TOTALLY GEEKED!

ed11563 · Guru

publicly shame 4-year-old for her pacifier

huskerbb · Guru

If you are in the public eye, your every move will be scrutinized. Fair? Maybe not, but that's the price of fame.

FNW · Guru

True, true.

Personally, both my boys spit out their pacifiers by the time they were 6 months old. There were times I missed it, but was glad they were done with it before it became a problem.

I threw away baby bottles at 11 months, too, before they became "attached." I hate seeing 4 year olds drinking from a bottle, especially if it's juice. But I would never say anything to the parent about it.

Whenever I think, gosh, #1 or #2 should really be able to.....I think, what child went off to college [wearing diapers] [drinking from a bottle] [not being able to tie his shoes]..etc. Each child has his own timeline.

-- Edited by FNW on Saturday 15th of August 2015 09:45:08 AM

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

neither of my kids liked the pacifier. I was really glad about that; when I see a child older than 2 using one it makes my skin crawl.

Lindley · Guru

He may be in the public eye but his little girl should be left alone.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Let the kid have her binky. Butt out people!

huskerbb · Guru

Lindley wrote:
He may be in the public eye but his little girl should be left alone.

That's just not the way it works.

ed11563 · Guru

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
neither of my kids liked the pacifier. I was really glad about that; when I see a child older than 2 using one it makes my skin crawl.

Better that then nursing a 4 year old in public.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Eh, I don't see this as an issue. I don't even see it as child shaming. Maybe parent shaming but who cares. It's not a big deal.

Tangerine · Guru

Bunny never liked the pacifier.
He also wasn't interested in being potty trained until a few weeks after his fourth birthday.
No one ever said anything to me about him wearing diapers, they would have gotten an earful if they had.
We tried everything for over two years to train that kid, he just wasn't ready until he was.
Every kid is different.

chef · Guru

DS never liked pacifiers. He prefers to bite the snouts and ears of his stuffed animals.

Bottles were put up once he was weaned onto whole milk. By the time he weaned, he was down to one bottle a day (when he woke up) so he didn't miss them. We never had a problem with him crying for a bottle.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Is he related to my dog? They like to bite the snouts and ears of stuffed animals.

chef · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Is he related to my dog? They like to bite the snouts and ears of stuffed animals.

He might be. Do your dogs lay down then stick their ears to the ground when you correct their misbehavior?

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

chef wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Is he related to my dog? They like to bite the snouts and ears of stuffed animals.
He might be. Do your dogs lay down then stick their ears to the ground when you correct their misbehavior?

Sometimes!

chef · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
chef wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Is he related to my dog? They like to bite the snouts and ears of stuffed animals.
He might be. Do your dogs lay down then stick their ears to the ground when you correct their misbehavior?
Sometimes!

Then they might just be related, lol!

It's so funny. DS does something he's not supposed to. We correct him. He sticks out his lower lip, lays/kneels down, sticks his ear to the ground, and looks up at you. He does this almost every time he gets corrected. So dramatic!

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Maybe he's listening for Tonto to come save him from the cruel reality that is his life!

chef · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Maybe he's listening for Tonto to come save him from the cruel reality that is his life!

LOL!

His life is SO horrible, don't'cha know!

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

chef wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Maybe he's listening for Tonto to come save him from the cruel reality that is his life!
LOL!
His life is SO horrible, don't'cha know!

I do. And it will get worse!

FNW · Guru

Tangerine wrote:
Bunny never liked the pacifier.
He also wasn't interested in being potty trained until a few weeks after his fourth birthday.
No one ever said anything to me about him wearing diapers, they would have gotten an earful if they had.
We tried everything for over two years to train that kid, he just wasn't ready until he was.
Every kid is different.

My #2 was potty trained at 3 1/2 years. His brother was trained a week before his third birthday. He was done in 3 days, nights included. I wasn't going to force anything. It wasn't worth it, to me. Besides, road trips became more complimented sans diapers. So after a couple weeks of #2 telling me each and every time he was going potty, and basically removing the diaper to go on the toilet, I figured he was ready. It was a done deal in 2 days, including nights. My mother cringed throughout, because we were potty trained at 18 months. I told here there is a big difference between having a child go every hour (before it became an accident) and having them know themselves when it was time to hit the pot.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

My mom also had a silent fit when DDs were not trained at around 18 months. I think I was trained at a year. But my mom was a strict German regimented kind of parent, not necessarily nurturing. Anyway, I told her that is was just different now. Hardly anyone was trained at 18 months in DD's class at school. And they took those kids to the bathroom to sit on the potty every 2 hours or earlier. The way diapers are now, kids just don't feel wet. If you put them in cloth diapers they train earlier. But modern diapers...not happening.

I think DD24 was almost 4 when she was finally trained. She told me "I don't want to go on the potty. I want to be your baby forever". DD17 was around 2. When you see your big sister going, you have incentive to be just like her. But she had accidents for awhile at night. She was changing her own sheets and throwing the wet ones in the wash at age 4. We didn't shame her, she was just independent like that.

