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Haircut Advice

Bonny22Pye · Guru

Watch a you tube video and do it yourself. I cut Ps hair. It's easier then you think!

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Man, I don't want to butcher the kids hair!

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Don't cut his hair if you can't afford it. You may have the cash now but in another few weeks you may not. That $10 or so will buy mill, bread, burgers when you need it.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Don't cut his hair if you can't afford it. You may have the cash now but in another few weeks you may not. That $10 or so will buy mill, bread, burgers when you need it.

I keep telling DH this. I guess I just don't want to feel selfish. His mom needs to step up. We take him to the dentist, eye doctor, and regular doctor and foot all the bills even though they are supposed to be 50/50. She knows DH is laid off. I think it's time his mom is responsible for some stuff.

ed11563 · Guru

Bonny22Pye wrote:
Watch a you tube video and do it yourself. I cut Ps hair. It's easier then you think!

I agree with this. If you can cut your OWN hair, you can cut the guys' hair (both of them), which will be a lot easier, since you will be able to see what you're doing.

Just plan on leaving it 1/2 inch longer all over the first time.

And any boo boos you make will grow out.

Bonny22Pye · Guru

Just buzz it. I have to do a haircut today. I'll post before and after

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Just get an electric razor and shave it all off. Leave the kid a mohawk. He'll think your haircuts are the coolest thing ever. Leave Dad a mohawk too . . . just for kicks!

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

I have trimmers, in the house.

I cut Wayne's hair. And Paul's hair.

Depending on when they ask. wink

If, the kitchen floor, just got washed...hell no! Go to the barber!

(Are you nuts? I just washed the freaking floor!)

If the floor is already a mess, well, sure. Have at it! I'll help! wink

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Don't cut his hair if you can't afford it. You may have the cash now but in another few weeks you may not. That $10 or so will buy mill, bread, burgers when you need it.
I keep telling DH this. I guess I just don't want to feel selfish. His mom needs to step up. We take him to the dentist, eye doctor, and regular doctor and foot all the bills even though they are supposed to be 50/50. She knows DH is laid off. I think it's time his mom is responsible for some stuff.

Let me start by saying I am a terrible person. I would not get it cut out of spite. His mom needs to step up and pay her share or else give you guys custody and pay YOU support.

But that isn't what's best for SS - unless he wants to grow it long (lots of boys here have longer hair, even in the summer). If he wants it cut, then tell his mom to get it cut. Email her, remind her you are out of work and paying 100% of the medical even though she should be paying her half and ask her to take him to get it cut. Give her a timeframe to get it done. If she doesn't get it done, document it. You never know when it could be useful. Then cut it yourself. I wouldnt spend the money right now.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Don't cut it. DH needs to mention it to his mother.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

It's his son. He can take his son for a haircut. And he can get him an inexpensive haircut. Maybe your DH feels like that is a day out with him. I don't think it is worth fighting over. Let DH decide that either way.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
It's his son. He can take his son for a haircut. And he can get him an inexpensive haircut. Maybe your DH feels like that is a day out with him. I don't think it is worth fighting over. Let DH decide that either way.

I never said he COULDN'T get his son a haircut. DH asked for my advice. And we would all be going. If we don't get it done there will be no fighting from anyone. It just won't get done.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

He has spent the whole weekend fishing with the kids. Today he took just SS. They had a whole day together.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Ok. Just trying to consider various points.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Well I hope things get ironed out in CS court. Was the CS set when SS's mom was in school and not working? Her financial status has probably changed as well. Even if DH wasn't unemployed you guys probably needed to go back anyways.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Southern_Belle wrote:
Well I hope things get ironed out in CS court. Was the CS set when SS's mom was in school and not working? Her financial status has probably changed as well. Even if DH wasn't unemployed you guys probably needed to go back anyways.

Yes, when I met him he was paying $5k a month in child support and alimony. The alimony stopped the day they divorced. Of course, this was all set on his salary from the year before when he made three times what he was making at the job he is currently laid off from. She didn't work. An adjustment has been a long time coming. The courts are super slow though.

