TOTALLY GEEKED!

My first thought was that she sounded depressed.

flan

Unless I'm very sick, I can only go a day without taking a shower...

flan

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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Some people are just messier too. However, the lack of personal hygiene would be a big issue. She just needs to sit down face to face with sis and have a direct talk with her.

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 I agree...BIG red flag.

Has the sister always been like this? I doubt she would have invited her to move in if she had known.

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That's actually a good point husker. In order to feel good about yourself, you need to first DO, then the good feelings will come. Far too many people think that feelings precede actions. Actually if you DO good, you will feel good. But, if you wait to feel good, you will be waiting till the cows come home.

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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That's actually a good point husker. In order to feel good about yourself, you need to first DO, then the good feelings will come. Far too many people think that feelings precede actions. Actually if you DO good, you will feel good. But, if you wait to feel good, you will be waiting till the cows come home.

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I've got a friend who is depressed.  Well no sh!t you're depressed.  You up and quit two good jobs in succession and are now divorced and living in your mom's basement.  That'd make me fvcking depressed.  

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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That's actually a good point husker. In order to feel good about yourself, you need to first DO, then the good feelings will come. Far too many people think that feelings precede actions. Actually if you DO good, you will feel good. But, if you wait to feel good, you will be waiting till the cows come home.

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I've got a friend who is depressed.  Well no sh!t you're depressed.  You up and quit two good jobs in succession and are now divorced and living in your mom's basement.  That'd make me fvcking depressed.  

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Those are good points.  However, depression is a spiraling illness.  You feel depressed so you do less and less to keep your life going.  As you do less and less , you get more depressed.  I disagree with husker that it is just as easy as 1, 2, 3.   There is a point where you may need help with medication, counseling, etc.  But, there is a the point where you simply have to get up off the sofa and engage yourself in life slowly but surely.  You start by your own self.  Get up.  Fix your hair,  put on makeup.  Make the bed.  Then, clean out a closet, do laundy.  Cook something.  Then move beyond that one step at a time.   

Well, sitting home on your butt is certainly no solution.

I thought depression too. Serious depression because her lack of hygiene is being affected. Normal people having a bad day don't stop taking care of their hygiene. I brush my teeth twice a day, sometimes three, depending. Even when I'm deathly ill I have to brush my teeth. And I'm a PIA because I don't care what kind of surgery I had I still wanted to get up and get showered. I would rather have stuck my leg in a trash bag so I could get up and shower. What is going on with this woman is abnormal. I don't necessarily think the staying up late is an issue. A lot of people are night owls. I wouldn't look at that. I sleep late in the day because I go to bed at three am. I would actually look at how many hours she is sleeping.

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flan327 wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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Well, sitting home on your butt is certainly no solution.

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No sh1t, Sherlock!

If you are CLINICALLY DEPRESSED, you are convinced that you are worthless and don't WANT to get better.

flan 

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If you are a jobless slob--you are pretty worthless.  

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 So some people are worthless? Is this what you are saying? Not everyone's life has value, some people's lives are without worth? 

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Mellow Momma wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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flan327 wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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Well, sitting home on your butt is certainly no solution.

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No sh1t, Sherlock!

If you are CLINICALLY DEPRESSED, you are convinced that you are worthless and don't WANT to get better.

flan 

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If you are a jobless slob--you are pretty worthless.  

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 So some people are worthless? Is this what you are saying? Not everyone's life has value, some people's lives are without worth? 

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Um, yes. I know lots of them--and many more I don't know but have heard about.  I call them oxygen bandits because they steal oxygen from everyone else.   

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 Wow. What a sincerely repulsive attitude. Very Christian like. I thought you were one of the "all lives are precious" crowd. I can see now that I was mistaken. You think only SOME lives are worth saving, others are worthless. Got it. 

Lawyerlady wrote:

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People are assuming depression. There is another possibility - she's just a lazy ass free-loader.

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 That's always a possibility.  I think most of us were just guessing depression because of the changes in her life.  For some people retirement is not a good thing. 

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Lawyerlady wrote:

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People are assuming depression. There is another possibility - she's just a lazy ass free-loader.

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 That's always a possibility.  I think most of us were just guessing depression because of the changes in her life.  For some people retirement is not a good thing. 

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 Well, sorry - but if depression is brought on by "changes in life" rather than a chemical imbalance, then it IS just a matter of DOING rather than giving in. 

Well, who knows? It could be a combination of things. At the very least she should have her thyroid checked, get checked for Lyme's disease and have a medical work up. There are lots of illnesses that can make you feel sluggish. And, Sis needs to sit down and tell her she needs to get help and if she doesnt' then Sis can kick her out or whatever she chooses to do.