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lilyofcourse


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Probably because I'm getting cantankerous in my old age, but it seems no one uses last names anymore.

Example, while at the bank today, the guy trying to fix the continuing annoyance that I have been dealing with, addressed me repeatedly by my first name.

I don't know why this stood out to me. Probably has a lot to do with the situation.

But I was wondering, why do people not use the formal last name anymore? 

Instead of "How can I help you today Ms. Ofcourse?" It was "How can I help you Lily?"

We don't know each other outside of that little cubicle we were in. So why the familiarity? 

I've noticed this other places.

You give a cashier your card and they address you with your first name. 

I don't know. Seems weird to me. 

Not terrible weird. Just not what I was taught.

 



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That seems a bit odd to me, too, Lily.

Nine times out of ten, if a cashier, or waitperson, addresses me by name, they call me Mrs./Ms. Last name.

Maybe it's a small town thing, where you live.confuse

My best guess.



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Well, you just need an unpronouncable first name and then they won't even try. Then they'll just automatically use your last name.

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I don't think I've ever been addressed by my first name at a bank or store.

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It's the norm here. I don't remember the last time some one called me Mrs. Four...

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I don't really care if people address me by my first name or Mister.  Most times for me, it is the latter or Sir, since my first name is quite the challenge to pronounce.  I believe it may just be the establishment.  Whenever I shop at any Safeway location, the cashier hands me my receipt and thanks me using Mister (last name).  Some younger folk call me Uncle sometimes.  I really don't dwell much on how I am addressed.  As long as someone doesn't address me as A**hole or something along those lines, it really is small stuff to me, and I don't sweat the small stuff.  There are other more pressing concerns for me to deal with in my life than sit around wondering about how people address me.  Thanks. 



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I'm usually fine with people call me "Ed", but the people in my banks use Mr. Lastname all the time.

 

A few places, where their personnel have name tags with their first names, I use their name at some point. Sometimes, with people (cashiers, etc) I've seen many times, I might tell them, "My invisible name tag says "Ed, Customer" . They usually remember that the next time.



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If that is the biggest thing you have to worry about...

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flan327 wrote:

If that is the biggest thing you have to worry about...

flan

 It's bigger than most of the things you worry about...lol



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Its 2015, we are a very informal society these days. Sometimes I wish we could have a little more formal etiquette in our lives...sigh...

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flan327 wrote:

If that is the biggest thing you have to worry about...

flan

Who? Me? 

 



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flan327 wrote:

If that is the biggest thing you have to worry about...

flan

 Pretty much!



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Lily does not have a difficult last name.

I am usually addressed as "Mrs." In business, when I tell a client that so and so will be doing (whatever) I use Ms. or Mr. out of respect for my colleagues. But I will use my first name with them.

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I have a difficult first name but not last. It's much easier to call me by my last name than my first.

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I never really thought about it and my last name is easy but can be pronounced differently and so often is LOL

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My first and last names sound like one name. They are both one syllable, and most people call me by both names...

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Ohfour wrote:

My first and last names sound like one name. They are both one syllable, and most people call me by both names...

 Yeah: oh and four.

Both one syllable!

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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
flan327 wrote:

If that is the biggest thing you have to worry about...

flan

 Pretty much!

 When I visit daycares, all the kids call me "miss flan."

Does that mean they don't "respect" me?

I know they love me.

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When I moved into my house the boys next door called me Miss Lexxy. I thought it was cute.

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One thing that drives me up the wall is to be somewhere and have a teenager or early 20's call me HONEY or sweetie....it just chaps my butt.



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Oh, agree. I call my tiny helpers here sweetheart and they know I only call them that. They know here it is never towards anyone else. They are attached to me.

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it's different in that situation, you are not ordering something or asking a question at a store and getting called SWEETIE~

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My guy at the car dealership is about 10 years younger than me & always calls me honey. I just roll with it. He has half a dozen kids so I figure he just says honey when he can't remember the right name fast enough. I did think it was weird at first. It is usually only older people who call me honey or other terms of endearment. I had an older lady for a client forever & she always called me dear. She was very Southern. I thought it was sweet.

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older people doing it do not bother me, and actually some people I might be ok with but young young girls NOPE....

