I tell my kids all the time that everything doesn't have to be for public consumption.
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Curt Schilling proved just how effective standing up to bullies can be.
The former Major League Baseball pitcher, 48, took it upon himself to respond to and publicize vulgar, sexually explicit Tweets about his teenage daughter Gabby, who recently committed to the Salve Regina softball team.
What started innocently as a congratulatory Tweet from a father to his 17-year-old daughter for her recent college acceptance quickly spiraled into a slew of offensive responses from other Twitter users.
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Schilling posted screenshots of some of the Tweets about his daughter – some involved derogatory terms or even mentioned rape – to his personal blog, 38 Pitches. The athlete, who has a reputation for being outspoken, also authored a lengthy blog post detailing the incident and criticizing the "gutless clowns."
"This is a generation of kids who have grown up behind the monitor and keyboard. The real world has consequences when you do and say things about others. We're at a point now where you better be sure who you're going after," Schilling said in the post.
And he didn't stop there: "If I was a deranged protective dad I could have been face to face with any of these people in less than [four] hours. I know every one of their names, their parents, where they go to school, what they do, what team they are on, their positions, stats, all of it," he wrote.
The threat was far from empty. Schilling proceeded to track down the names of some of the worst offenders and alerted employers and universities of their actions.
At least two online harassers have already faced the consequences. A student at Brookdale Community College has been suspended due to his comments, the university confirmed in a post on its Facebook page.
"Our sincerest apologies to Gabby Schilling. Her achievement should be celebrated and not clouded by offensive comments," the statement read.
Another commenter, who was employed by the New York Yankees as a part-time ticket seller, was fired from his position, according to USA Today.
Although he did not anticipate the social media storm that hit over the incident, Schilling apologized to his daughter for any embarrassment she may be feeling.
"I don't know where it started because it sure as hell didn't happen much when we were growing up. Like any dad reading this the only thing I need you to leave this home with when you head to college is the knowledge that I love you more than life itself and there is NOTHING I would not do to protect you," he wrote in his online essay.
But the young softball star was more than appreciative of her dad's protectiveness, Tweeting in response, "@gehrig38 don't know what I would do without you, I love you so much!!"
"Nobody should be able to get away with saying things like that to a father about their daughter," Gabby said on Good Morning America.
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Nope. It's never ok for people to talk like that. I also don't like when people put everything on the internet, but that is my opinion. What about 'if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all?" I think that still applies post-internet. If someone chooses to share something, it in no way justifies that type of 'blow back.' And I also don't think a 'congratulations' for a major life event is out of the norm or sharing too much.
Nope. It's never ok for people to talk like that. I also don't like when people put everything on the internet, but that is my opinion. What about 'if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all?" I think that still applies post-internet. If someone chooses to share something, it in no way justifies that type of 'blow back.' And I also don't think a 'congratulations' for a major life event is out of the norm or sharing too much.
I agree. Just because he said congrats to his daughter, doesn't mean it's ok for people to tweet that they want to rape her. Nope. Never ok. Ever.
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Nope. It's never ok for people to talk like that. I also don't like when people put everything on the internet, but that is my opinion. What about 'if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all?" I think that still applies post-internet. If someone chooses to share something, it in no way justifies that type of 'blow back.' And I also don't think a 'congratulations' for a major life event is out of the norm or sharing too much.
I agree. Just because he said congrats to his daughter, doesn't mean it's ok for people to tweet that they want to rape her. Nope. Never ok. Ever.
No one said it was okay.
But there are crazy, evil people, in the world.
If you don't want to have to deal with the crazy people, don't post every last detail of your life on FB, or Twitter.
You will get unkind remarks. No matter how unjustified they are.
Nope. It's never ok for people to talk like that. I also don't like when people put everything on the internet, but that is my opinion. What about 'if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all?" I think that still applies post-internet. If someone chooses to share something, it in no way justifies that type of 'blow back.' And I also don't think a 'congratulations' for a major life event is out of the norm or sharing too much.
I agree. Just because he said congrats to his daughter, doesn't mean it's ok for people to tweet that they want to rape her. Nope. Never ok. Ever.
No one said it was okay.
But there are crazy, evil people, in the world.
If you don't want to have to deal with the crazy people, don't post every last detail of your life on FB, or Twitter.
You will get unkind remarks. No matter how unjustified they are.
Sad, but true.
Unfortunately, I agree. It's never okay for people to act like that. Or make those comments. But don't post your whole life online. It just invites this.
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But that's the issue isn't it. It shouldn't invite this behavior. If he had posted a suggestive pic of his daughter, or said something about her sex life (ick) then I could see how it would invite this behavior - it wouldn't be justified, but he opened the door. How is congratulating her on an athletic accomplishment opening the door for this behavior? It doesnt. Just because he posted something about his kid, doesn't mean people should say whatever disgusting thought that comes to mind. He didn't open that door. He didn't even walk down that hallway.
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Posting a congratulatory note is no way comparable to posting your whole life on line.
Exactly. I don't understand the "well if they don't want to get this kind of response, then don't put your whole life out there to see". WTH is wrong with posting something positive and getting congratulations for it? I don't think she or her father put anything personal or anything that should have garnered this reaction.
Why don't people, especially famous people, keep their pages locked down on private?
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Why don't people, especially famous people, keep their pages locked down on private?
Why do people, put any of this, out there for the world to see????
I'm old.
There was no internet, when I was a kid, a teenager, a young adult.
Yay!
If you folks can't see how scary this is.
And, wouldn't talk to your children about this? Once you knew?
Gosh, I don't even know what to say.
I don't think its any different than what we post on message boards :) I know I share far more here than I do on Facebook.
