about it. It isn't YOUR wedding. STFU, sit there, be pleasant, have as much fun as you can and be a good person for the people who invited you. Wow. What immature "adults" we have nowadays.
