this would probably be the worst thing she could do....Hi DD, we love you for all you are. We know there are no bras tiny enuf for your non existent breasts....Remember we love you, but would you like major surgery to change your looks to make you conform to Mom's ideal?

There would not be enough therapy for this kid.

How do you keep this secret from your daughter all this time? Moms and daughters talk about these things! As a mom I talked about my first period, my boobs, body hair, all that stuff all the time! The girls knew they could come to me anytime and talk about these things because we talked about it! It wasn't an After School Special, it just comes up in conversation!

I think this mom needs some therapy. Why is she so ashamed of her implants and why is she so worried about her daughter's breast size?!

I don't think it would traumatize her, she's not a kid anymore and I'm sure she's thought about it on her own by now. I think it's sweet of her mom to be willing to do that for her.

I've known girls who had small / flat breasts who were embarrassed because they were so small, and girls who were embarrassed because they were so big.

The small ones didn't complain about back pain.

But every woman is either happy or unhappy.

There are boys who care about big breasts, and insult women / girls with small breasts. Those boys (whatever their ages might be) are fools.

And, IMHO, the women who get big implants so they can get a man, may not be happy with the boys they attract.

Mom is projecting. Leave the girl alone.

Large breasts are overrated. The societal obsession with them throws women's self-image all out of whack.

Smaller breasts are much easier in lots of ways - garments hang much nicer, no back problems.

I'd love to get rid of about half the weight of my breasts.

 

Meh, fads come and go. In the last few years, big boobs were "in", and girls/women everywhere were getting them enlarged. Fortunately for me, I grew up after "Twiggy" was all the rage so being small chested worked in my favor. Not to mention the benefit of going without a bra back in the day without even being noticeable-there's something to be said for that. That, and according to the men I dated, I had an ass to die for, meant that I had no problem "getting" any man I desired. It might seem that this pendulum is once again swinging, and being "all about the bass" seems to be back in fashion.

Mom needs to stop projecting her insecurities onto her daughter. She might be perfectly happy with her petite but fabulous breasts, unlike her self-conscious mother. Now, if the daughter came to her crying over her size, then she might offer to give her a saline-filled graduation present. But otherwise, a nice piece of jewelry would do.

-- Edited by FNW on Friday 27th of March 2015 09:28:50 AM

I mean, you can think of it like any fashion accessory. Today, I wear the padded bra because I am wearing a tight fitting shirt and going out with the girls. No different than wearing high heels or doing your hair a different way or whatever.

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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And, it isn't either/or. There are padded bras or gel inserts or whatever. If she wants to pump them up for fun, she can. She can add a bit of volume to suit herself that way. We Americans are "all or nothing" type thinkers.

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 That's a good solution. Much easier and safer than augmentation. And reversible!

Here is the thing. Small stays put, large sags.

I am ample. I have never understood sleep bras.

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I have to say, I really hate when large breasted women tell me "you can have some of mine". I'm sure they don't mean anything negative but I've always taken it as a slight against my small boobs, like way rub it in my face that yours are so much bigger!

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When I've heard women say that, they've been pretty clear that they mean , "take some of mine, PLEASE !!!"

Two women I've know have had breast reductions, and are thrilled because (1) their back pain stopped, (2) it's much easier to find clothes that fit, (3) their back pain stopped, and (4) their back pain stopped.

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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And, it isn't either/or. There are padded bras or gel inserts or whatever. If she wants to pump them up for fun, she can. She can add a bit of volume to suit herself that way. We Americans are "all or nothing" type thinkers.

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 That's a good solution. Much easier and safer than augmentation. And reversible!

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Well, you see young Kendall Jenner doing the modeling circuit now.  I wonder at what point she is going to succumb like big sis Kim? 

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Let's hope not. She could start a small boobs trend.

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 She's gorgeous JUST THE WAY SHE IS!!!

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VetteGirl wrote:

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I have to say, I really hate when large breasted women tell me "you can have some of mine". I'm sure they don't mean anything negative but I've always taken it as a slight against my small boobs, like way rub it in my face that yours are so much bigger!

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 The only time I've ever heard women say that, or when I've said it myself, is when people are already complaining about their small boobs.  And it's not rubbing it in your face, it's to tell you that the grass really isn't greener.