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DEAR ABBY: For the past few years, my mother, with whom I spend my birthday every year, has gotten into the habit of buying my birthday presents the day of. She waits until my birthday day, then buys them in a rush all at one store or suggests we go shopping together. She's not stingy on price. In fact, she tends to spend more than I think she should.

What bothers me is she makes no effort to prepare a gift in advance and just asks me then and there what I want. She also often buys me a number of things I didn't ask for.

The last thing I want to do on my birthday is go shopping. It has made me increasingly less excited about my birthday each year. How do I explain to her without sounding ungrateful that I'd rather receive one thoughtful present than a lot of expensive ones? -- DOWN ON BIRTHDAYS IN HOUSTON

DEAR DOWN ON BIRTHDAYS: Excuse me, but you do sound ungrateful. Your mother may not be as emotionally invested in birthday celebrations as you are. Or, she may do this because she wants to ensure that you have gifts for your birthday you can actually use.

Rather than criticize her generosity, why not mention in the weeks before your birthday what you might like to have? If you do, it might save her some money and you some frustration.

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/2015/3/27/the-time-has-come-to-end

 



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Momma is getting tired of the whole shopping thing. Be grateful you still have your mom for your birthday and grow up.


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Or maybe ask if she wants to go shopping on a different day?

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Grow the fvck up. You are a grown woman. A "Happy Birthday" is all you should expect.

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I'm like this. I think about the bday way ahead of time, but I just don't always have the time to shop. I live by the seat of my pants. both DS and DD love it, They love when I take them shopping and they can pick out exactly what they want with no "my rathers" involved. This woman is not thinking about her Mother, only about how SHE wants to receive a gift.

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Perhaps the mom would rather spend time with her child than simply buying a gift ahead of time.

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We all pretty much have enough "things", and have no where to put any more.

Celebrations consist of greeting cards (often home made), a cake (Carvel ice cream cake here), and together time.



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The kid can put me in touch with her mom. I'll have the gifts.

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chef wrote:

Perhaps the mom would rather spend time with her child than simply buying a gift ahead of time.

 This is what I think.  Mom wants to be with her daughter, not just buy her gifts.



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Honeys_Mom wrote:
chef wrote:

Perhaps the mom would rather spend time with her child than simply buying a gift ahead of time.

 This is what I think.  Mom wants to be with her daughter, not just buy her gifts.

So have a talk with mom.

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