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ed11563 · Guru

touchy-feely woman at church

karl271 · Guru

At first I thought it was an OLD lady and I figured she was just being really friendly like she might be with her grandchildren. But then I noticed that the article says : one of my mom's friends. Whoa. Not an old lady but someone with perhaps a little too much contact with a young man. Yes, Mrs. Robinson..

So? Definitely tell mom as well as trying to avoid/slip past this person. At church, no less??

-- Edited by karl271 on Sunday 20th of September 2015 06:10:19 PM

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

How much contact does he have with woman? Is it only at church? It sounds rather harmless to me.

Now don't get me wrong, I don't like a lot of hugging.

But if this is ALL that is happening, it won't kill him.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

OMG another hugging thread. Hugging is of the devil these days. New theory is you are never allowed to touch someone elses child for any reason.

Tangerine · Guru

Hugs should be a mutual thing. Other people aren't obligated to accept your hugs just because you feel like giving them out.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

So just back up. Just say that i am really not the hugging type.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I have a communicable disease and can't hug... LOL

ed11563 · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
So just back up. Just say that i am really not the hugging type.

She probably sneaks up on him and grabs him before he knows she's coming.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

ed11563 wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
So just back up. Just say that i am really not the hugging type.
She probably sneaks up on him and grabs him before he knows she's coming.

Oh Ed. That is not what the letter says.

ed11563 · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:

Oh Ed. That is not what the letter says.

oops

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

At my DD's high school on our hometown - everyone hugged. Everyone. You either hugged or you were an outcast. People would seriously talk about you if you didn't hug. It was annoying as heck at first. But eventually you got used to it.

The OP needs to learn to stand up for himself/herself. If you don't like something you either need to speak up or take yourself out of the situation by scooting out before she approaches or whatever.

ed11563 · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
At my DD's high school on our hometown - everyone hugged. Everyone. You either hugged or you were an outcast. People would seriously talk about you if you didn't hug. It was annoying as heck at first. But eventually you got used to it.

The OP needs to learn to stand up for himself/herself. If you don't like something you either need to speak up or take yourself out of the situation by scooting out before she approaches or whatever.

I think his complaint is not that she wants to hug, but that she won't let go. Also she seems to want to talk about his sex life.

"She says things about me growing up to be a man, and asks me if I'm dating. She always gives me an extended hug. It's really uncomfortable for me, and embarrassing."

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Well that describes just about every adult I ran into at church growing up. Not sure what the big deal is. Sure the questions are uncomfortable and the hug lasts longer than is wanted (I didn't want to hug them at all!) The OP needs to learn how to communicate with grown ups. Either hike up your panties and say you don't want to hug or STFU already and deal.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Yeah, right? Learn how to set a boundary!

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

ed11563 wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
At my DD's high school on our hometown - everyone hugged. Everyone. You either hugged or you were an outcast. People would seriously talk about you if you didn't hug. It was annoying as heck at first. But eventually you got used to it.

The OP needs to learn to stand up for himself/herself. If you don't like something you either need to speak up or take yourself out of the situation by scooting out before she approaches or whatever.
I think his complaint is not that she wants to hug, but that she won't let go. Also she seems to want to talk about his sex life.

"She says things about me growing up to be a man, and asks me if I'm dating. She always gives me an extended hug. It's really uncomfortable for me, and embarrassing."

That's not talking about sex. Good Lord Ed. That's just idle conversation.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Mellow Momma wrote:
Well that describes just about every adult I ran into at church growing up. Not sure what the big deal is. Sure the questions are uncomfortable and the hug lasts longer than is wanted (I didn't want to hug them at all!) The OP needs to learn how to communicate with grown ups. Either hike up your panties and say you don't want to hug or STFU already and deal.

This. And FFS the letter says nothing about his friggin sex life! Asking if you are dating someone is NOT akin to asking them if they are sexually active or how many partners they had. And the letter does not say this woman is some kind of sex freak sneaking up on him to hug him. Stop reading crap into stuff. The kid is uncomfortable hugging. He needs to do what MM suggests above.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

lilyofcourse wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
At my DD's high school on our hometown - everyone hugged. Everyone. You either hugged or you were an outcast. People would seriously talk about you if you didn't hug. It was annoying as heck at first. But eventually you got used to it.

