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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Female Atlanta Braves fans hand married fan a note telling him his wife is cheating after 'seeing her sexting a man

Lindley · Guru

I think they should have minded their own business and I question the motive of these two women.

NAOW · Vette's SS

I can understand wanting to give the spouse a heads up but is it necessary to put it all over the internet?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

People are far too nosy. And, they dont' necessarily know if what they are seeing is in context. And, what if that guy was some kind of abuser and then went home and beat her death? You don't KNOW. And, the fact that they then posted it all over the internet makes them seem like a 2 neb****ters.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Wow. What she texted was non of their darn business. How nosy do you have to be to watch what the person on front of you is texting instead of watching the ball game?! Rude.

And yeah, what if he went home and beat her, or committed suicide or killed their kids?! What if he went home and just talked it out and decided to divorce her? That's not cool either. Maybe this woman is just texting dirty things and not actually doing them. Still bad, but not as bad. But would the husband believe it?

And why on earth would you post this online unless you were attention whores?

It isn't your business. Stay out of it.

burns07 · Guru

And why on earth would you post this online unless you were attention whores?
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pretty desperate for attention themselves

chef · Guru

I would appreciate a heads up if someone caught DH doing stuff like that. I would be pissed if the person who caught him posted it all over the internet.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Why were they paying attention to what she was doing on her phone?

Heck, I wouldn't be able to see it.

People should mind their own business.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

chef wrote:
I would appreciate a heads up if someone caught DH doing stuff like that. I would be pissed if the person who caught him posted it all over the internet.

Yep. I think they are busy bodies, on the flip side I think if you know someone is cheating the SO should know. But to post it on the internet? You may be shaming the cheating spouse but you are also embarrassing the wronged spouse.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
chef wrote:
I would appreciate a heads up if someone caught DH doing stuff like that. I would be pissed if the person who caught him posted it all over the internet.
Yep. I think they are busy bodies, on the flip side I think if you know someone is cheating the SO should know. But to post it on the internet? You may be shaming the cheating spouse but you are also embarrassing the wronged spouse.

I wouldn't trust the info from a stranger. And I wouldn't ask a stranger for proof, it would just be noise to me. I wouldn't trust a stranger if they told me the sky was blue, it that's just me.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Mellow Momma wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
chef wrote:
I would appreciate a heads up if someone caught DH doing stuff like that. I would be pissed if the person who caught him posted it all over the internet.
Yep. I think they are busy bodies, on the flip side I think if you know someone is cheating the SO should know. But to post it on the internet? You may be shaming the cheating spouse but you are also embarrassing the wronged spouse.
I wouldn't trust the info from a stranger. And I wouldn't ask a stranger for proof, it would just be noise to me. I wouldn't trust a stranger if they told me the sky was blue, it that's just me.

This actually goes along with that Dear whomever letter about the little boy having no friends because the father is spreading nasty rumors about the ex. You are correct. I take back what I said.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Those women are nosy busy bodies. Seriously, when you go to a game you're supposed to be watching the game and not monitoring everyone elses behavior. And they wouldn't have had to put it on the net to prove they were honest if they were minding their own business. These women have no clue what is truly going on here.

That being said, if one of my friends was being cheated on I'd tell them in a heartbeat. But from a stranger? No. Friend, whole different ball game. Pun intended.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

I agree. Strangers are a totally different deal. Not my circus not my monkeys.

huskerbb · Guru

You guys are all full of crap. If my wife was cheating--I'd want to know, and I'm betting if your spouse was cheating, you'd want to know, also.

Beyond that, even if he is the abuser you all assume he is--that doesn't give her some free pass on the infidelity train.

Put the blame where it belongs here--on the cheater.

If there is truly nothing going on--then that will come out, but I highly doubt that is the case.

huskerbb · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
I agree. Strangers are a totally different deal. Not my circus not my monkeys.

There was an article awhile back about a woman getting stabbed on a subway while no one lifted a finger. Yeah, I guess not their circus, not their monkeys. Great attitude.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Wow, I totally agree with husker, both posts.

burns07 · Guru

There was an article awhile back about a woman getting stabbed on a subway while no one lifted a finger. Yeah, I guess not their circus, not their monkeys. Great attitude.
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frankly, don't see the correlation--this op is about some third-party observation of alleged goings on with a spouse--not even close to a lethal, direct threat against another person or persons that could / should have been interdicted--the first is gossip the second life and death--just because one may not give a damn about gossip doesn't mean they don't give a damn about the life/safety of another human being

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

burns07 wrote:

There was an article awhile back about a woman getting stabbed on a subway while no one lifted a finger. Yeah, I guess not their circus, not their monkeys. Great attitude.
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frankly, don't see the correlation--this op is about some third-party observation of alleged goings on with a spouse--not even close to a lethal, direct threat against another person or persons that could / should have been interdicted--the first is gossip the second life and death--just because one may not give a damn about gossip doesn't mean they don't give a damn about the life/safety of another human being

Exactly this.

