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lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

When does a secret....

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

When it does damage?

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

That is way too vague. Is it your secret or someone else's? Is the secret hiding something you should not have done? Were you asked directly about it?

Is it really nobody else's business? Is it any of your business?

Too many possible variables.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

What LL said.

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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Yeah. I dont know. Depends on the CONTEXT.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lawyerlady wrote:
That is way too vague. Is it your secret or someone else's? Is the secret hiding something you should not have done? Were you asked directly about it?

Is it really nobody else's business? Is it any of your business?

Too many possible variables.

Actually I started wondering after seeing commercials for that show, Younger.

But other than that, we've seen letters about people's past, asking if they should tell a significant other or something like that.

With me, I've kept my past a secret from a whole lot of people.

But just thinking, what would make a secret, a lie?

Whenitrains · Member

When it's not the truth? a rumor?

ed11563 · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
That is way too vague. Is it your secret or someone else's? Is the secret hiding something you should not have done? Were you asked directly about it?

Is it really nobody else's business? Is it any of your business?

Too many possible variables.
Actually I started wondering after seeing commercials for that show, Younger.

But other than that, we've seen letters about people's past, asking if they should tell a significant other or something like that.
With me, I've kept my past a secret from a whole lot of people.
But just thinking, what would make a secret, a lie?

A "little white lie" is something that's not true, or not entirely true, that does no damage.

A "secret" that's a lie?

A lie is a lie.

A secret is only a secret until it's told. Then it's a lie if it's a lie (not true), especially if it does or is intended to do damage.

Can you give us some context? What is the "secret" (we don't need actual details, make up something similar for us)?

One example: "I didn't graduate from college or get a teaching degree, but I got a job teaching nursery school only after I lied about that."

(Five years later they found out and fired her.) Is this something like what you mean?

Tangerine · Guru

Do you mean something like "I have terminal cancer and I'm not telling my family"?
Or "I slept around a bunch before I met you but I've tested clean, so I'm not going to mention it"?

I don't know. Sometimes the information would really matter to other people- even if it's none of their business.
It really depends on the situation.

FNW · Guru

When you've denied the very thing the secret is about? Silence is not lying, but misleading might be.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

It isn't "lying" to not run around and disclose every detail of your life to anybody and everybody. Didn't we already have this discussion? However, if someone starts to tell you a 'secret" aka cheating on their wife or whatever, i would try to stop them from telling me before they spit it out. But, I would not feel obligated to keep that kind of secret. I mean, if someone told me, i would say, you need to not be telling me but go tell your wife. I wouldn't necessarily run to the wife right away, but I would not be part of the lie. No, i am not going to cover for you in your deception.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
That is way too vague. Is it your secret or someone else's? Is the secret hiding something you should not have done? Were you asked directly about it?

Is it really nobody else's business? Is it any of your business?

Too many possible variables.
Actually I started wondering after seeing commercials for that show, Younger.

But other than that, we've seen letters about people's past, asking if they should tell a significant other or something like that.
With me, I've kept my past a secret from a whole lot of people.
But just thinking, what would make a secret, a lie?

Then it depends on who the people are.

Divine Geek · Guru

In my position, I'm a secret keeper for a lot of things. Luckily, I play dumb really well. If asked point blank a question, sometimes I lie and say I don't know the answer. If it's someone I know I can trust to not pester me, I will answer "I can't tell you". But there are people here who would not leave me alone if they thought I had a piece of information they felt entitled to. Keeping the secrets of the President of this company is a big part of my job and one I do not take lightly. If that means some people get lied to, so be it.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I don't mean anything in particular.

It's a philosophical question.

In your opinion, when does a secret become a lie?

Is omission a lie?

Tinydancer · Guru

Omission is not a lie unless directly asked but just because that doesn't make it a lie doesn't mean it's not wrong to omit information in some cases.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Omission can be a lie. Or, it can simply be that the person you are talking too is not entitled to that information. I don't have to run around shouting to the world about every wart on my behind or posting it on Snapchat.