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ed11563 · Guru

Cancelled Wedding

ed11563 · Guru

Link

http://www.upworthy.com/these-parents-had-a-selfless-response-after-their-daughters-groom-canceled-the-wedding?c=upw1&u=fb03ec59a9155e0e13e800a10b5be3a38df73a66

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Good for them.

They were a blessing to those people.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Thanks for sharing that story, ed.

flan

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

This family is a wonderful example of kindness and generosity. They took their lemons and made lemonade for others. I like them.

I hope the bride can find a man who truly loves her. She's a keeper, IMHO.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

What a wonderful gesture especially under the sad circumstances.

ed11563 · Guru

flan327 wrote:
Thanks for sharing that story, ed.

flan

My pleasure, young lady (said with my best John Wayne drawl).

I like reading about and sharing Happies.

Lindley · Guru

Good for her and her family. I hope the bride finds someone who is truly worthy of her. I too love stories like this. Thank you for sharing.

Riding · Guru

this is a wonderful story, thank you for sharing it, and I agree, I hope the bride someday finds the person who truly deserves her and values her

Sin City Girl · Member

That is awesome. As a naturally curious person I want to know why the wedding was cancelled. I can only assume she didn't have her certificate of an intact hymen.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

LOL I saw this on the news about four or five days ago. He told her he didn't love her and didn't want to marry her. Which, as ugly as it is, it's still better than a divorce. So I have to give him a tiny bit of credit.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

I'm guessing she went full on Bridezilla & he ran for his life.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lexxy wrote:
I'm guessing she went full on Bridezilla & he ran for his life.

Why would you assume that?

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

Lawyerlady wrote:
Lexxy wrote:
I'm guessing she went full on Bridezilla & he ran for his life.
Why would you assume that?

I was joking, but I do wonder why he proposed & went to all the trouble of planning the wedding & then backed out last minute. I know it happens. I just wonder why.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

ed11563 wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Thanks for sharing that story, ed.

flan
My pleasure, young lady (said with my best John Wayne drawl).

I like reading about and sharing Happies.

Bwahahaha...... I read that as harpies!

I have GOT to order those glasses.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

She should have picked better! biggrin

huskerbb · Guru

I'd think--35 grand for a fvcking wedding means you are in-g0ddamn-sane.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

huskerbb wrote:
I'd think--35 grand for a fvcking wedding means you are in-g0ddamn-sane.

It's California. Enough said.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lexxy wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Lexxy wrote:
I'm guessing she went full on Bridezilla & he ran for his life.
Why would you assume that?
I was joking, but I do wonder why he proposed & went to all the trouble of planning the wedding & then backed out last minute. I know it happens. I just wonder why.

My SIL left her first baby daddy at the aisle. Day before the wedding she called it all off. Her wedding dress was thousands of dollars. Why didn't he get married? She said he was too soft and cried at movies and stuff. She said he's a big pansy and she wanted to be married to a real man. She's such a douche. Her now DH is finally learning to stand up to her but for years she had him cowering. Her son's father has gone on to get a really good job driving big rigs that haul heavy equipment. Things like CAT tractors. He's also married to a really nice woman with two girls of her own.

Ohfour · Hooker

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
I'd think--35 grand for a fvcking wedding means you are in-g0ddamn-sane.
It's California. Enough said.

I've coordinated weddings for FAR more than that...

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lexxy wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Lexxy wrote:
I'm guessing she went full on Bridezilla & he ran for his life.
Why would you assume that?
I was joking, but I do wonder why he proposed & went to all the trouble of planning the wedding & then backed out last minute. I know it happens. I just wonder why.
My SIL left her first baby daddy at the aisle. Day before the wedding she called it all off. Her wedding dress was thousands of dollars. Why didn't he get married? She said he was too soft and cried at movies and stuff. She said he's a big pansy and she wanted to be married to a real man. She's such a douche. Her now DH is finally learning to stand up to her but for years she had him cowering. Her son's father has gone on to get a really good job driving big rigs that haul heavy equipment. Things like CAT tractors. He's also married to a really nice woman with two girls of her own.

