TOTALLY GEEKED!

Jeepers!

How can three adults forget a baby?

So horrible, I shudder at reading these stories. I am so glad my DD is 10 and able to get herself out of such situations, but when she was a baby and I had to let my ex have her, who often times allowed his mother, who is a dizt, take her I worried constantly.

Southern_Belle wrote:

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How can three adults forget a baby?

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 My thoughts exactly. Plus another grandchild was with them and could have said "what about Baby?"  Not that I think it's the child's responsibility, but my kids would have asked why their cousin wasn't getting out too. 

I hope they throw the book at these 3.

huskerbb wrote:

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Good grief. When you get in the front door and sit your butt down on the couch to watch TV, there isn't ONE instant where it crosses your mind that maybe something isn't right with this picture?

"Forgetting" is NOT A GODDAMN EXCUSE. You are NOT ALLOWED to make this kind of "mistake".

I'm sick and tired of this happening. We need to start charging these nitwits with child endangerment, neglect, or something.

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 I don't often agree with you. But I agree 100% with all of this. 

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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So mom was working? Where TF was Dad?

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What  difference does it make?  He was in the care of his grandparents.  Also, mom was not working, but it's irrelevant, anyway, the grandparents had the kid. 

huskerbb wrote:

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Good grief. When you get in the front door and sit your butt down on the couch to watch TV, there isn't ONE instant where it crosses your mind that maybe something isn't right with this picture?

"Forgetting" is NOT A GODDAMN EXCUSE. You are NOT ALLOWED to make this kind of "mistake".

I'm sick and tired of this happening. We need to start charging these nitwits with child endangerment, neglect, or something.

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Maybe they were watching Project Runway??

 

 

I agree with you.

I have forgotten my sunglasses, my purse, my checkbook, my phone, my credit cards, the diaper bag, the shushie (pacifier), extra diapers, an extra bottle...I have never forgotten a CHILD! I have zero sympathy for anyone who does. It just not possible that a breathing human being who operates a car can forget a child inside of it. Why aren't you talking to the child? Singing? Engaging with them in a myriad of ways? I don't get it. It's neglect and abuse and they should get the book thrown at them, while they are in a hot car.

Yes. But this has happened often enough that we need some safety measures.

Husker is right. You are just plain not allowed to "forget" children when you are the care-giver at that time.

I have only watched Itty bitty a few times at her house. If I ever get to take her somewhere in my car, there is NO WAY IN HELL that I could "forget" her.

flan

lilyofcourse wrote:

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It says mom was sleeping because she works nights. Been there.

Grandparents said they would watch child.

Now my questions are, are these maternal or paternal grandparents? How often were they allowed with the child? Could it have been intentional?

And yes, it seems there is more forgetting these days. I blame that on all the devices we have.

I do not understand forgetting children. It was, and is, the first thought I have about everything I do.

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 What difference does it make what side of the family the grandparents are on, or even how often they watch the kid?

And if it were not accidental but vengeful, then it is murder.

It would be equally as plausible that the maternal grandparents could be tired of baby-sitting all the time and this was their solution. Plus they got another daughter and grandchild involved? Absurd conjecture.

People are "forgetting". Whether they SHOULD forget or not, what does that matter? No, you SHOULDN"T forget your kids. But, kids have been forgotten with tragic consequences. Some people aren't all that responsible. We know that, so do we need to let kids continue to die? I personally think rear facing seats are a big part of the problem.

lilyofcourse wrote:

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It doesn't matter Husker but it is information I would like to have.

And if it is intentional, no matter whose side of the family, it is not forgetting. It's murder.

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Yes.  They should do a thorough investigation. 

huskerbb wrote:

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lilyofcourse wrote:

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It doesn't matter Husker but it is information I would like to have.

And if it is intentional, no matter whose side of the family, it is not forgetting. It's murder.

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 Sure,nbut you are insinuating that paternal grandparents would be more likely to murder their grandkids.  That is pure BS.

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Normal people like us would never even think of harming our children or grandchildren. Not all people are normal.  There are some crazy, evil people out there.

lilyofcourse wrote:

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I wonder if it could be intentional.

