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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Harriette: Too Many Activities!

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Hah. Welcome to my world, except I teach Awana every week and Sunday school once every month.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lawyerlady wrote:
Hah. Welcome to my world, except I teach Awana every week and Sunday school once every month.

No sh*t. Except I work 60 hours a week, run and maintain a household by my self. Raise a kid by myself, volunteer as the Treasurer in two different non profits, volunteer for charitable projects, and on and on. Oh did I say my commute is 2.5 a day?

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Everyone needs downtime.

Unless you want to work yourself to death...

flan

-- Edited by flan327 on Sunday 15th of November 2015 03:48:45 PM

FNW · Guru

I would have no problem stepping away. Pick something you can part with, such as choir or an activity or two with your son, and say something like, "gosh, I just can't help out this time."

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

The hardest, but most important thing a person can learn, is how to say "no".

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I have no problems saying no either. My family is too important to me. I kind of put this in the same category as huskers complaining about money and then having pets you can't afford. I know people who stretch themselves so thin doing every single thing and then constantly whine about how they have no time. Say no and it won't be a problem.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

FNW wrote:
I would have no problem stepping away. Pick something you can part with, such as choir or an activity or two with your son, and say something like, "gosh, I just can't help out this time."

Yeah, I've started saying "no". It is quite liberating. Now just need to rid myself of the commute and one non profit accounting work. My boss is working on getting me assigned to a different project closer to home.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I have no problems saying no either. My family is too important to me. I kind of put this in the same category as huskers complaining about money and then having pets you can't afford. I know people who stretch themselves so thin doing every single thing and then constantly whine about how they have no time. Say no and it won't be a problem.

And that works if you don't have a career outside the house. I do and volunteering for professional societies brings me valuable accolades that keeps me valuable at my job.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I have no problems saying no either. My family is too important to me. I kind of put this in the same category as huskers complaining about money and then having pets you can't afford. I know people who stretch themselves so thin doing every single thing and then constantly whine about how they have no time. Say no and it won't be a problem.
And that works if you don't have a career outside the house. I do and volunteering for professional societies brings me valuable accolades that keeps me valuable at my job.

Oh, so because I don't work I can't possibly understand? Nice little passive aggressive slam. I worked for decades. I learned how to say no.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Oh FF's

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Oh FF's back. All I said is if you, GENERAL YOU, WANTS to over extend yourself that's fine. If that is what makes a person happy and content then more power to them. Just don't whine and complain that you have too much on your plate. It's just like the money thing. People who have pets they can't afford and then complain about not having money. The lady in this letter is not happy. She needs to not do so much. Not everyone desires to be and do all things.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Oh FF's back. All I said is if you, GENERAL YOU, WANTS to over extend yourself that's fine. If that is what makes a person happy and content then more power to them. Just don't whine and complain that you have too much on your plate. It's just like the money thing. People who have pets they can't afford and then complain about not having money. The lady in this letter is not happy. She needs to not do so much. Not everyone desires to be and do all things.

Direct quote from you:

"My family is too important to me. I kind of put this in the same category as huskers complaining about money and then having pets you can't afford. I know people who stretch themselves so thin doing every single thing and then constantly whine about how they have no time. Say no and it won't be a problem."

As if my family isn't important. My family is extremely important but I can't just pack it in at 5 PM and say ta-ta to my work.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

But you say you are happy with your life. So if you are happy with your job and your extracurricular stuff then that doesn't apply now does it? You yourself said that all you do outside of work makes you a much more valuable person. I'm not talking about people who are happy with their lives. I'm talking about people, like in the OP, that are not happy with their life. If you're miserable with your life it's time to make some changes.

FNW · Guru

I honestly didn't read either one of your comments as being snarky to the other.

Saying no is important. But also saying no to the right things, which means outside activities that don't benefit the family unit, IMO. Which why I mentioned her choir singing first.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

FNW wrote:
I honestly didn't read either one of your comments as being snarky to the other.

Saying no is important. But also saying no to the right things, which means outside activities that don't benefit the family unit, IMO. Which why I mentioned her choir singing first.

Thanks FNW. Voice of reason you are.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Actually, after I stepped away from a lot of baloney, I found that I am busier than ever but spending my time in the way I want too.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Actually, after I stepped away from a lot of baloney, I found that I am busier than ever but spending my time in the way I want too.

I really think this is very true. When I quit working I found myself doing so much. SS was much younger then and I was always volunteering at his school. I would go on field trips and go eat lunch with him and go to all his school programs. I'd watch him sing and have Thanksgiving with him at school. I stayed really busy but it was stuff I really wanted to do. When my kids were his age I was a single mom and didn't have the opportunity to take off to do/see all those things. So I really got to relive that through/with him. I really enjoyed it. He's getting older so they don't do as much now though.

I was also the one who took him to all his doctor's appointments and everything. Since DH was gone working so much and his mom worked so much I would take responsibility of him a lot. Every time she couldn't get him from school I was there. I did all the doctor stuff with him. One summer I had him the whole summer. I loved it but it was exhausting. But everyone knew I wasn't working so they would call on me every time they needed something.

And for awhile I became the neighborhood mom without the important career. You know, the SAHM that all the hard working moms could call if they needed something. If their kid needed a ride or lost their house key or whatever. Again, I didn't mind. I did it gladly and was always happy to help because I remembered the days of being single and needing to rely on others. So I tried to pay it forward so to speak.

Anyway, my point is I was just as busy at times as if I worked. I liked doing what I did but like LGS said I was busy spending my time the way I wanted to.