The OP needs to learn to stand up for himself/herself. If you don't like something you either need to speak up or take yourself out of the situation by scooting out before she approaches or whatever.
I think his complaint is not that she wants to hug, but that she won't let go. Also she seems to want to talk about his sex life.

"She says things about me growing up to be a man, and asks me if I'm dating. She always gives me an extended hug. It's really uncomfortable for me, and embarrassing."

That's not talking about sex. Good Lord Ed. That's just idle conversation.

FFS, Lily is right. She's not asking about his sex life!

Tinydancer · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
At my DD's high school on our hometown - everyone hugged. Everyone. You either hugged or you were an outcast. People would seriously talk about you if you didn't hug. It was annoying as heck at first. But eventually you got used to it.

The OP needs to learn to stand up for himself/herself. If you don't like something you either need to speak up or take yourself out of the situation by scooting out before she approaches or whatever.
I think his complaint is not that she wants to hug, but that she won't let go. Also she seems to want to talk about his sex life.

"She says things about me growing up to be a man, and asks me if I'm dating. She always gives me an extended hug. It's really uncomfortable for me, and embarrassing."

That's not talking about sex. Good Lord Ed. That's just idle conversation.

FFS, Lily is right. She's not asking about his sex life!

I agree with lily and NJN. Mark this day on your calendar folks...lol

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
OMG another hugging thread. Hugging is of the devil these days. New theory is you are never allowed to touch someone elses child for any reason.

It's about respecting personal boundaries. The kid was probably taught to "respect his elders."

He is uncomfortable & his feelings are valid.

flan

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Well, mom should just take this gal aside and say, "I know you mean well, but my son is very uncomfortable by you hugging him". Nuff said.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

flan327 wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
OMG another hugging thread. Hugging is of the devil these days. New theory is you are never allowed to touch someone elses child for any reason.
It's about respecting personal boundaries. The kid was probably taught to "respect his elders."
He is uncomfortable & his feelings are valid.
flan

Well, he could easily turn it around on her and say, "Now that I'm becoming a man I prefer not to hug everyone."

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
OMG another hugging thread. Hugging is of the devil these days. New theory is you are never allowed to touch someone elses child for any reason.
It's about respecting personal boundaries. The kid was probably taught to "respect his elders."
He is uncomfortable & his feelings are valid.
flan
Well, he could easily turn it around on her and say, "Now that I'm becoming a man I prefer not to hug everyone."

The whole "becoming a man" thing is a bit...weird, maybe?

flan

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Well, mom should just take this gal aside and say, "I know you mean well, but my son is very uncomfortable by you hugging him". Nuff said.

He's 16. Does mom still cut his meat too?

I don't know what is going on in other houses, but my kids have been able to speak up since they were little.

If the young man doesn't want to hug this woman, he needs to man up and not hug her.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

flan327 wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
OMG another hugging thread. Hugging is of the devil these days. New theory is you are never allowed to touch someone elses child for any reason.
It's about respecting personal boundaries. The kid was probably taught to "respect his elders."
He is uncomfortable & his feelings are valid.
flan
Well, he could easily turn it around on her and say, "Now that I'm becoming a man I prefer not to hug everyone."
The whole "becoming a man" thing is a bit...weird, maybe?
flan

Maybe it's regional. I know a lot of people who say this. It doesn't sound weird to me. He sounds like he's around 15. And to think she's his mother's age might not be true. I have many many many friend that are twenty or thirty years older than me. I tend to be an old soul so I always feel more comfortable with them.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
OMG another hugging thread. Hugging is of the devil these days. New theory is you are never allowed to touch someone elses child for any reason.
It's about respecting personal boundaries. The kid was probably taught to "respect his elders."
He is uncomfortable & his feelings are valid.
flan
Well, he could easily turn it around on her and say, "Now that I'm becoming a man I prefer not to hug everyone."
The whole "becoming a man" thing is a bit...weird, maybe?
flan
Maybe it's regional. I know a lot of people who say this. It doesn't sound weird to me. He sounds like he's around 15. And to think she's his mother's age might not be true. I have many many many friend that are twenty or thirty years older than me. I tend to be an old soul so I always feel more comfortable with them.

That makes sense. I've never heard it said here.

flan

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