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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Abby: Sleepover Food Requests

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Well. First you limit the number of people invited.

And spending hundreds of dollars on food for one night?

Nah. Plan a menu ahead of time. Put it on the invitation. That way they will know what to expect.

I always ask if I can send something. I don't know why anyone would get upset over being asked to provide milk for their child if it is something special they need.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

You aren't allowed to limit anything. You have to INVITE the whole freaking class now, remember?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

No. I dont. I hated that. The only time I did anything for the whole class was bring cupcakes on birthdays.

I sent invitations through the mail.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Well, that doesn't matter. Some other kid finds out they werent' invited after the fact and you are the Devil.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Let me think about this.

Do I care?

Ummm.... No. I do not.

I have never had it be an issue.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Ha!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

The rule of thumb around here is that if they exclude someone, it's ok. But, if you do, then you are the Devil. lol

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

How can you possibly invite the whole class to a sleepover?

flan

FNW · Guru

HAHA. That whole "invite the whole class" thing ended when the boys started kindergarten. Either parents stopped throwing parties, or they stopped inviting my boys because they don't get too many invites anymore. Which is just fine with me. I started getting picky about whose party they attended because it was out of hand there for awhile. And I don't think 5 year olds should be shooting each other with lazer guns. And I don't think they should go to a party for a child who they do not particularly like.

As for the food requests, let them eat cake. They have special diets, then send them with food they can tolerate. Even in preschool, parents of children who could not eat the food provided, brought with them their own special snacks. It's not rocket science.

Lindley · Guru

I know a couple who's son is severly allergic to wheat to the point it could kill him. Wherever he goes they supply his snack/or meal. They do not request the host/hostess to change their menu to suit him. He knows what foods to stay away from and has been taught to be very careful.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I have a gluten intolerant son. At most parties he could find something to eat. Not cake but I bet they have ice cream which he can have. He can eat the topping off pizza. Nacho's are fine. I think the parents of these kids make too much of it. And yes, if he couldn't eat anything I'd send something.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Lindley wrote:

I know a couple who's son is severly allergic to wheat to the point it could kill him. Wherever he goes they supply his snack/or meal. They do not request the host/hostess to change their menu to suit him. He knows what foods to stay away from and has been taught to be very careful.

If my kid was allergic to the point of deathly anaphylaxis, then I would not be putting my kid into an unsure situation. Yes, you have to teach kids how to avoid the wrong foods and use an epi pen, etc. But, the reality of life is that NOBODY will watch and care for you child as you do. Until my child was of age and mature enough to handle situations then he'/she wouldn't be going.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Your kid wouldn't have much of a life then.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

But at least he or she would be ALIVE.

flan

Lindley · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Lindley wrote:

I know a couple who's son is severly allergic to wheat to the point it could kill him. Wherever he goes they supply his snack/or meal. They do not request the host/hostess to change their menu to suit him. He knows what foods to stay away from and has been taught to be very careful.

If my kid was allergic to the point of deathly anaphylaxis, then I would not be putting my kid into an unsure situation. Yes, you have to teach kids how to avoid the wrong foods and use an epi pen, etc. But, the reality of life is that NOBODY will watch and care for you child as you do. Until my child was of age and mature enough to handle situations then he'/she wouldn't be going.

Everyone who worked with the children at Church were aware of his allergy and never even would have thought to give him anything other then what his mother sent for him to have snack. At bbq's his parents were always present and he himself knows not to eat anything other then what his parents allowed for him to eat. He already experience a episode that almost killed him (that was how they found out his problem) so unless his mother or father gave him the food he always refused. I don't think he went to sleep overs though. The point I was trying to make is they supplied his food and they did not expect any one else to do it for them.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Your kid wouldn't have much of a life then.

Ok? Um it's called Parenting. Like u dont let a 3 yr old run across the Highway. If a child has a LETHAL condition then you need to teach them as a parent and then when time and maturity comes they get more freedom. Kind of like we dont let kids drive when they are 6. Duh.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

And having an intolerance or allergy that upsets your stomach is much different than an anaphylactic reaction. Or maybe you dont understand those terms.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Your kid wouldn't have much of a life then.

