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Dear Carolyn: I have a relative the same age as me who has been one of my best friends since we were children. In the last decade, she went from a crummy, low-paying job to earning a position at a prestigious company, has traveled, bought a house, etc. I think she’s done some fantastic things.

However, she has become ferociously bitter about being single. The mere fact that I am married seems to make me her punching bag. For example, she asked to come over and see our new house. As I showed her around, every time I mentioned an update I wanted to make, I got eye-rolling, huffing, and finally, “You can afford to do it because there’s two of you. I have to pay for my house all by myself.”

I get it about everything — not one instance, or two, but a dozen in the course of an evening together. I’m sad she can’t be supportive of me and that she thinks that my happiness somehow diminishes hers. Since she’s already prickly about this — and prickly in general — how do I bring this up?

— Relative

“I’m sad you can’t be supportive of me and that you think my happiness somehow diminishes yours.”

It’s a powerful statement. When she next hands you an opportunity to use it, I hope you do.

 

http://www.freep.com/story/life/advice/2016/02/22/carolyn-hax-social-networking-teenagers-parental-oversight/80473170/



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I don't understand the problem people have with being single. I mean yes, there are the rare times I wish I had a man around, but mostly I'm glad I dont.

Never have been one who NEEDS to be in a relationship.

I think the OP feels like she is missing out on something.

You know, greener grass and all that.



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I thought Carolyn gave a good answer.



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I like the answer. I was single for forever before I married DH. I watched many friends get married and have kids and start lives. Some of them would confide in me that they only got married because they were lonely. Not because they actually cared for the person. I knew I would never get married until I found the right person but, for most normal people, finding a mate is an extremely important part of life. It's how we're wired.

I don't know about this woman so I can't say this is going on here but sometimes when people meet and first get married it's ALL they talk about. It's constant non stop talk about the new relationship. If you're single that can be hard to take.

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This would drive me crazy. We all make our own choices. She chose to pursue a career over getting married.

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I think some people are lonely.

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huskerbb wrote:

I think some people are lonely.

 She's going to be more lonely if she drives her friends away.



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