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Lady Gaga Snerd


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Q. Ideals vs. Gut-Level Discomfort in a Monogam-ish Marriage: 
We’re a late-20s, super happily married couple, both bisexual to varying degrees, who keep things monogam-ish (we have threesomes with friends and acquaintances but we don’t keep partners on the side). We recently realized we’re both comfortable with the other having solo hookups on the side ... but only if it’s same-gender. We’d both feel more threatened by an opposite-gender hookup than a same-gender one. We feel terrible about this because it’s so heteronormative (and clichéd as hell)! But a gut feeling is a gut feeling. Should we structure our “rules of engagement” around that admittedly dumb gut feeling, or try to bring ourselves to get out of a retrograde way of thinking?


A: I don’t know if it’s retrograde or not, but you certainly can’t guilt yourself into enjoying one another’s opposite-sex hookups. That spoils all of the fun of an open(ish) marriage. Can you imagine sending one another out unhappily into the night to find a partner of the opposite sex out of a grim, dutiful sense of gender equality? I assume you’re not saying you prefer same-gender hookups because they’re not “real” or don’t “count” (much as I assume you don’t leap out at same-sex couples and declare them imaginary), just that you would rather keep something exclusive between the two of you. Which is fine! You can feel guilty about not hooking up with an equal amount of men and women if you want, but it seems like a waste of your time. Keep whatever rules work for you, as long as they work for you.


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You are both pigs.

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

You are both pigs.

 I AM OFFENDED!

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Bwaaahhh!

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Ugh.

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Pigs would never act like that!!!!

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Sick and twisted. Rutting like pigs...lol

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Oink!

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This has to be a joke.

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Open relationships only work if everyone involved stay on the same page so to speak.

Yes. This is a real thing that happens.

Yes. There are those with these types of relationships.

But it generally doesn't have any real longevity because emotions will always come into play at some point.



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FNW wrote:

This has to be a joke.

 I doubt it...

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lilyofcourse wrote:

Open relationships only work if everyone involved stay on the same page so to speak.

Yes. This is a real thing that happens.

Yes. There are those with these types of relationships.

But it generally doesn't have any real longevity because emotions will always come into play at some point.

 They are trying to be politically correct perverts?   Bahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!!!



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husker, tell us how you really feel...

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Someone REALLY had to write to Prudie about this?

You really can't fix stupid.  no



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just Czech wrote:

Someone REALLY had to write to Prudie about this?

You really can't fix stupid.  no

 No, but apparently you can fvck it!

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I think I need brain bleach after reading that OP, and maybe a penicillin shot.

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flan327 wrote:
just Czech wrote:

Someone REALLY had to write to Prudie about this?

You really can't fix stupid.  no

 No, but apparently you can fvck it!

flan

 LOL! 



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I think i would just have to bitchslap someone who uses heteronormative in a conversation. lol

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I want to see that!

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