A bit of gossip on someone's phone that I should not have been reading anyway is totally different than someone being attacked right in front of my face. Sheesh. A stranger's marital problems - not my circus, not my monkeys. A stranger being attacked in front of me, I would do what I could to help out. The fact that you husker think they are comparable is hysterical. You make fun of people all the time about being dramatic - pot, meet the kettle.

huskerbb · Guru

burns07 wrote:

There was an article awhile back about a woman getting stabbed on a subway while no one lifted a finger. Yeah, I guess not their circus, not their monkeys. Great attitude.
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frankly, don't see the correlation--this op is about some third-party observation of alleged goings on with a spouse--not even close to a lethal, direct threat against another person or persons that could / should have been interdicted--the first is gossip the second life and death--just because one may not give a damn about gossip doesn't mean they don't give a damn about the life/safety of another human being

Actually, it pretty much does.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

just Czech wrote:
Wow, I totally agree with husker, both posts.

You have to agree, he is family. biggrin

huskerbb · Guru

She hardly ever agrees with me.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
You guys are all full of crap. If my wife was cheating--I'd want to know, and I'm betting if your spouse was cheating, you'd want to know, also.

Beyond that, even if he is the abuser you all assume he is--that doesn't give her some free pass on the infidelity train.

Put the blame where it belongs here--on the cheater.

If there is truly nothing going on--then that will come out, but I highly doubt that is the case.

Of course you would want to know. And, yeah , if she was cheating , then she holds the accountability for that and cant' blame it all on those girls. However, those sisters do not KNOW what is going on in their relationship. Maybe he was some abuser and she was working to get out of the relationship. You don't know. And, I don't even mind that they called her out. But, posting it all over Twitter and Facebook makes them look like a couple of snoop arse beyotches. And, seeing someone being stabbed or assaulted is a heck of a lot different than this.

huskerbb · Guru

You keep bringing up "abuser" as if that is somehow important here. IT IS NOT.

You can come up with all the absurd scenarios you want to--but if it walks like a duck, it's a duck.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I bring it up because the sisters did not KNOW what kind of situation they were subjecting her too. Duh.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

You know that thing in the Bible, Cast the Beam out of your OWN eye? And, look after your own house? Those 2 have issues.

huskerbb · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
I bring it up because the sisters did not KNOW what kind of situation they were subjecting her too. Duh.

Subjecting "her" to????? She's the CHEATER!!!! She's the one who is "subjecting" someone to something.

huskerbb · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
You know that thing in the Bible, Cast the Beam out of your OWN eye? And, look after your own house? Those 2 have issues.

That quote is RIDICULOUS in this context. That does NOT mean that wrongdoing should never be reported.

huskerbb · Guru

Oh, and exchanging sexts with your lover is NOT in any way, shape, or form "making a plan to get out" of an abusive situation.

Abuse is no excuse for infidelity, in any case.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Maybe they have an open relationship?

huskerbb · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Maybe they have an open relationship?

Again, you can come up with a bunch of unlikely, absurd scenarios to justify infidelity--but if it walks like a duck, it's a duck.

So what if they do? Then the husband will ignore the information he got from them and life moves on. I HIGHLY doubt that is the case, however.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I guess I look at it like this. People on this board are always saying MYOB when it comes to leaving your kids at home alone or dropping them off in the park alone or letting them live in the woods or drive at three. We're supposed to all MYOB when it comes to family decisions then. There's no way I would get involved in a COMPLETE STRANGER'S marital problems unless One of the two was outwardly violent to each other. Or even if one of them asked for help or I felt like one of them was in danger. Otherwise it's MYOB. And honestly, nine times out of ten when you tell someone their spouse cheated on them YOU become the bad guy. You get accused of all kinds of things while they give the spouse the benefit of the doubt. How many here have talked to a friend about their mate and the friend got all pissy about it? Some things are better left alone. And if this person at the ball game is really cheating it's not the their spouse is going to track you down and tell you, "YOU DIDN'T TELL ME THEY WERE CHEATING."

huskerbb · Guru

But it's NOT a "family decision" if only one person knows about it. That's unfair.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Life's not fair.

huskerbb · Guru

And we should just turn a blind eye when we have an opportunity to make it more fair? BS.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I know from having girlfriends who date douche bags that you can tell them the person is a douche bag but the response is generally, "You don't like him and you just don't want me to be happy." Now if I don't like a friends SO I say "I don't like him because of xyz. I think you deserve better. But if he makes you happy then I will support you."