Ok? Um it's called Parenting. Like u dont let a 3 yr old run across the Highway. If a child has a LETHAL condition then you need to teach them as a parent and then when time and maturity comes they get more freedom. Kind of like we dont let kids drive when they are 6. Duh.

I'm not saying a 3 year old knows or can know what to avoid.

But by the time they are going to sleepovers, 7-9, they should know how to live with their allergy.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
And having an intolerance or allergy that upsets your stomach is much different than an anaphylactic reaction. Or maybe you dont understand those terms.

Oh I understand them.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

lilyofcourse wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Your kid wouldn't have much of a life then.

Ok? Um it's called Parenting. Like u dont let a 3 yr old run across the Highway. If a child has a LETHAL condition then you need to teach them as a parent and then when time and maturity comes they get more freedom. Kind of like we dont let kids drive when they are 6. Duh.
I'm not saying a 3 year old knows or can know what to avoid.
But by the time they are going to sleepovers, 7-9, they should know how to live with their allergy.

They would also have to be able to READ the complete list of ingredients for any packaged foods.

flan

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
And having an intolerance or allergy that upsets your stomach is much different than an anaphylactic reaction. Or maybe you dont understand those terms.

And that is another reason to send food with them.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Well, my son has an intolerance to gluten. If he eats some it won't out and out kill him. That doesn't mean it won't hurt him. He may look fine at the party but the next day he'll be throwing up and bloated. Peanut allergies and wheat allergies, as well as others, have varying stages of reactions. One person may break out in hives while the next person can't breathe. They are both legitimate allergies.

However, if you're just eating gluten free because it's a fad or you want to eat that way for no specific reason then yes, that is different.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

flan327 wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Your kid wouldn't have much of a life then.

Ok? Um it's called Parenting. Like u dont let a 3 yr old run across the Highway. If a child has a LETHAL condition then you need to teach them as a parent and then when time and maturity comes they get more freedom. Kind of like we dont let kids drive when they are 6. Duh.
I'm not saying a 3 year old knows or can know what to avoid.
But by the time they are going to sleepovers, 7-9, they should know how to live with their allergy.

They would also have to be able to READ the complete list of ingredients for any packaged foods.
flan

This is important because in today's world companies hide crap in all kinds of food.

Lindley · Guru

A little girl who goes to Bible class let me know in uncertain terms that she only eats cookies her mother and grandmother eats because she is allergic to corn. I read the ingrediants on the package of cookies and sure enough it had corn syrup. I do agree they should be old enough to be able to know how serious their allergy is and how to be cautious.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I had a 3 year old in my SS class allergic to chocolate.

Not life threatening, it would make him sleepy.

No one told me this. Not even when we had our little class birthday party for Jesus.

And it was known for weeks that we would be having the party.

I told the parents and grandparents what we would be having.

So while I felt bad, no one told me.

The parents and grandparents should have been responsible enough to say something.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Well, I agree that parents should speak up. Back when DH and I got married he and ex were barely speaking. She wouldn't tell him anything. She failed to tell him that SS had developed a red dye allergy. We had a little JOP ceremony and went out to eat. We had a small cake that we celebrated with at the restaurant. Red velvet. With the most beautiful and HUGE red frosting roses on the top. SS asked if he could have a rose with his cake. Of COURSE YOU CAN! We took him home that night and he vomited all over everywhere. His mom was pissed. I told DH since she knew ahead of time she should have told us. Too bad.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

DD was a vegetarian all during the sleep over years (she has since gone back to eating meat). We simply took a ziploc bag of veggie chicken nuggets to the sleep overs and she ate that, or else had a plain slice of pizza or whatever. I always called the parents ahead of time and told them she was a veggie and also told them NOT to do anything special for her, she would bring her own entree. Of course she didn't act like an entitled idiot over it either. She ate what she wanted to and said no thank you to anything she didn't. Pretty simple actually.