TOTALLY GEEKED!

Members Login
Username 
 
Password 
    Remember Me  
totallygeeked -> totallygeeked general -> Just trying to help an old classmate
Post Info TOPIC: Just trying to help an old classmate
Empyreal


Senior Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 621
Date:
Just trying to help an old classmate
Permalink  
 

This is a guy I went to high school with.  He died last night.  It's so sad. 

His house burned down last summer.  He has been working to rebuild it.  He was trying to wire it himself and was electrocuted. 

If anybody wants to chip in for a karma boost that is totally awesome! 

Even just a prayer for his family is a very nice thing.  He leaves behind 4 boys and a wife.  He was a good dude. 

https://www.gofundme.com/7ykjttac



__________________
Turn your face to the sun and the shadows will fall behind you.
ed11563


Guru

Status: Offline
Posts: 9186
Date:
Permalink  
 

Empy, how well did you know this guy and his family?

Were they living on Welfare?



__________________

The Principle of Least Interest: He who cares least about a relationship, controls it.

Always misinterpret when you can.
just Czech


Give Me Grand's!

Status: Offline
Posts: 13802
Date:
Permalink  
 

ed, it doesn't matter if he was on welfare or not, he died and left a loving family behind.

So sorry for the loss of your friend, Empy. Sending prayers for his family.

__________________

I drink coffee so I don't kill you.

I quilt so I don't kill you.

Do you see a theme?

Faith isn't something that keeps bad things from happening. Faith is what helps us get through bad things when they do happen.
Nobody Just Nobody


Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Status: Offline
Posts: 24026
Date:
Permalink  
 

Empy, sorry to hear he died. His wife and kids will miss him. I will keep them in my prayers.

__________________


“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!”
― Maya Angelou
NAOW


Vette's SS

Status: Offline
Posts: 5001
Date:
Permalink  
 

That's so sad.

__________________
Empyreal


Senior Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 621
Date:
Permalink  
 

Thanks you guys!

You are all so sweet. It's just one of those things that gets you right to the core. He was such a loving dad to those boys, my heart aches so much that they will yearn for him until they are all together again. It makes my heart so insanely heavy.

Everybody please hug your family tight and remember that any one of us can be gone in an instant. Life is precious!

__________________
Turn your face to the sun and the shadows will fall behind you.
Lindley


Guru

Status: Offline
Posts: 9186
Date:
Permalink  
 

I'm sorry emptyreal, Prayers for his family .

__________________
Empyreal


Senior Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 621
Date:
Permalink  
 

ed11563 wrote:

Empy, how well did you know this guy and his family?

Were they living on Welfare?

 Ed-

I had my first son with my high school sweetheart. 

This man is the best friend of my son's father.  I didn't know him well enough to know how they budgeted life but I spent many days with him at the lake and tons of other hang outs while I was dating my son's dad.  That was while I was in High school so it's been 15+ years..  I kept in touch with him on FB as well as through my son and his dad.  My son and his son played together often as they are almost the same age.  Sleepovers etc.

  I live an hour south of where I grew up but they all stayed in that town.  That group of friends, they just sort of stuck around in the place where we grew up. 

He was considered an uncle to my son.  When me and my ex had our baby (we were very young) In fact, I had my son on graduation night.  No kidding.

 Uncle Joe used to come around all of the time.  I remember him coming to my apartment and being such a loving person to our brand new baby.  He used to rock him in my rocking chair and I remember him telling my tiny newborn that he was so cool that he hoped that one day he would have such an amazing son himself...  He used to cuddle and rock him and he would always ask me if I needed anything for baby.  He would tell me things that his grandma told him about newborns.  How they like to be burped, what the bath temp should be, what to do for colic..  It was all so comical to me because he was this giant, gruff, Irish kid but he was so tender and sweet when it came to kids. 

He bought diapers and other things for my son when he was a baby. I realize now how remarkable that was.  He was roofing houses at that age and the fact that he spent his hard earned money on helping to take care of his buddies baby is so insanely sweet.  I never asked him to do that and I was doing okay as a young mom.  I had a good job and my wonderful family to help me.  He was just that type of guy.  He always loved kids and wanted to help little ones along in life. 

He did get his wish of having and awesome son, he went on to have 4 awesome sons of his own.  His first born was only a year after ours. 

