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Son Regrets Dad Didn't Live to See His Success

May 17, 2015 - Letter 3 of 3

 

DEAR ABBY: For many years I have been depressed about my father's opinion of me. Dad died 30 years ago thinking I was a screwup who would never amount to anything, and at the time it was true.

Since his death I have turned my life around. I have been married for 38 years, raised a fine son and I am successful in my career.

Still, I can't get past his feeling of disappointment in me at the time of his death. It haunts me daily that I was a loser while he was alive. Any advice to stop feeling guilty? -- REGRETFUL SON

DEAR SON: Not everyone matures at the same rate, and you may have been a late bloomer. Try telling yourself that you are sorry for whatever your sin of omission was, and then give yourself a dose of forgiveness.

If that doesn't do the trick, then instead of torturing yourself, discuss this with a licensed mental health professional. Remember, no one can change the past. We can, however, change the present, and by doing so, positively affect our future.

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/2015/5/17/boys-questions-about-faith-call-for

 



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Aw that's really sad I feel bad for him

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I think dad knows. And it's nice he has honored his memory by doing well.

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It haunts me daily that I was a loser while he was alive.
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was not a loser by any stretch but was not involved in what my father considered an " acceptable " profession--meaning acceptable by his standards, not my own--think of him every day and remember many of our conversations in detail--he was kind enough and patient enough to let me try several avenues ( even the dangerous ones ) to see if I could find my way--to do several things that are hallmarks of manhood and survive--through all of that, he never criticized but always analyzed and encouraged--always helpful, always supportive--my respect for him was ( and still is ) enormous--he ( along with a couple of other relatives ) set the example for me of what a true southern man is ( and especially what it means to be Texan )--can never repay him for all that he ( and my mother ) did for me--ever--but I CAN live to honor them and their memory--and believe they can see and that they know

be at peace with it and always be thankful


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Holy sh!t. Get over it.

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