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Answer by Robert Frost, engineer and instructor at NASA:
You're asking for a crafty way to dodge a question, but that really is one of the stupidest things a person can do. Audiences can see right through it. They will lose confidence in your qualification to be speaking to them, and they will lose respect for you. Don't do it.
As the presenter, you are in control of the presentation and responsible for ensuring the presentation gets completed as planned and that the audience gets what they needed. If the question is really getting outside of the objectives of the presentation, you should defer the question by saying you'll talk to the individual after the presentation so as to not take up the time of the rest of the audience because you know they don't need that answer.
But if the question is germane to the topic and of interest to the rest of the audience, the decision of what to do next comes down to whether you know the answer.
If you don't know the answer, say, “I don't know.” Immediately follow that with: “But I can find out for you.” Write down the question. At the end of the presentation, check back with the individual to ensure that the question you wrote down is what he or she wanted to know and that he or she still cares. (People often figure out by the end of the presentation that they really didn't need to know the answer to the questions they asked.)
A presenter who tries to bull**** his audience deserves to die a blistering death. Don't do it. No matter how good you think you are at BSing, the audience can tell. Be honest. Admitting you don't know something can earn you big points with your audience. They will acquire more trust in you because they will have learned you are honest with them.
This is a hard lesson for people to learn. People hate saying “I don't know.” They want to get around that in any way possible. They say things like “I'm not 100 percent sure.” No. You either know the answer or you don't. If you aren't sure, you risk providing negative training by giving them bad information that you will then have to work hard to get them to unlearn. In my old group, we used to have a foam ball we called the “BS ball.” We would throw that ball at people during their dry runs, when they began to BS.
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Very very true. I was taught a long time ago that "I don't know but I'll find out" is the one answer that never fails. I've seen it challenged a few times - "You're supposed to know! More...
In my environment, getting caught BSing can be devastating to your career. The astronauts are putting their lives and careers in our hands when we train them. They have to have 100 percent confidence that we can be trusted. Many years ago, I was teaching a crew member that was known for his sternness. He asked me a question that I didn't know the answer to, so I immediately said, “I don't know.” We continued, and he asked another question, and again I said, “I don't know.” He stood up. For a brief moment I felt panic—that he was going to walk out of the room because he thought I was a moron who didn't know my subject. To the contrary, he leaned over the table and offered his hand. He shook my hand, and he said, “Thank you. You don't know how many people are unwilling to say that to me.”
It takes a lot of work to build trust, but it can be dissolved in moments. Don't risk it.
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The Principle of Least Interest: He who cares least about a relationship, controls it.
Yeah don't BS. You say "that is a great question, hadn't thought someone would ask that. I will email you the answer when I have time to consider it and will post it on our website. Thanks"!
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Sometimes you're the windshield, and sometimes you're the bug.
Do what Obama does. Just go off on an unrelated tangent and the proceed to scold somebody or group for some imaginary problem to gin up some indignation. Then, they forget what the question was.
Do what Obama does. Just go off on an unrelated tangent and the proceed to scold somebody or group for some imaginary problem to gin up some indignation. Then, they forget what the question was.
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Sometimes you're the windshield, and sometimes you're the bug.
This is an article about giving honest answers. I posted it because it talks about something I've been doing in presentations to clinicians for years,
to groups of surgeons and anesthesiologists and other members of surgical teams, where following THIS guideline has been critical to success.
I'm annoyed that people feel compelled to use it to bash a politician, that it's more important to do THAT than to possibly learn this important lesson,
maybe teach it to our children, get something positive from the article.
Making everything about politics is, IMHO, not a reasonable use of time or attention.
Finding a way to turn something like this into a NEGATIVE is, IMHO, not a reasonable use of time or attention.
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The Principle of Least Interest: He who cares least about a relationship, controls it.
This is an article about giving honest answers. I posted it because it talks about something I've been doing in presentations to clinicians for years,
to groups of surgeons and anesthesiologists and other members of surgical teams, where following THIS guideline has been critical to success.
I'm annoyed that people feel compelled to use it to bash a politician, that it's more important to do THAT than to possibly learn this important lesson,
maybe teach it to our children, get something positive from the article.
Making everything about politics is, IMHO, not a reasonable use of time or attention.
Finding a way to turn something like this into a NEGATIVE is, IMHO, not a reasonable use of time or attention.
I'm annoyed that you focused on that particular post and not on the comment I posted.
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I was always taught to never actually say the words, "I don't know" though it is perfectly valid to no know every answer. Instead, we were trained to say basically what IKWTDS said, and "That's a great question. I will find the answer and get back to you" or some variation of that. Of course, most of my dealings with this, and all my training on it stem from the military, so it may vary from the public sector. My boss did designate me as a lead for auditors to talk to (there are 3 of us out of a group of about 45) based on my experience and seeing me handle questions out of my area of expertise. The big thing is, if you don't know, don't try to pretend you do, or try to avoid the question.
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"I have a very strict gun control policy. If there's a gun around, I want to be in control of it." - Clint Eastwood
I used to walk visits from corporate in our store. They are called "jet visits" and they are brutal. I would have flash cards with all the important numbers and facts on them and I would study for days. If I didn't know an answer, I would always say "I am not sure. That is a great question. If I don't have the answer before you leave today, I will email the group with the answer by the end of business today". They appreciated that - but if you make a commitment to get the answer, you need to actually do it. Follow up!!!
We had one guy who would give us a project to fix and say "email me when it's done". One day, he told us that a much maligned system was being upgraded, saving the users about 30 minutes a day from doing useless tasks. When he told us that, during the jet visit, I told him to email me when it was done. The whole group thpught it was hysterical! I was glad he had a sense of humor! One of our mantras was employees must be "fast, fun and friendly". So I diffused the awkwardness by telling him I put the FUN in fast, fun, and friendly. The visit went well!
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Out of all the lies I have told, "just kidding" is my favorite !
I was always taught to never actually say the words, "I don't know" though it is perfectly valid to no know every answer. Instead, we were trained to say basically what IKWTDS said, and "That's a great question. I will find the answer and get back to you" or some variation of that. Of course, most of my dealings with this, and all my training on it stem from the military, so it may vary from the public sector. My boss did designate me as a lead for auditors to talk to (there are 3 of us out of a group of about 45) based on my experience and seeing me handle questions out of my area of expertise. The big thing is, if you don't know, don't try to pretend you do, or try to avoid the question.
Yes, that is the common teaching. And, I know it depends on the situation. But, I would far rather have someone say I Don't Know, but let me research that and get back to you" and truly do that then give me the bullschit. answer. I am sooooo sick of the Bullschit answers and people telling you what they think you want to hear! I just want people to be honest. But, so many times, I call to get information and instead of someone telling me the truth, they simply BS me with what they think I want to hear.
Case in point, when DD was in Kindergarten she was sick on Picture Day. No problem you think because there are retakes right? Well, I know that person who does the Yearbook is a bit lax. So, when she missed, I called her not ONCE but twice. I said, I really want to make sure that DD is in the elementary yearbook. She assured me 6 ways to Sunday that she would be after the retake. I followed up with another call after the retake. I didn't want to buy a yearbook if she wasn't going to be in it. Oh, yeah, "I will take care of it blah, blah". My BS' O meter was like "hmm". But, of course, Last day of school, yearbooks handed out and NO picture of DD. She came home in tears. You know , just tell me the freaking truth! It it is NO, then tell me no she won't be in it. Geez.