TOTALLY GEEKED!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Prudie: I am Asexual

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

How about 'thanks for the advice. Did you see the latest episode of Hell's Kitchen" and move on. Grown ups don't have to explain their lives to other grown ups.

FNW · Guru

I know a lot of "old maids". Women who never married. My SIL for one. Whether she is asexual or not, is none of my business. I would like to see her happy with someone. But I'm not sure she's capable of having a relationship. In her 55+ years, I believe she has only been on one or two dates (when men). She was mortified when the man tried to touch her. I don't know what he tried with her, but from what she told me, it didn't sound like much. She does have a lot of female friends though.

I suspect her upbringing had a lot to do with her issues. Her father walked in on her mother with another man and he kicked her out. He was mean and angry with SIL when she moved out, claiming she was under an obligation to stay at home and cook/clean for him. Her mother never encouraged her to date. Instead, involved herself in SIL's social life. So.......I think there was a reason DH left home and moved far away after college.

ed11563 · Guru

Felix and Oscar, Bert and Ernie ...

She could get a room mate. Someone who also doesn't date.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I've been asked why I don't date. Don't I want a man. Don't I need companionship.

And yeah, there are times I'd like to be able to see someone beside me.

But then I think about how much work it would be.

Getting to know him, his family. My kids and family getting to know them.
And at this point in life, he'd mostly have at least 1 ex wife and have his own kids.

Eh. Who needs the aggravation?

When people start in with that stuff, I ask them why would I want the hassle. I do what I want, when I want and I don't have to share the remote or the covers.

OP, on the other hand, sounds like she wants person, just not the sex.

Maybe there is nothing there. Maybe she would feel differently with the right person.

Who knows.

But she can tell people she isn't interested and leave it at that when asked.

weltschmerz · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
I've been asked why I don't date. Don't I want a man. Don't I need companionship.

And yeah, there are times I'd like to be able to see someone beside me.

But then I think about how much work it would be.

Getting to know him, his family. My kids and family getting to know them.
And at this point in life, he'd mostly have at least 1 ex wife and have his own kids.

Eh. Who needs the aggravation?

When people start in with that stuff, I ask them why would I want the hassle. I do what I want, when I want and I don't have to share the remote or the covers.

OP, on the other hand, sounds like she wants person, just not the sex.

Maybe there is nothing there. Maybe she would feel differently with the right person.

Who knows.

But she can tell people she isn't interested and leave it at that when asked.

No, She wouldn't. It's like saying a gay man will feel differently with the right woman. It doesn't work that way.

Yes, some people are homosexual, some are bisexual, and some are asexual. It's a real thing.

There are clubs and boards for asexual people. I'm surprised that Prudie didn't mention it.

If you want companionship with no sex, that's the place to go.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Oh get over yourself.

If you are in a loving, safe relationship, it's natural to want to share yourself with that person.

The right person being just that.

Don't go looking for offense where there is none.

weltschmerz · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Oh get over yourself.

If you are in a loving, safe relationship, it's natural to want to share yourself with that person.

The right person being just that.

Don't go looking for offense where there is none.

You have no idea what you're talking about. Asexuality is very real. I know several asexuals.

"Get over myself" because I stated a fact?

weltschmerz · Guru

www.whatisasexuality.com/intro/

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

www.asexuality.org/home/

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Yeah. Get over yourself.

You want to find offense in everything.

Kiss off.

weltschmerz · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Yeah. Get over yourself.

You want to find offense in everything.

Kiss off.

What the HELL are you babbling about?

I provided you with facts. Where did I take offense?

weltschmerz · Guru

Maybe you should educate yourself instead of flying off the handle like a crazy person.
Read the links I posted.
Asexuality is real. It has nothing to do with "taking offense".

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I don't think you know as much as you like to think you do.

weltschmerz · Guru

And you know less than you think you do.

weltschmerz · Guru

Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.

Ohfour · Hooker

weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.

Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?

weltschmerz · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?

Absolutely. Abnormal sexuality was part and parcel of my psych degree.

I worked in psych for decades, and it was something you had to know.

They're not going to teach it in Business Administration.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Awww.... ain't she cute.

You took offense where there was none intended.

Now you think you have to prove yourself.

I don't care what you have or have not studied.

It doesn't matter to me.

weltschmerz · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Awww.... ain't she cute.