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My two little helpers beam. Sweetie? Nice job! They are attached to me. Like I'm a faux auntie.

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I think the first name thing is supposed to convey friendliness and familiarity. Personally, I don't care how I'm addressed.

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I just find it strange in a professional setting.



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I am often called by my first name because no one can pronounce my last name. so it's Mrs. Tiny mangled last name. I just say that's me.

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I do not like it, but I have gotten used to it when I am in the States. Especially when young children use my first name - usually relatives. I think the "titles" of aunt, uncle, grandpa, grandma, cousin, etc. with a name are out of fashion now.

Over here people call you "uncle" "aunt" "big sister" "big brother" etc. depending on what they judge your age to be. And any name tags worn by personnel only use the last name.



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Nobody uses my first name unless they absolutely must.

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Ohfour wrote:

It's the norm here. I don't remember the last time some one called me Mrs. Four...

 Probably because that isn't your name.  biggrin  Just saying!



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older people doing it do not bother me, and actually some people I might be ok with but young young girls NOPE....

 My neighborhood is really a throwback. The parent' teach their kid's respect for adults.  All adults are Mr or mrs so and so.  That is the way is should be.



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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Riding wrote:

older people doing it do not bother me, and actually some people I might be ok with but young young girls NOPE....

 My neighborhood is really a throwback. The parent' teach their kid's respect for adults.  All adults are Mr or mrs so and so.  That is the way is should be.

 Thats kinda the way it is here. Gs kids still call me Miss Oh. In the South, its completely proper to call someone by their first name if you put Miss or Mister in front of it...



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Ohfour wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Riding wrote:

older people doing it do not bother me, and actually some people I might be ok with but young young girls NOPE....

 My neighborhood is really a throwback. The parent' teach their kid's respect for adults.  All adults are Mr or mrs so and so.  That is the way is should be.

 Thats kinda the way it is here. Gs kids still call me Miss Oh. In the South, its completely proper to call someone by their first name if you put Miss or Mister in front of it...

 Yep.  Mr./Mrs./Miss first name is very southern.



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karl271 wrote:

I do not like it, but I have gotten used to it when I am in the States. Especially when young children use my first name - usually relatives. I think the "titles" of aunt, uncle, grandpa, grandma, cousin, etc. with a name are out of fashion now.

Over here people call you "uncle" "aunt" "big sister" "big brother" etc. depending on what they judge your age to be. And any name tags worn by personnel only use the last name.

 I am Aunt Lily.

My brother is Uncle first name.

We were raised to use the Aunt and Uncle with names.

Only recently, the last few years, have I begun to leave them off when addressing them. But not every time. 

 



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Ohfour wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Riding wrote:

older people doing it do not bother me, and actually some people I might be ok with but young young girls NOPE....

 My neighborhood is really a throwback. The parent' teach their kid's respect for adults.  All adults are Mr or mrs so and so.  That is the way is should be.

 Thats kinda the way it is here. Gs kids still call me Miss Oh. In the South, its completely proper to call someone by their first name if you put Miss or Mister in front of it...

 That's the way it is here.

 



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lilyofcourse wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Riding wrote:

older people doing it do not bother me, and actually some people I might be ok with but young young girls NOPE....

 My neighborhood is really a throwback. The parent' teach their kid's respect for adults.  All adults are Mr or mrs so and so.  That is the way is should be.

 Thats kinda the way it is here. Gs kids still call me Miss Oh. In the South, its completely proper to call someone by their first name if you put Miss or Mister in front of it...

 That's the way it is here.

 

 I'm not from the south but that's what I teach my kids too.



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I just remembered.

The younger set of my cousins, the ones my kids age, they call me Lily cousin instead of cousin Lily.

The oldest of that bunch started calling me that and it stuck.

Now everyone on that side calls me that.


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I really don't care what people call me one way or the other.

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

I really don't care what people call me one way or the other.

 So many responses...and all of them so very wrong!

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

I really don't care what people call me one way or the other.

 Well that's good! Cause you should hear some of the things I've heard!

J/k!

 



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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

I really don't care what people call me one way or the other.

Phew, calling you Ms. Meat Dress isn't a problem then? 



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