That's true NAOW. But this is a gated community so to speak. Twitter and FB aren't really. There's no one to watch the peeps. Here we have way more protection than on FB OR Twitter. Could someone be really nasty and hateful here? Sure. But I'm pretty sure LL would do whatever it took to track them down and make sure they were miserable. Of course, whenever and wherever you post online you risk someone tracking you down. But the more public you make your posts and your life the more you put out there for people to comment on.
Don't get me wrong. I think the people who made the comments were disgusting. They deserved everything they got. It's horrible and they should never have done it. It's unacceptable. But it's also the internet and like he said himself people hide behind the anonymity of the internet.
You know, I see people posting stuff on public pages like "The whole family is meeting at so and so's pizza place for dinner tonight." Well, let's just make it public notice that your house is going to be left alone for two hours. Insurance companies will actually tell you NOT to post stuff like this. Sometimes people don't think.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
Why don't people, especially famous people, keep their pages locked down on private?
Why do people, put any of this, out there for the world to see????
I'm old.
There was no internet, when I was a kid, a teenager, a young adult.
Yay!
If you folks can't see how scary this is.
And, wouldn't talk to your children about this? Once you knew?
Gosh, I don't even know what to say.
I don't think its any different than what we post on message boards :) I know I share far more here than I do on Facebook.
That's true NAOW. But this is a gated community so to speak. Twitter and FB aren't really. There's no one to watch the peeps. Here we have way more protection than on FB OR Twitter. Could someone be really nasty and hateful here? Sure. But I'm pretty sure LL would do whatever it took to track them down and make sure they were miserable. Of course, whenever and wherever you post online you risk someone tracking you down. But the more public you make your posts and your life the more you put out there for people to comment on.
Don't get me wrong. I think the people who made the comments were disgusting. They deserved everything they got. It's horrible and they should never have done it. It's unacceptable. But it's also the internet and like he said himself people hide behind the anonymity of the internet.
You know, I see people posting stuff on public pages like "The whole family is meeting at so and so's pizza place for dinner tonight." Well, let's just make it public notice that your house is going to be left alone for two hours. Insurance companies will actually tell you NOT to post stuff like this. Sometimes people don't think.
. Can you expand on this please? Tracking and making someone miserable for subjective posting?
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That's true NAOW. But this is a gated community so to speak. Twitter and FB aren't really. There's no one to watch the peeps. Here we have way more protection than on FB OR Twitter. Could someone be really nasty and hateful here? Sure. But I'm pretty sure LL would do whatever it took to track them down and make sure they were miserable. Of course, whenever and wherever you post online you risk someone tracking you down. But the more public you make your posts and your life the more you put out there for people to comment on.
Don't get me wrong. I think the people who made the comments were disgusting. They deserved everything they got. It's horrible and they should never have done it. It's unacceptable. But it's also the internet and like he said himself people hide behind the anonymity of the internet.
You know, I see people posting stuff on public pages like "The whole family is meeting at so and so's pizza place for dinner tonight." Well, let's just make it public notice that your house is going to be left alone for two hours. Insurance companies will actually tell you NOT to post stuff like this. Sometimes people don't think.
. Can you expand on this please? Tracking and making someone miserable for subjective posting?
To be exact. I don't think LL would allow hate messages here. If someone came in and threatened to rape a woman here I am quite sure that LL would have them reported and off the board in a heart beat. If anyone came in here and made threats or the kind of thing that happened with his daughter I'm pretty sure LL would step in. I'm not talking making someone miserable for their opinion. I'm talking real threats.
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Posting a congratulatory note is no way comparable to posting your whole life on line.
Exactly. I don't understand the "well if they don't want to get this kind of response, then don't put your whole life out there to see". WTH is wrong with posting something positive and getting congratulations for it? I don't think she or her father put anything personal or anything that should have garnered this reaction.
I totally agree.
The ONLY ones who did anything wrong were the sickos who posted disgusting crap.
Posting a congratulatory note is no way comparable to posting your whole life on line.
Exactly. I don't understand the "well if they don't want to get this kind of response, then don't put your whole life out there to see". WTH is wrong with posting something positive and getting congratulations for it? I don't think she or her father put anything personal or anything that should have garnered this reaction.
I totally agree.
The ONLY ones who did anything wrong were the sickos who posted disgusting crap.
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I agree. And I'm really glad they got outed. It's important for all cyber-jerks to see that they can be exposed. I hope this acts as a deterrent for some. The possibility of losing your job is a good deterrent!
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Posting a congratulatory note is no way comparable to posting your whole life on line.
Exactly. I don't understand the "well if they don't want to get this kind of response, then don't put your whole life out there to see". WTH is wrong with posting something positive and getting congratulations for it? I don't think she or her father put anything personal or anything that should have garnered this reaction.
I totally agree.
The ONLY ones who did anything wrong were the sickos who posted disgusting crap.
flan
I agree. And I'm really glad they got outed. It's important for all cyber-jerks to see that they can be exposed. I hope this acts as a deterrent for some. The possibility of losing your job is a good deterrent!
People need to stand up to bullies. Imho, most bullies are cowards.
Posting a congratulatory note is no way comparable to posting your whole life on line.
Exactly. I don't understand the "well if they don't want to get this kind of response, then don't put your whole life out there to see". WTH is wrong with posting something positive and getting congratulations for it? I don't think she or her father put anything personal or anything that should have garnered this reaction.
I totally agree.
The ONLY ones who did anything wrong were the sickos who posted disgusting crap.
flan
I agree. And I'm really glad they got outed. It's important for all cyber-jerks to see that they can be exposed. I hope this acts as a deterrent for some. The possibility of losing your job is a good deterrent!
People need to stand up to bullies. Imho, most bullies are cowards.
flan
Yes. These cowards thought they were hidden behind the supposed anonymity of the internet. WRONG!
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