You took offense where there was none intended.

Now you think you have to prove yourself.

I don't care what you have or have not studied.

It doesn't matter to me.

No, of course you don't. Facts don't matter in your little world.

weltschmerz · Guru

Where did I "take offence"?

Oooh, this must be like "All your posts are pro-Muslim".
In other words, you pulled it out of your nether regions and called it a day.
Come up with even one, yet?
Nah, I didn't think so.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Can I use the phrase "bloviating blowhard" and not refer to Trump? Pretty please?

flan

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

lilyofcourse wrote:
Awww.... ain't she cute.

You took offense where there was none intended.

Now you think you have to prove yourself.

I don't care what you have or have not studied.

It doesn't matter to me.

Then why post?

flan

weltschmerz · Guru

Again....show me the post where I "took offence."
But you won't. You'll just slink off, as usual.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

No, She wouldn't. It's like saying a gay man will feel differently with the right woman.

This.

This is you being offended.

You want what I said to be something bad even though that isn't what I meant.

You fabricated an offense.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?

Welts is a self proclaimed expert on many things. She took AP classes in HS and a pyschology class.

huskerbb · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?
Absolutely. Abnormal sexuality was part and parcel of my psych degree.
I worked in psych for decades, and it was something you had to know.
They're not going to teach it in Business Administration.

Well, at least you admit its deviant behavior.

weltschmerz · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?
Welts is a self proclaimed expert on many things. She took AP classes in HS and a pyschology class.

Wrong. Not a class. I have a degree in psychology.

weltschmerz · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?
Absolutely. Abnormal sexuality was part and parcel of my psych degree.
I worked in psych for decades, and it was something you had to know.
They're not going to teach it in Business Administration.
Well, at least you admit its deviant behavior.

Where on earth did I admit that? I never said any such thing.

It doesn't fall within "normal" parameters, but I don't think it's deviant.

weltschmerz · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
No, She wouldn't. It's like saying a gay man will feel differently with the right woman.

This.

This is you being offended.

You want what I said to be something bad even though that isn't what I meant.

You fabricated an offense.

Correcting you when you're so very, very wrong isn't taking offence.

It's correcting you when you're wrong. With an example.

huskerbb · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?
Absolutely. Abnormal sexuality was part and parcel of my psych degree.
I worked in psych for decades, and it was something you had to know.
They're not going to teach it in Business Administration.
Well, at least you admit its deviant behavior.
Where on earth did I admit that? I never said any such thing.
It doesn't fall within "normal" parameters, but I don't think it's deviant.

LOL!!!! Try to follow here.

Asexual behavior is the topic. A poster said that "sexual deviance"--meaning, in this case, asexual behavior--was your area of expertise.

You answered "ABSOLUTELY"--thus agreeing with the assertion of asexual behavior being deviant.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?
Welts is a self proclaimed expert on many things. She took AP classes in HS and a pyschology class.
Wrong. Not a class. I have a degree in psychology.

So do a lot of people waiting tables.

weltschmerz · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?
Absolutely. Abnormal sexuality was part and parcel of my psych degree.
I worked in psych for decades, and it was something you had to know.
They're not going to teach it in Business Administration.
Well, at least you admit its deviant behavior.
Where on earth did I admit that? I never said any such thing.
It doesn't fall within "normal" parameters, but I don't think it's deviant.
LOL!!!! Try to follow here.

Asexual behavior is the topic. A poster said that "sexual deviance"--meaning, in this case, asexual behavior--was your area of expertise.

You answered "ABSOLUTELY"--thus agreeing with the assertion of asexual behavior being deviant.

Again...I don't think it's deviant.

"Absolutely" was in regard to yes, sexuality is an area of my expertise. Abnormal and otherwise.

You'll also note that she attempted to insult me in her query.

Ohfour · Hooker

Its kinda like a liberal arts degree.

huskerbb · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?
Absolutely. Abnormal sexuality was part and parcel of my psych degree.
I worked in psych for decades, and it was something you had to know.
They're not going to teach it in Business Administration.
Well, at least you admit its deviant behavior.
Where on earth did I admit that? I never said any such thing.
It doesn't fall within "normal" parameters, but I don't think it's deviant.
LOL!!!! Try to follow here.

