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Lady Gaga Snerd


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DEAR ABBY: I have a family friend whose son has been engaged twice, to two different women. The first engagement was broken off by him, and the second by his fiancee.

Each time, his family threw him an engagement party (which he wanted) -- and I was invited to both. Each time, as is customary, I bought a gift for the happy couple. Neither one was returned after the engagement was broken.

The first party was a pleasure to attend. The second one I found slightly awkward, but I wanted to be supportive of my friend. I brought a gift the second time because I didn't want to be impolite.

If my friend's son becomes engaged a third time and has an engagement party to which I am invited, am I obligated to bring a gift? -- POLITE PARTY GUEST

DEAR POLITE: No. I think by now you have given enough. And considering how your friend's son's luck has been after these engagement parties, I can't imagine his family inviting the same people a third time and expecting them to give him anything more than their good wishes.

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At this point, you think his family would have more sense than to try to throw another engagement party.

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Yeah, I wouldn't attend another. The gifts should have been returned. I threw an engagement party for my bff, the wedding was called off, the gifts were all returned with a nice note.

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Yep wouldn't give another gift. Done, stick a fork in it.

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You give a gift because you want them to have it. Why would you expect it back? I never understood that.

And no. No need to give a gift.



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I could see not returning the gifts after the first party, because it is likely that had already been opened and used, but then they should not have thrown another party for a second engagement. ETA: no, I would not get a third gift. I might not even go to a third party, but it would depend on my friend.



-- Edited by NAOW on Saturday 7th of February 2015 09:32:27 PM

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NAOW wrote:

I could see not returning the gifts after the first party, because it is likely that had already been opened and used, but then they should not have thrown another party for a second engagement. ETA: no, I would not get a third gift. I might not even go to a third party, but it would depend on my friend.



-- Edited by NAOW on Saturday 7th of February 2015 09:32:27 PM

 This.  First one, eh okay.  Second one, no.  Third one, definitely not.



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