If dad is not in the picture. If dad is paying a lot of child support. If grandparents are "that type" of people.

My ex MIL would have done anything out of spite.

Yes. Up to and including something this bad.

That, I have no doubt.

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 Just because you chose to have kids with a man whose family is as f'ed up in the head as he is does not mean everyone does, or that all paternal grandparents love their grandkids less.  Geesh, Lily - do you even pay attention to what you say?

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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People are "forgetting". Whether they SHOULD forget or not, what does that matter? No, you SHOULDN"T forget your kids. But, kids have been forgotten with tragic consequences. Some people aren't all that responsible. We know that, so do we need to let kids continue to die? I personally think rear facing seats are a big part of the problem.

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 Rear facing seats are huge. They take up more space than forward facing seats, i dont buy for a second that its easier to forget your kid because they are facing backwards. Plus there is a lot of research saying kids are much more safe rear facing for as long as possible. It is much more likely for a baby to be seriously injured or killed in a crash in a forward facing seat than a child to be forgotten in a rear facing seat.

NAOW wrote:

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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People are "forgetting". Whether they SHOULD forget or not, what does that matter? No, you SHOULDN"T forget your kids. But, kids have been forgotten with tragic consequences. Some people aren't all that responsible. We know that, so do we need to let kids continue to die? I personally think rear facing seats are a big part of the problem.

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 Rear facing seats are huge. They take up more space than forward facing seats, i dont buy for a second that its easier to forget your kid because they are facing backwards. Plus there is a lot of research saying kids are much more safe rear facing for as long as possible. It is much more likely for a baby to be seriously injured or killed in a crash in a forward facing seat than a child to be forgotten in a rear facing seat.

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 Yes they are HUGE.  And most women install them on the back passenger side or in the back middle.  In either of those positions you can CLEARLY see the car seat.  Even if the baby doesn't make a peep.

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lilyofcourse wrote:

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Goodness people. I swear. It's like some of you need road maps.

I didn't say either was more likely to do anything.

I said I wonder which set of grandparents it was.

I also said it doesn't matter and that either way, if it is intentional then it isn't forgetting, it's murder.

And LL, yes. I do read and understand what I post.

Do you?

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 If it doesn't matter, why did you ask?

flan

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Probably because it was on her mind, and if it was on her mind, others are probably curious too. 

 

 

I think part of the nature of this message board is, we want people to post what's on their minds.

That usually gives us things to discuss.

 

lilyofcourse wrote:

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Goodness people. I swear. It's like some of you need road maps.

I didn't say either was more likely to do anything.

I said I wonder which set of grandparents it was.

I also said it doesn't matter and that either way, if it is intentional then it isn't forgetting, it's murder.

And LL, yes. I do read and understand what I post.

Do you?

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BS.  You were insinuating that paternal grandparents are more likely to kill their grandchildren.  If it doesn't matter--when why ask?  You related that DIRECTLY to your view that it could be intentional.  You were NOT just "wondering".   

huskerbb wrote:

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lilyofcourse wrote:

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I wonder if it could be intentional.

If dad is not in the picture. If dad is paying a lot of child support. If grandparents are "that type" of people.

My ex MIL would have done anything out of spite.

Yes. Up to and including something this bad.

That, I have no doubt.

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You even tried to justify your position with this piece of nonsense. 

 

LL was SPOT ON.   

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lilyofcourse wrote:

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No. LL is not spot on. And neither are you.

I never said one was more likely. I said I wondered which set of grandparents it was.

You, LL and, well everyone, jumped to the conclusion I was insinuating paternal simply because I made the comment that my ex MIL could do something like that. It doesn't mean all paternal grandparents. It means psychopaths could do it.

If you want to assume my post means anything one way or another, well, that's on you.

I really could give two shakes.

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 Bull frickin' crap.  You specifically said you wondered if it they were maternal or paternal grandparents and then went on to wonder if it could be intentional if dad is out of the picture or doesn't want to pay child support.  There is no assuming there whatsoever.  YOU wrote it pretty damn clear.