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Dear Amy: My husband, “George,” and I have been married for 13 years and have two young children. We argue frequently about one thing: His not shaving on the weekend and/or when he is not going to work.

George is over 40 and well educated. He is a working professional who looks nice when he goes to the office.

At home and on vacations, he doesn’t shave and thinks nobody notices his (lack of) personal hygiene except me.

I’m tired of feeling embarrassed by his appearance when we go out in public.

Will you tell him what others are thinking? — George’s Wife

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Dear Wife: Here’s what others are thinking: “There’s a hard-working guy who doesn’t want to shave unless he has to. Hmmm. Why does his wife have that sour look on her face?”

Here’s a story: One time I went on a beach vacation with a group of friends.

One day, the men declared it to be “hair day.” They didn’t shave, they didn’t bathe and they poured everything they could think of into their hair. I’m talking eggs, salad dressing, coffee, and, yes, beer. Every food group was worked into their scalps.

It occurred to me watching these guys that their idea of sheer freedom — their version of a “vacation” — was to stop doing all of the things they feel they have to do to maintain the sort of appearance that bosses and wives tend to find appealing. That’s when I realized that for some men, a real “spa day” is actually the absence of grooming.

Reflecting on your question, I can’t imagine being embarrassed by someone else’s facial hair. My own facial hair gives me enough trouble.

Perhaps the two of you could compromise in some way that is satisfying to both of you. Because one thing much worse than stubble is arguing about it. 

 

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My husband doesn't shave on weekends and I don't complain. I don't shave my legs as often as I should in the winter and he doesn't complain. She sounds like a biotch.

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I like a little scruff.

She needs to relax.

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Evidently she wasn't a Miami Vice fan.

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Gaga, your title reads Husband doesn't save....


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Maybe he's saving money on razor blades & shaving cream.

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A lot of men like to skip shaving once in a while.

I don't blame them.

The wife needs to lighten up.



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Geez. Give the guy a break. Does she shave her legs everyday?

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Amy has weird friends.

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Weekends, let it go. Vacations, it depends on where you are and how long it is.

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Gaga - the title says "save", not "shave". I'm not trying to be a typo nazi, but I really thought the letter was going to be about a husband spending like crazy on vacation.

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I am wondering if the wife has some OCD issues. She compares not shaving to personal hygiene -- like he is filthy dirty and not showering. That's not fair. Does she think people with beards are totally disgusting? I honestly am trying to see her point and all I can come up with is that she has OCD or else she thinks clean shaven is literally the only acceptable way. Either way she needs to let it go.

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She has serious issues. I'm surprised he stayed married to her for 13 years.

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"Will you tell him what others are thinking?"

I doubt passersby care whether her husband shaves or not. I doubt they even notice whether he has facial hair or not.

Perhaps she ought to put on her big girl panties and tell her husband that she prefers the clean shaven look.

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It seems they fight about it all the time from the OP chef. I just can't get that worked up about a little stubble...lol

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"Will you tell him what others are thinking?"

I doubt passersby care whether her husband shaves or not. I doubt they even notice whether he has facial hair or not.

Perhaps she ought to put on her big girl panties and tell her husband that she prefers the clean shaven look.

 Some passersby may even prefer some stubble! Ack! The horror!

 

I know a lot of men who hate shaving and take their vacation as a vacation from shaving. What's the big deal?! It isn't like he is neglecting to shower or take care of his smelly bits. Gimme a break. It's a few weeks a year. 



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What if she told him it irritates her thighs?

 



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Doesn't shaving everyday irritate the face? A couple of days of a break probably helps.

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lilyofcourse wrote:

Gaga, your title reads Husband doesn't save....

 FIRST THING I NOTICED!!!!  I was like he doesn't save on vacation?  Doesn't make sense.  Then I read it and lol'ed.



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My dad did nothing but try to "save" on vacations. We'd have to stop at grocery stores and get Bologna and bread rather than eat at a cafe. He'd find the cheapest dumps of motels to stay at. He'd constantly complain about what everything cost.

I get that we didn't have a lot of extra cash growing up, and I do appreciate that he always tried to take some vacation with the family--but sometimes his attitude made parts of the vacations not very fun.



-- Edited by huskerbb on Monday 22nd of February 2016 01:42:31 PM

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My husband never shaves when he is not at work. He wears a goatee. Every once in awhile he'll trim it up but mostly he leaves it alone to grow. I really don't care. It's the least of my worries. He doesn't gripe about how little I shave my legs either.

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Tinydancer wrote:

It seems they fight about it all the time from the OP chef. I just can't get that worked up about a little stubble...lol

 If that's her biggest worry ...



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I would just like to point out who DID NOT comment on the misspelling.

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Mellow Momma wrote:
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"Will you tell him what others are thinking?"

I doubt passersby care whether her husband shaves or not. I doubt they even notice whether he has facial hair or not.

Perhaps she ought to put on her big girl panties and tell her husband that she prefers the clean shaven look.

 Some passersby may even prefer some stubble! Ack! The horror!

 

I know a lot of men who hate shaving and take their vacation as a vacation from shaving. What's the big deal?! It isn't like he is neglecting to shower or take care of his smelly bits. Gimme a break. It's a few weeks a year. 

 The horror!

She'd really get her knickers knotted over my husband's face. He has a beard and mustache.



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DH has a beard & mustache that he trims regularly. I've seen photos of him without & really prefer that he NOT shave it off.

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flan327 wrote:

I would just like to point out who DID NOT comment on the misspelling.

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 It actually changes the entire meaning of the sentence.  



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Lawyerlady wrote:
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I would just like to point out who DID NOT comment on the misspelling.

flan

 It actually changes the entire meaning of the sentence.  

 Oh, really? I had no idea.

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*eyeroll*

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It was a JOKE, LL.

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flan327 wrote:

It was a JOKE, LL.

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 Your idea of jokes and mine are very different.



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I like a little neat unshaven look.

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Actually I enjoyed the typo and got a good laugh out of it. As soon as I read the letter, I got the shave part instead of save. Just enjoyed this one....

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Lawyerlady wrote:

Gaga - the title says "save", not "shave". I'm not trying to be a typo nazi, but I really thought the letter was going to be about a husband spending like crazy on vacation.

 Hahaha, I thought that too. I was thinking you're supposed to blow some money when you're on vacation. 

Then I read the question. This lady needs to calm down. Shaving is a pain. No one should be forced to shave. 



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lilyofcourse wrote:

Gaga, your title reads Husband doesn't save....

  How dare you correct me!!  biggrin

 

Yeah i just saw my title. lol



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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:

Gaga, your title reads Husband doesn't save....

  How dare you correct me!!  biggrin

 

Yeah i just saw my title. lol

 I know. But at least I didn't do it in a condescending manner! 

 

 



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The wife sounds like a real kiljoy.

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I rarely shave while on vacation either.

I'll do it before leaving home, and I take a razor, but rarely need to shave before coming home.



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I shave my legs almost every day; it's no big deal.

Also, I try to save $$$ on vacation, but it's hard!

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