What a terrible reason to ditch someone, besides I assume she knew this about when she accepted his proposal. And it sounds like her DH isn't exactly a He-Man.

I'm glad the sensitive guy did well for himself.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
I'd think--35 grand for a fvcking wedding means you are in-g0ddamn-sane.
It's California. Enough said.

The land of fruits and nuts.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Or she could be the only daughter & Daddy's rich.

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

In New England, the wedding would have been twice that.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Oh Lexxy, my VSS SIL is something. I could tell so many stories. Like how she named her daughter after her husbands g/f so that every time he called his daughter he would be "reminded" that she won out over her. Or the time she wanted to know how big DH er was... She was comparing all the men in her family to find out who was the um "biggest". Or how about the time she took pole dancing classes for fun and exercise and showed up at Thanksgiving in six inch heels and gave us all a demonstration of what she'd learned. She wants six kids and all her FB posts complain about how horrible it is to be a SAHM. Her brother, my DH, can't stand to be around her.

huskerbb · Guru

Doesn't mean it isn't insane. I'm betting my $3,000 wedding spawned a marriage that will last longer than most $30,000 weddings.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lawyerlady wrote:
In New England, the wedding would have been twice that.

Weddings very so much. Depends on where you are and what you want. I've seen beautiful wedding pulled off really inexpensively and also very lavish weddings. It's easy to get out of control.

Ohfour · Hooker

huskerbb wrote:
Doesn't mean it isn't insane. I'm betting my $3,000 wedding spawned a marriage that will last longer than most $30,000 weddings.

Hell, a decent cake costs that...

huskerbb · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Doesn't mean it isn't insane. I'm betting my $3,000 wedding spawned a marriage that will last longer than most $30,000 weddings.
Hell, a decent cake costs that...

My mom makes the best wedding cakes money can buy--and she doesn't get $300 much less 3,000.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I bet my wedding was less than a thousand and it was really nice.

But cost doesn't mean a better marriage.

Cheap or over the top extravagant, doesn't matter if both of those in it doesn't want it.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

My dad attended a wedding that cost $125,000. It was a family member of his wife. The marriage lasted 10 months.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Dang. My DH got a deal!

Our wedding cost less then $800.00, 40 years ago.

Mom made my wedding dress and the bridesmaids dresses.

We cooked all the food.

My great aunt raised the flowers.

DH's mom made the wedding cake.

We had over 300 guests.

The after party lasted until 4 in the morning.

It was grand. smile

ed11563 · Guru

just Czech wrote:
Dang. My DH got a deal!

Our wedding cost less then $800.00, 40 years ago.

Mom made my wedding dress and the bridesmaids dresses.

We cooked all the food.

My great aunt raised the flowers.

DH's mom made the wedding cake.

We had over 300 guests.

The after party lasted until 4 in the morning.

It was grand.

You were a great catch !!! Probably still are. smile

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

just Czech wrote:
Dang. My DH got a deal!

Our wedding cost less then $800.00, 40 years ago.

Mom made my wedding dress and the bridesmaids dresses.

We cooked all the food.

My great aunt raised the flowers.

DH's mom made the wedding cake.

We had over 300 guests.

The after party lasted until 4 in the morning.

It was grand.

40 years ago, $800 was equal to today's $35,000.

biggrin

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

ed11563 wrote:
just Czech wrote:
Dang. My DH got a deal!

Our wedding cost less then $800.00, 40 years ago.

Mom made my wedding dress and the bridesmaids dresses.

We cooked all the food.

My great aunt raised the flowers.

DH's mom made the wedding cake.

We had over 300 guests.

The after party lasted until 4 in the morning.

It was grand.
You were a great catch !!! Probably still are.

Thank you, ed. smile

DH would agree with you, he thinks I'm still the best catch ever.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

lilyofcourse wrote:
just Czech wrote:
Dang. My DH got a deal!