People need to butt out of other people's parenting. It's just not something I choose to spend my energy on. Like they saying goes, I doubt any of these kids will go off to college with a binky, a woobie/lovey and diapers so don't worry about it.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Took Caitlyn's pacifier away at three. She got mad and bit the nipple off. She wasn't really using it so much as just holding it. Bottles too. She liked having it to go to bed. 9 times out of 10 it only had water in it. She was potty trained completely around 14 -18 months. Some where in there.

Jesse held on to the pacifier till he was 3ish. Literally holding it. He liked it clipped to his shirt. He might put it in his mouth now and then. But mostly he just wanted it with him. Bottles were gone as soon as he could manipulate a sippy cup. Around 1 I guess. He potty trained around 14-18 months too.

Aaron never took a pacifier. They gagged him. He took bottles till he was about 1. Then used a sippy cup. Potty training him was easy. He just stopped using his diaper around 1. Other than some night time accidents when he was sick, he was done.

I think he was easier because he had two older siblings and he wanted to be like them.

He was also reading on his own when he started kindergarten. I think because he had absorbed and learned while his siblings learned.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

lilyofcourse wrote:
Took Caitlyn's pacifier away at three. She got mad and bit the nipple off. She wasn't really using it so much as just holding it. Bottles too. She liked having it to go to bed. 9 times out of 10 it only had water in it. She was potty trained completely around 14 -18 months. Some where in there.

Jesse held on to the pacifier till he was 3ish. Literally holding it. He liked it clipped to his shirt. He might put it in his mouth now and then. But mostly he just wanted it with him. Bottles were gone as soon as he could manipulate a sippy cup. Around 1 I guess. He potty trained around 14-18 months too.

Aaron never took a pacifier. They gagged him. He took bottles till he was about 1. Then used a sippy cup. Potty training him was easy. He just stopped using his diaper around 1. Other than some night time accidents when he was sick, he was done.

I think he was easier because he had two older siblings and he wanted to be like them.

He was also reading on his own when he started kindergarten. I think because he had absorbed and learned while his siblings learned.

Well holding the pacifier is akin to having a blankie, but when it is constantly in their mouth, that becomes an issue. Potty training is a whole 'nother story. Can't do that until they are ready. DS wasn't trained until he was almost 3. He wanted to go to preschool but kids had to be potty trained so he decided he would use the potty and no accidents at night. DD potty trained early, I think influenced by the babysitters slightly older daughter but DD had lots of night time accidents.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

My son had a "blankie" that one of the church ladies had made for my daughter. When he was a baby he loved that blanket. Then as a toddler he carried it around. It was hand knitted. White with pink and blue in it. And it had fringe on the ends. My son would sit on the sofa or in bed and rub the fringe in his ear as a comfort measure. He carried it everywhere for about three years. The thing was shredded and shrunk. When he hit about four he started leaving it at home when we went out but he still would carry it around the house at home. He had that blanket in his bed for years and year and years. I didn't really care. He didn't take it out. He would just sleep with it at night.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Took Caitlyn's pacifier away at three. She got mad and bit the nipple off. She wasn't really using it so much as just holding it. Bottles too. She liked having it to go to bed. 9 times out of 10 it only had water in it. She was potty trained completely around 14 -18 months. Some where in there.

Jesse held on to the pacifier till he was 3ish. Literally holding it. He liked it clipped to his shirt. He might put it in his mouth now and then. But mostly he just wanted it with him. Bottles were gone as soon as he could manipulate a sippy cup. Around 1 I guess. He potty trained around 14-18 months too.

Aaron never took a pacifier. They gagged him. He took bottles till he was about 1. Then used a sippy cup. Potty training him was easy. He just stopped using his diaper around 1. Other than some night time accidents when he was sick, he was done.

I think he was easier because he had two older siblings and he wanted to be like them.

He was also reading on his own when he started kindergarten. I think because he had absorbed and learned while his siblings learned.
Well holding the pacifier is akin to having a blankie, but when it is constantly in their mouth, that becomes an issue. Potty training is a whole 'nother story. Can't do that until they are ready. DS wasn't trained until he was almost 3. He wanted to go to preschool but kids had to be potty trained so he decided he would use the potty and no accidents at night. DD potty trained early, I think influenced by the babysitters slightly older daughter but DD had lots of night time accidents.

Yeah. The only time it went in their mouths was when they were really sick or sleepy or when they needed both hands for something. But then they just held it between their teeth.

The potty training was organic with Caitlyn. She had a tendency to be constipated as a baby. I found that removing her diaper helped. And when she could hold herself up, with my help, I would hold her over the potty. I almost never changed a poop diaper after 6months. It was like she began to associate it all.

I tried it with the boys. It worked with them.

Heck, I was a single income trying to raise 3 kids. If I could cut back on buying diapers, it was a win.

They didn't eat a lot of store bought baby foods either. I had a ricer, a blender and a fork. They ate what I ate.

TOTALLY GEEKED!

A tabloid tried to publicly shame David Beckham's 4-year-old for her pacifier. He did what you'd do.

David Beckham, being her dad, apparently was not impressed with the Daily Mail's editorial decisions.

Parenting is hard. Every kid is different.

If someone tries to tell you how to do your job, just bend them like Beckham.