Q. Cult Recruiting Our Daughter: Some cultists came to our door, and unfortunately our teenage daughter answered. They talked to her, and now they keep coming back. I try to head them off, but sometimes she answers first, and talks to them. They gave her a book, which I have seen her reading. I’m very worried that she might decide to join their cult. How can I stop this?
A: First, stop freaking out. Reading some insane cult literature is not tantamount to packing her bags and taking off. You talk to your daughter about this—calmly and factually. Explain what cults are, and how they target young people, because teenagers by definition are chafing at their normal life. Say she’s certainly entitled to read their literature, but you ask that she look at some articles about what happens to people in the cult. Then you keep your eye on things, but also let it go. If you’re home when these jerks come, tell them to buzz off and that you’ll call the police if they don’t—and maybe your neighborhood has rules about door-to-door solicitation. Remember: The harder you press your daughter, the more attractive the cult becomes.
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Q. Re: About That Cult: I have a feeling the letter writer in the cult case is a Christian and the “cult” she is referring to are Mormons. This may just be a case of someone not being open-minded to other denominations of Christianity.
A: Interesting, thanks. However, the daughter is a minor and I can understand anyone not wanting their minor child to be evangelized. Whatever the organization, the mother needs to stay cool and keep the communication open.
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Answer that door naked holdin a shot gun and they won't ever come back.
Seriously, a sign saying no solicitation and telling them if they ever come back again you will call the police.
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Q. Re: About That Cult: I have a feeling the letter writer in the cult case is a Christian and the “cult” she is referring to are Mormons. This may just be a case of someone not being open-minded to other denominations of Christianity.
A: Interesting, thanks. However, the daughter is a minor and I can understand anyone not wanting their minor child to be evangelized. Whatever the organization, the mother needs to stay cool and keep the communication open.
Why does someone have to be " open minded" to unwanted solicitation at their own home ?
It's the naked one ain't it? Yup. It has to be the naked one! Hehe...
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Q. Re: About That Cult: I have a feeling the letter writer in the cult case is a Christian and the “cult” she is referring to are Mormons. This may just be a case of someone not being open-minded to other denominations of Christianity.
A: Interesting, thanks. However, the daughter is a minor and I can understand anyone not wanting their minor child to be evangelized. Whatever the organization, the mother needs to stay cool and keep the communication open.
Why does someone have to be " open minded" to unwanted solicitation at their own home ?
Way to be contrary, LGS.
I think Ed was pointing out that this child is going to start questioning her parents religion - a very natural thing for a young teenager to do. She is going to have questions and her parents need to be keep communication open with her daughter so that they can guide her down the path that they feel is appropriate.
I would put up the sign and if the person(s) came back I would cal the police. I do like the advice on talking to the daughter to answer any questions she may have.
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Q. Re: About That Cult: I have a feeling the letter writer in the cult case is a Christian and the “cult” she is referring to are Mormons. This may just be a case of someone not being open-minded to other denominations of Christianity.
A: Interesting, thanks. However, the daughter is a minor and I can understand anyone not wanting their minor child to be evangelized. Whatever the organization, the mother needs to stay cool and keep the communication open.
Why does someone have to be " open minded" to unwanted solicitation at their own home ?
Way to be contrary, LGS.
I think Ed was pointing out that this child is going to start questioning her parents religion - a very natural thing for a young teenager to do. She is going to have questions and her parents need to be keep communication open with her daughter so that they can guide her down the path that they feel is appropriate.
So, I am not allowed to question her advice? Only what you concur with is "open"? Oh, ok. Mirror, mirror!
I would put up the sign and if the person(s) came back I would cal the police. I do like the advice on talking to the daughter to answer any questions she may have.
But you know the naked route could be way more entertaining.
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I think it's beyond funny that someone called for "open-minded ness" about other denominations in regard to Mormonism. Mormons certainly don't want their kids checking out other faiths.
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Well, I could agree with you--but then we'd both be wrong.
I think it's beyond funny that someone called for "open-minded ness" about other denominations in regard to Mormonism. Mormons certainly don't want their kids checking out other faiths.
Not necessarily true, there are some of us who have no problem with our children making these very important decisions for themselves. In fact, my daughter wasn't baptized until she was 14 because my DH and I wanted to make sure she did it for herself. I have one DD that is Baptist, one is struggling with faith of any kind, one is Mormon, and one is too young to decide right now. I agree that the parents need to keep communication open or they may push her to make a decision she isn't ready for. That being said, if it is the Mormon missionaries they should not be talking to a young woman in her home without a family member present.
Q. Re: About That Cult: I have a feeling the letter writer in the cult case is a Christian and the “cult” she is referring to are Mormons. This may just be a case of someone not being open-minded to other denominations of Christianity.
A: Interesting, thanks. However, the daughter is a minor and I can understand anyone not wanting their minor child to be evangelized. Whatever the organization, the mother needs to stay cool and keep the communication open.
Why does someone have to be " open minded" to unwanted solicitation at their own home ?
Way to be contrary, LGS.
I think Ed was pointing out that this child is going to start questioning her parents religion - a very natural thing for a young teenager to do. She is going to have questions and her parents need to be keep communication open with her daughter so that they can guide her down the path that they feel is appropriate.
So, I am not allowed to question her advice? Only what you concur with is "open"? Oh, ok. Mirror, mirror!
Younger DS (age 16) liked to "play" with the Mormon missionaries, pretending interest, especially when it was two young ladies he met. He stepped in it big time when he indicated he'd attend a Sunday service, not knowing that the two young ladies would show up to escort him. I made him get out of bed and go, just to teach him a lesson. Funny, he never did THAT again.
Younger DS (age 16) liked to "play" with the Mormon missionaries, pretending interest, especially when it was two young ladies he met. He stepped in it big time when he indicated he'd attend a Sunday service, not knowing that the two young ladies would show up to escort him. I made him get out of bed and go, just to teach him a lesson. Funny, he never did THAT again.
I told my kids that of course I wanted them to be Lutheran--but if they could find a Biblical basis on which to challenge Lutheran doctrine that I would listen. They couldn't find any.
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Well, I could agree with you--but then we'd both be wrong.
Well, I don't want anyone stalking my teen daughter. So, if they make a pest of themselves, then they are gonna be treated like a pest.
-- Edited by I know what to do_sometimes on Tuesday 31st of March 2015 04:44:40 PM
Or be met naked at the door with a shotgun. Either way, win win!
Just so you know, the pizza guy loves it too!
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