He loved being a dad.  He loved his family so much. 

I know enough people to see things like this happen.  I have lost friends to car accidents, cancer, drugs, one person drowned...  I am not a stranger to loss. 

Losing this person in particular has just really hurt me bad. 

He wasn't a regular fixture in my life. 

It's just more about the circumstances.  His kids.  His wife.  Who he was... The fact that they were trying to get their house back because it burned down.  How he helped people around him and how he loved little kids so much.  It just hurts.  He was such a good good dude. 

I'm really sad about this one.  It just plain sucks that he is gone. 



__________________
Turn your face to the sun and the shadows will fall behind you.
Empyreal


Senior Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 621
Date:
Permalink  
 

A funny Big Joe story :)

When I was a young mom, I had an apartment. We got this new complex manager who was a young ditzy over zealous chick.

Seriously. If she saw a big gulp cup in the parking lot, she would tape it to the closest car with a note. "Let's not have trash from our cars causing a litter problem for all residents, THANK YOU"

One time, I came home to find a note on my door, notifying me that I was several cents short on my rent so here is a formal eviction notice. Eviction!

Huh? several cents? I looked at my rental agreement and again at my check book to see what the discrepancy was. I wrote a check for the exact amount so.. What is this?

My guy and Joe came over shortly after and I asked them what they thought this was about?

Joe says to me "Don't sweat it, let's just go ask?"

So we go to the complex office and crazy new management chick is sitting at the desk.

Joe says very sweetly "Hello there, I just got this notice on my door and wanted to make sure I'm all squared up on rent" She asks for his apartment number. He gives her my door #.

She says "Uh.... yep. That apartment was just a few cents short"

He says "How many? It was paid by check so I don't get that."

Her "Ohhhhhh oops, okay it's the one across from that. They paid in cash and it was 7 cents short."

Him " so how much is the paper notice and the walk over there worth? Can you really evict people over 7 cents? Why can't you just notify them and see if they come up with it before you put an eviction notice out? That seems crazy?"

Her " well, now that we've cleared up that the eviction is regarding a dwelling that isn't yours, there's no reason for you to be asking. Thanks for stopping by."

He took his wallet out and threw a dollar bill at her. "Consider them paid up. And you can keep the fu qing change!!!!"

haha!

He was a good dude.

Big Joe!


__________________
Turn your face to the sun and the shadows will fall behind you.
chef


Guru

Status: Offline
Posts: 6644
Date:
Permalink  
 

*hugs* Empy

__________________

~At Gnome in the Kitchen~
Tangerine


Guru

Status: Offline
Posts: 1849
Date:
Permalink  
 

I'm sorry about your friend, empy. (((Hugs)))

__________________
Fort Worth Mom


Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

Status: Offline
Posts: 13089
Date:
Permalink  
 

I'm sorry to hear about your friend, empy. Hugs to you.

Prayers for his family.



__________________

Ohioan by birth, Texan by choice!
Empyreal


Senior Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 621
Date:
Permalink  
 

Thanks guys. It actually felt good to just come and talk about that. I didn't really have anybody to discuss this with.

It left me feeling helpless.

You just have to live every day knowing that we aren't guaranteed a tomorrow.

You geeks are good people :)

__________________
Turn your face to the sun and the shadows will fall behind you.
Lady Gaga Snerd


Guru

Status: Offline
Posts: 25897
Date:
Permalink  
 

I am sorry to hear that. Very sad.

__________________

https://politicsandstuff.proboards.com/
Nobody Just Nobody


Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Status: Offline
Posts: 24026
Date:
Permalink  
 

Let us know how his family is doing empy.

__________________


“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!”
― Maya Angelou
Southern_Belle


Nothing's Impossible

Status: Offline
Posts: 16913
Date:
Permalink  
 

So sorry empy!

__________________

A person's a person no matter how small.
Nobody Just Nobody


Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Status: Offline
Posts: 24026
Date:
Permalink  
 

Do you have an update for us empty.

__________________


“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!”
― Maya Angelou
Page 1 of 1  sorted by
 
Quick Reply

Please log in to post quick replies.
totallygeeked -> totallygeeked general -> Just trying to help an old classmate


Create your own FREE Forum
Report Abuse 		Powered by ActiveBoard