Oh, and at that time she claimed she couldn't pay all the bills and he was giving her extra money. That stopped when we met. I think that was part of the reason she hated me.

Bonny22Pye · Guru

All done!

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Good job Bonny. SO sweet of DH to let you show the before and after.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

DH is NOT a dead beat dad. He has always gone above and beyond for his son. I have always supported him one hundred percent in that and even helped out by taking SS to doctors and dentists and voluntarily getting his hair cut. I don't mind. The only time I ever put my foot down was when his ex wanted SS to go to private school and us to pay for it. She wanted us to pay one hundred percent of it. We couldn't afford it. It just wasn't doable. He finally told her that. I have no problem spending money on SS WHEN WE HAVE IT. But we don't have a lot to spend right now and his mom could, and should, be doing this anyway.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

You did a good job Bonny!

FNW · Guru

My mother has electric hair sheers and did the boys' hair for two years.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I will look into seeing if I can do it. But if I don't think I can I won't mess it up. That will make his mom more mad than leaving it long. I would buzz it but she would get pissed.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Google your local cosmetology school. All of you can get a hair cut for about $15. If that much. Not kidding. And the students cutting the hair have had hours of training and are under the supervision of licensed hair dressers and they go over each cut before you leave to make sure it is right.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Supercuts here is $15. But times three that's a good amount of money. And that's without a tip.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Great clips, walmart, beauty school.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Cheapest place is $15. Doesn't sound like a lot but if you double or triple it and add a tip... It adds up to groceries for a week.

ed11563 · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Cheapest place is $15. Doesn't sound like a lot but if you double or triple it and add a tip... It adds up to groceries for a week.

Before I found my local $9 haircut place (plus tip), the local barbers were charging $15 to $25. So I cut my own hair for years. Sometimes Spouse would trim it afterward.

It is a LOT easier to cut someone else's hair than your own. And the price is right.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Not those places. The school where they learn how to cut hair.

Men's cuts can be less than $5. On some days.

FNW · Guru

When I was growing up our neighbor went to cosmetology school, so my mom took me there to get my hair cut. It was cheap, as I recall.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

A buzz cut is something you can do at home and is a great idea. I used to have DS's hair buzzed cut this time of year.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Don't cut his hair if you can't afford it. You may have the cash now but in another few weeks you may not. That $10 or so will buy mill, bread, burgers when you need it.
I keep telling DH this. I guess I just don't want to feel selfish. His mom needs to step up. We take him to the dentist, eye doctor, and regular doctor and foot all the bills even though they are supposed to be 50/50. She knows DH is laid off. I think it's time his mom is responsible for some stuff.

You are going to have to tell her. She's used to the old way - you are going to have to tell her you can't afford to do it anymore, she's got all your money.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
A buzz cut is something you can do at home and is a great idea. I used to have DS's hair buzzed cut this time of year.

I did this too when the boys were younger. Bought a clipper for $20 at Walmart and did it myself. They come with Garda and it's really hard to screw it up.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

On the way home from dropping SS off I talked to DH about it. I reminded him I still had the clippers from when my boys were little and I did their buzz cuts. He said he would ask her if I could cut SS's hair.

Vette · Owl drink to that!

I feel you NJN. I can't stand bf's ex, mostly because she receives child support but doesn't use it for anything useful. We buy his school supplies every year, get all his haircuts, she will text and ask if we can buy him new shoes, etc. She doesn't even make her share of the daycare payment sometimes, and she makes more than I do.

It really pisses me off, but what can I say? I can't fault bf for taking care of his kid when his ex won't.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I hear you. And I don't fault DH either. Just with him being laid off it's not like we have tons of money to be throwing around. SS has a school project due this coming weekend. He needs some poster board and some other minor stuff and we promised to go to the Dollar Store and get it. But honestly, at what point is enough enough? We have to actually eat too.