Asexual behavior is the topic. A poster said that "sexual deviance"--meaning, in this case, asexual behavior--was your area of expertise.

You answered "ABSOLUTELY"--thus agreeing with the assertion of asexual behavior being deviant.
Again...I don't think it's deviant.
"Absolutely" was in regard to yes, sexuality is an area of my expertise. Abnormal and otherwise.
You'll also note that she attempted to insult me in her query.

No. You don't get to pick and choose after the fact which part you were responding to.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

But but she's an expert on human sexuality!!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Sorry a BS degree does not an "expert" make.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Of course she will rag on Dr Phil so go figure.

weltschmerz · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?
Welts is a self proclaimed expert on many things. She took AP classes in HS and a pyschology class.
Wrong. Not a class. I have a degree in psychology.

So do a lot of people waiting tables.

And? It served me well, with a lifetime career.

Ohfour · Hooker

weltschmerz wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?
Welts is a self proclaimed expert on many things. She took AP classes in HS and a pyschology class.
Wrong. Not a class. I have a degree in psychology.

So do a lot of people waiting tables.
And? It served me well, with a lifetime career.

Lifetime? Arent you giving shots to kids now? Didn't know you needed a psychology degree for that...

weltschmerz · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?
Welts is a self proclaimed expert on many things. She took AP classes in HS and a pyschology class.
Wrong. Not a class. I have a degree in psychology.

So do a lot of people waiting tables.
And? It served me well, with a lifetime career.
Lifetime? Arent you giving shots to kids now? Didn't know you needed a psychology degree for that...

Even though I don't have to explain myself to you, I worked in acute psychiatry for a very long time.

Now I have two part-time jobs.....one at the community clinic and one in psychogeriatrics.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

You dont have to explain yourself yet you demanded 04 explain herself. Uh huh.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Um Dr. Phil doesn't have a degree. He has some fake honorary degree but not a real one.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Again, read the links I posted. Educate yourself.
This is part of my field of expertise.
Maybe you think putting some mustard on it will fix it.
Sexual deviance is your area of expertise? Wanna see my shocked face?
Absolutely. Abnormal sexuality was part and parcel of my psych degree.
I worked in psych for decades, and it was something you had to know.
They're not going to teach it in Business Administration.
Well, at least you admit its deviant behavior.
Where on earth did I admit that? I never said any such thing.
It doesn't fall within "normal" parameters, but I don't think it's deviant.

husker's world is Black and White...

flan

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
You dont have to explain yourself yet you demanded 04 explain herself. Uh huh.

Except she just DID explain herself.

04 works for Sony, so yeah, not a psychologist.

Uh huh.

flan

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

McGraw graduated in 1975 from Midwestern State University with a B.A. in psychology. He went on to earn an M.A. in experimental psychology in 1976, and a Ph.D. degree in clinical psychology in 1979 at the University of North Texas,[9] where his dissertation was titled "Rheumatoid Arthritis: A Psychological Intervention".[10]

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

flan327 wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
You dont have to explain yourself yet you demanded 04 explain herself. Uh huh.
Except she just DID explain herself.
04 works for Sony, so yeah, not a psychologist.
Uh huh.
flan

So Welts is a pyschologist?

weltschmerz · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Of course she will rag on Dr Phil so go figure.

I thought you weren't supposed to bring crap from other boards here.

Have the rules changed recently?

Now I can talk about what you said on other boards? Cool!

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

weltschmerz wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
No, She wouldn't. It's like saying a gay man will feel differently with the right woman.

This.

This is you being offended.

You want what I said to be something bad even though that isn't what I meant.

You fabricated an offense.
Correcting you when you're so very, very wrong isn't taking offence.
It's correcting you when you're wrong. With an example.

But you don't know I'm wrong.

Awfully presumptive for someone who is supposed to have psychology degree.

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Sunday 14th of February 2016 05:36:05 PM

huskerbb · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Um Dr. Phil doesn't have a degree. He has some fake honorary degree but not a real one.

Proof?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Of course she will rag on Dr Phil so go figure.
I thought you weren't supposed to bring crap from other boards here.
Have the rules changed recently?
Now I can talk about what you said on other boards? Cool!

What other boards? You have beitched about him on here. I dont even talk much on other boards and not much about DrPhil. I talked about him on here.