Our wedding cost less then $800.00, 40 years ago.

Mom made my wedding dress and the bridesmaids dresses.

We cooked all the food.

My great aunt raised the flowers.

DH's mom made the wedding cake.

We had over 300 guests.

The after party lasted until 4 in the morning.

It was grand.
40 years ago, $800 was equal to today's $35,000.

LOL, Lily. That's a leap!

But I would have been worth it. biggrin

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lawyerlady wrote:
In New England, the wedding would have been twice that.

You can say that again!

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Southern_Belle wrote:
My dad attended a wedding that cost $125,000. It was a family member of his wife. The marriage lasted 10 months.

My wedding cost ~30K, marriage lasted 5 days, well longer, but 5 days till his craziness came out and I was in regret stage. It was THE best reception ever though. My friends still talk about it. Everything was lovely and fun! Between the two lawyer's our divorce cost more. confuse

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

My divorce cost more too.

But it was worth every penny.

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Thursday 22nd of October 2015 08:14:59 PM

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

lilyofcourse wrote:
My divorce cost more too.
But it was worth every penny.

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Thursday 22nd of October 2015 08:14:59 PM

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

So anyway, I thought what the family did was a great gesture. They all could have been so emotionally drained that they may have chosen just to walk away, but instead they organized this most awesome meal for those families. I think that is a great way to turn the other cheek.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Legal aide did my divorce. I think it cost me twenty dollars. But honestly, there was nothing to do but have the papers signed. Child support had already been set, we had no assets to divide, and I was given custody. It was just a matter of paperwork.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
So anyway, I thought what the family did was a great gesture. They all could have been so emotionally drained that they may have chosen just to walk away, but instead they organized this most awesome meal for those families. I think that is a great way to turn the other cheek.

Me too.

And what a great example they set for the young people in their family.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Legal aide did my divorce. I think it cost me twenty dollars. But honestly, there was nothing to do but have the papers signed. Child support had already been set, we had no assets to divide, and I was given custody. It was just a matter of paperwork.

I went through 3 attorneys.

The first, she drew up the papers, we were about to sign but he got a bug up his but about the child support. I realized I wasn't going to be able to afford her. Plus I was pregnant and nothing would be final until the baby was born.

So I dropped her.

Second, we were trying to work things out. Or I thought we were anyway. That's when I got pregnant again. Total surprise. So we just did a legal separation cause once again, nothing could be final till the baby was born.

Third time was the charm. It had been 3 years since we split. I had done everything I knew to do to make things work. Counseling, time, everything.

It was a long process. But worth it.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

The cynic in me is wondering if they can now write off the cost of the meal since they donated it?

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Mellow Momma wrote:
The cynic in me is wondering if they can now write off the cost of the meal since they donated it?

Perhaps, but at least the food wasn't thrown away and those people from the shelter benefited. Plus they would recoup only a fraction in taxes of the total cost.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Mellow Momma wrote:
The cynic in me is wondering if they can now write off the cost of the meal since they donated it?

I hope so.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I don't think that's cynical.

I think it would be prudent.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Why not write it off if you can? Why is that "cynical" to feed the homeless and take a tax write off? Not sure what would be wrong with that.

ed11563 · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
The cynic in me is wondering if they can now write off the cost of the meal since they donated it?

Unfortunately, it's only deductible if it's a donation to an approved non-profit organization / charity.

Maybe if they'd called up a local homeless shelter or church, said "we have some food we'd like to donate to you, can you get people here?" then it might have been a donation to that charity.

TOTALLY GEEKED!

These parents had a selfless response after their daughter's groom canceled the wedding.

When the Duanes found out their daughter's wedding was canceled because the groom got cold feet, they decided to turn lemons into lemonade.

Instead of just getting mad — and honestly, who could blame them? — the bride's parents still threw the reception. And they invited Sacramento's homeless population to partake.

The feast was more than just a meal for those who made it out.

Check out KCRA News' coverage of the story below: