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. Makeup for My Little Nieces: I’m a college student home for the summer who took her nieces, ages 5 and 9, out for a day. While I was reapplying my red lipstick, the two girls begged me to let them wear it too because they wanted to look like me. I agreed. Later that day we took a picture, which I posted on Facebook. Their mother, my aunt, went ballistic, saying, among other things, that I was sexualizing them and a bad role model for wearing lipstick myself. She now doesn’t want me near my nieces and isn’t talking to my mom (her sister), who took my side on the issue. I’m really upset over this situation because I love spending time with my nieces and believe my aunt is teaching them toxic “lessons” about female sexuality. My question is twofold—first, was I wrong to let them wear lipstick, and second, what should I do now to reconcile this situation?

A: How sad that your aunt turned a fun day for her girls—topped by an application of fire engine red—into a bizarre and ugly gender war. Humans have been decorating themselves since we emerged as humans—prehistoric sites are filled with ochre used for body decorations, and little girls have always loved to play dress-up. Sadly, there’s no winning here. Your aunt is wrong, but she’s the mother of these girls. (She really believes a college student is either a hussy or betraying her sex by wearing makeup?) If you want to keep seeing your nieces, be the big one and apologize to your aunt. Say you were out of line to put lipstick on the kids, you understand why she was upset, and it won’t happen again. If she wants to hold this crazy grudge, then my heart goes out to her daughters, who have a lot of unpleasant years with a punitive mother ahead.



-- Edited by Lady Gaga Snerd on Sunday 21st of June 2015 08:23:30 PM

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Ok, first, if their mother is your aunt, then those girls were not your nieces...they were your cousins. Get it right.

Second, their mother, your aunt, is an idiot.

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Mellow Momma wrote:

Ok, first, if their mother is your aunt, then those girls were not your nieces...they were your cousins. Get it right.

Second, their mother, your aunt, is an idiot.

Yeah!  Cousins!  lol  Sheesh!  smile 



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Cousins horsing around and putting on makeup. Not a problem.

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Stupid way people are brainwashed today thinking that simple pleasures are harmful.

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People need to stop FREAKING out over their kids for gosh sakes. So what if grandma stuffed them full of Easter candy? So what if grandpa let them ride around on the patio without their bike helmets? So what if they stayed over night at Aunt Sue's and she let them watch a scary movie that you don't approve of. Geez .

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That's half the fun of being with family instead of mom and dad. You get to do stuff mom and dad wouldn't let you!

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

People need to stop FREAKING out over their kids for gosh sakes. So what if grandma stuffed them full of Easter candy? So what if grandpa let them ride around on the patio without their bike helmets? So what if they stayed over night at Aunt Sue's and she let them watch a scary movie that you don't approve of. Geez .

 As long as it doesn't have negative effects I'm fine with that.  If the child has nightmares from movies then I see that.  If they have a food allergy and throw up then that's a valid concern.  Otherwise I say have fun.



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I agree. Mom flipped over nothing.

HOWEVER

Mom is mom. If she says no. Then that's a no. Doesn't matter if you agree with it or not.

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I agree. Mom flipped over nothing.

HOWEVER

Mom is mom. If she says no. Then that's a no. Doesn't matter if you agree with it or not.

 Nope.  If you trust your child to me, then I am going to treat them as I would my own children.  They can watch the same TV shows (adjusted for age), have the same meals and snacks, engage in the same activities, and go to bed at the same time while they are in my care.  I'm not dicking around with 10 sets of rules just to have a sleepover.  Don't like it?  I don't really give a rats ass.  I also would not expect you to vary your routines or rules if my kids are at your house.



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Suuuurrrreeee......

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I agree. Mom flipped over nothing.

HOWEVER

Mom is mom. If she says no. Then that's a no. Doesn't matter if you agree with it or not.

 Problem is, mom didn't say no - there doesn't seem to be a "no lipstick on my kids" rule that she was warned about.



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lilyofcourse wrote:

I agree. Mom flipped over nothing.

HOWEVER

Mom is mom. If she says no. Then that's a no. Doesn't matter if you agree with it or not.

 Nope.  If you trust your child to me, then I am going to treat them as I would my own children.  They can watch the same TV shows (adjusted for age), have the same meals and snacks, engage in the same activities, and go to bed at the same time while they are in my care.  I'm not dicking around with 10 sets of rules just to have a sleepover.  Don't like it?  I don't really give a rats ass.  I also would not expect you to vary your routines or rules if my kids are at your house.

 My kids are not allowed to drink soda - that is told whereever they go.  If you overrule me and give my kids soda, that's the end of my kid going to your house.



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Now that I agree with. If you don't know, you don't know.

But now that she does, arguing against it is a waste of time.

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Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

I agree. Mom flipped over nothing.

HOWEVER

Mom is mom. If she says no. Then that's a no. Doesn't matter if you agree with it or not.

 Nope.  If you trust your child to me, then I am going to treat them as I would my own children.  They can watch the same TV shows (adjusted for age), have the same meals and snacks, engage in the same activities, and go to bed at the same time while they are in my care.  I'm not dicking around with 10 sets of rules just to have a sleepover.  Don't like it?  I don't really give a rats ass.  I also would not expect you to vary your routines or rules if my kids are at your house.

 My kids are not allowed to drink soda - that is told whereever they go.  If you overrule me and give my kids soda, that's the end of my kid going to your house.

 Good.  less hassle for me.  



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huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

I agree. Mom flipped over nothing.

HOWEVER

Mom is mom. If she says no. Then that's a no. Doesn't matter if you agree with it or not.

 Nope.  If you trust your child to me, then I am going to treat them as I would my own children.  They can watch the same TV shows (adjusted for age), have the same meals and snacks, engage in the same activities, and go to bed at the same time while they are in my care.  I'm not dicking around with 10 sets of rules just to have a sleepover.  Don't like it?  I don't really give a rats ass.  I also would not expect you to vary your routines or rules if my kids are at your house.

 My kids are not allowed to drink soda - that is told whereever they go.  If you overrule me and give my kids soda, that's the end of my kid going to your house.

 Good.  less hassle for me.  

 I am trying to wrap my head around LL's daughters visiting husker...Baby J will be driving the pickup truck...

flan



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flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

I agree. Mom flipped over nothing.

HOWEVER

Mom is mom. If she says no. Then that's a no. Doesn't matter if you agree with it or not.

 Nope.  If you trust your child to me, then I am going to treat them as I would my own children.  They can watch the same TV shows (adjusted for age), have the same meals and snacks, engage in the same activities, and go to bed at the same time while they are in my care.  I'm not dicking around with 10 sets of rules just to have a sleepover.  Don't like it?  I don't really give a rats ass.  I also would not expect you to vary your routines or rules if my kids are at your house.

 My kids are not allowed to drink soda - that is told whereever they go.  If you overrule me and give my kids soda, that's the end of my kid going to your house.

 Good.  less hassle for me.  

 I am trying to wrap my head around LL's daughters visiting husker...Baby J will be driving the pickup truck...

flan

 Probably start out with a 4-wheeler.  



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I did teach one of our foreign exchange students to drive, though.

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Just as long as you don't give her soda!

flan

p.s. I wonder if beer is okay?

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huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

I agree. Mom flipped over nothing.

HOWEVER

Mom is mom. If she says no. Then that's a no. Doesn't matter if you agree with it or not.

 Nope.  If you trust your child to me, then I am going to treat them as I would my own children.  They can watch the same TV shows (adjusted for age), have the same meals and snacks, engage in the same activities, and go to bed at the same time while they are in my care.  I'm not dicking around with 10 sets of rules just to have a sleepover.  Don't like it?  I don't really give a rats ass.  I also would not expect you to vary your routines or rules if my kids are at your house.

 My kids are not allowed to drink soda - that is told whereever they go.  If you overrule me and give my kids soda, that's the end of my kid going to your house.

 Good.  less hassle for me.  

 I am trying to wrap my head around LL's daughters visiting husker...Baby J will be driving the pickup truck...

flan

 Probably start out with a 4-wheeler.  

 That would actually be ok.  For her.  Your 4-wheeler?  Well, that would be your problem. 

OMGosh, you guys have given me a laugh.  Husker wouldn't know what to do with Baby J - she's QUITE the character and will tell you exactly what she thinks.



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Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

I agree. Mom flipped over nothing.

HOWEVER

Mom is mom. If she says no. Then that's a no. Doesn't matter if you agree with it or not.

 Nope.  If you trust your child to me, then I am going to treat them as I would my own children.  They can watch the same TV shows (adjusted for age), have the same meals and snacks, engage in the same activities, and go to bed at the same time while they are in my care.  I'm not dicking around with 10 sets of rules just to have a sleepover.  Don't like it?  I don't really give a rats ass.  I also would not expect you to vary your routines or rules if my kids are at your house.

 My kids are not allowed to drink soda - that is told whereever they go.  If you overrule me and give my kids soda, that's the end of my kid going to your house.

 Good.  less hassle for me.  

 I am trying to wrap my head around LL's daughters visiting husker...Baby J will be driving the pickup truck...

flan

 Probably start out with a 4-wheeler.  

 That would actually be ok.  For her.  Your 4-wheeler?  Well, that would be your problem. 

OMGosh, you guys have given me a laugh.  Husker wouldn't know what to do with Baby J - she's QUITE the character and will tell you exactly what she thinks.

 Okay, now you HAVE to visit husker!

flan



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flan327 wrote:

Just as long as you don't give her soda!

flan

p.s. I wonder if beer is okay?

 He will need the beer.



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Lawyerlady wrote:
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Just as long as you don't give her soda!

flan

p.s. I wonder if beer is okay?

 He will need the beer.

 I'm imagining that his granddaughter will be as stubborn as he is...

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Lawyerlady wrote:
flan327 wrote:

Just as long as you don't give her soda!

flan

p.s. I wonder if beer is okay?

 He will need the beer.

Stop that!  She is the sweetest thing!!!!! 



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flan327 wrote:

Just as long as you don't give her soda!

flan

p.s. I wonder if beer is okay?

 He will need the beer.

Stop that!  She is the sweetest thing!!!!! 

 She is adorably sweet.  And talks non-stop.  And is very opinionated.  I adore her.  Husker, however, won't know what to make of her.  LOL!



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Lawyerlady wrote:
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Lawyerlady wrote:
flan327 wrote:

Just as long as you don't give her soda!

flan

p.s. I wonder if beer is okay?

 He will need the beer.

Stop that!  She is the sweetest thing!!!!! 

 She is adorably sweet.  And talks non-stop.  And is very opinionated.  I adore her.  Husker, however, won't know what to make of her.  LOL!

This is true... 



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She actually has her own little 4 wheeler. And she drives my friends' golf cart. She has no fear whatsoever - she is the complete opposite of DD11 in that regard, who is the most careful child you've ever met.

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Lawyerlady wrote:
flan327 wrote:

Just as long as you don't give her soda!

flan

p.s. I wonder if beer is okay?

 He will need the beer.

Stop that!  She is the sweetest thing!!!!! 

 She is adorably sweet.  And talks non-stop.  And is very opinionated.  I adore her.  Husker, however, won't know what to make of her.  LOL!

 Oh, I don't know.  I'm pretty good with kids.



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She actually has her own little 4 wheeler. And she drives my friends' golf cart. She has no fear whatsoever - she is the complete opposite of DD11 in that regard, who is the most careful child you've ever met.

 Very typical of first born vs last child. The first born tends to be very cautious and careful and the "baby" tends to be adventurous. 



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