And personally if some stranger at a ball game told me my husband was cheating on me I'd laugh my azz off and ignore them.

huskerbb · Guru

They didn't just "tell" him--they showed him pictures of sexts.

Again, he can do whatever he wants with the information--but at least now he knows about it.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I would hate to hear what some people think about my relationship after reading this thread. We weren't childhood sweethearts and had therefore dated many people before we married each other. We still remain friends with some of the people we dated. I have one ex b/f that I am still close to. He's a super nice guy and got married not long after I did. We talk on the phone often and kid around. My DH and I have a sense of humor that others would find offensive. Do I care? Nope. As long as he and I are on the same page it doesn't matter what other people think. Not too long ago I told my ex b/f that DH had given me a hall pass and asked him where he was going to take me. He laughed and said he was still waiting on his hall pass. I often put the phone on our blue tooth in the car and my DH will talk to him. Last time we talked my DH jokingly tried to give me back to him. I'm sure some people would see this and deduce that I am cheating.

The truth is if those women cared so damn much they would have told the guy right then and there. But they didn't. They took pictures and wrote notes like to little high school drama queens. I hear people all the time on this board say "Well why in the hell didn't they just ask the person?" So why didn't these too little busybodies just lean over and say it? Well, because it wasn't enough drama for them that way.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Yes. They ramped up the drama. They put it on twitter and the internet. If they were just good Samaritans they wouldn't be posting it all over the place.

huskerbb · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I would hate to hear what some people think about my relationship after reading this thread. We weren't childhood sweethearts and had therefore dated many people before we married each other. We still remain friends with some of the people we dated. I have one ex b/f that I am still close to. He's a super nice guy and got married not long after I did. We talk on the phone often and kid around. My DH and I have a sense of humor that others would find offensive. Do I care? Nope. As long as he and I are on the same page it doesn't matter what other people think. Not too long ago I told my ex b/f that DH had given me a hall pass and asked him where he was going to take me. He laughed and said he was still waiting on his hall pass. I often put the phone on our blue tooth in the car and my DH will talk to him. Last time we talked my DH jokingly tried to give me back to him. I'm sure some people would see this and deduce that I am cheating.

The truth is if those women cared so damn much they would have told the guy right then and there. But they didn't. They took pictures and wrote notes like to little high school drama queens. I hear people all the time on this board say "Well why in the hell didn't they just ask the person?" So why didn't these too little busybodies just lean over and say it? Well, because it wasn't enough drama for them that way.

That's BS. Obviously they didn't want to tell him in front of the perpetrator, so they passed him a note. Good way to go, I think.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Yes. They ramped up the drama. They put it on twitter and the internet. If they were just good Samaritans they wouldn't be posting it all over the place.

Exactly. It was all about the drama for them.

alienmom · Newbie

If I got to go to a Braves/Dodgers games with such great seats, I doubt I would be reading text messages over the shoulder of the people sitting in front of me.

But I love baseball, so that effects my answer.

huskerbb · Guru

Some people will come up with anything to defend infidelity.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Who is defending? Are you unable to understand what we are saying?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Who is defending? Are you unable to understand what we are saying?

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

alienmom wrote:
If I got to go to a Braves/Dodgers games with such great seats, I doubt I would be reading text messages over the shoulder of the people sitting in front of me.

But I love baseball, so that effects my answer.

No kidding! I wouldn't even be paying attention to someone elses phone!

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Who is defending? Are you unable to understand what we are saying?

I don't see anyone defending infidelity.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

See if we don't agree then that must mean we approve of her infidelity dontcha know????

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Yes. Exactly. Just because if I went to a ball game I would actually be watching the BALL GAME means I approve of cheaters.

huskerbb · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
See if we don't agree then that must mean we approve of her infidelity dontcha know????

You are coming up with all kinds of absurd scenarios to try to justify it.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I want to know what kind of idiot texts her lover in public with her husband sitting next to her. If you are going to be that stupid, I don't really care if someone tells on you, whether they should be minding their own business or not.

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Female Atlanta Braves fans hand married fan a note telling him his wife is cheating after 'seeing her sexting another man' mid-game

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