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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Co-Workers Say Colleague's Mastectomies Don't Qualify Her as a Cancer Survivor

Divine Geek · Guru

Maybe I'm a horrible person, but I don't think she is a survivor. Would I trash her on social media? No, but I agree she is misrepresenting her situation.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Well, having a double mastectomy and hysterectomy isn't exactly a small undertaking.

Lindley · Guru

I've known people who participated in the relay for life who themselves never had cancer but one of their family members did.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I think the coworkers need to get a life. It isn't a competition over who has had the greater trauma. Yes, she didn't have chemo and radiation but she did have body parts removed and not just skin tags or something like that. Are there degrees of survivors now? Oh, you only had radiation, you didn't have chemo so you don't know what it is REALLY like to survive? I mean, ok, so she's participating for a good cause. What a bunch of bietches.

weltschmerz · Guru

If Lady Gaga can call herself a survivor of sexual assault because her aunt was assaulted, then this lady certainly has a right to.
After all, she has body parts removed before the cancer could eat away at her.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
If Lady Gaga can call herself a survivor of sexual assault because her aunt was assaulted, then this lady certainly has a right to.
After all, she has body parts removed before the cancer could eat away at her.

Um, your attacking Lady Gaga is one of your slams at me, so whatevs. But, Lady Gaga was raped at 19. Sooo, maybe you ought to try this Google thing that you are always crowing about.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Well, having a double mastectomy and hysterectomy isn't exactly a small undertaking.

Sure, but she made the choice to do so. She didn't have cancer.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

So what? That isn't something someone does lightly. And, no doctor is going to perform that kind of surgery unless it is a very high risk patient. I mean, do we really have to play "who is the bigger victim game" now? Wow.

Divine Geek · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Well, having a double mastectomy and hysterectomy isn't exactly a small undertaking.

No, it's not. And I am not saying it was not traumatic for her. But the fact is, she did not have cancer. And even with the genetic testing, it was still possible she would never get breast cancer.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Divine Geek wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Well, having a double mastectomy and hysterectomy isn't exactly a small undertaking.
No, it's not. And I am not saying it was not traumatic for her. But the fact is, she did not have cancer. And even with the genetic testing, it was still possible she would never get breast cancer.

Doctors are not going to do this unless there is strong medical evidence that it is her best interests to do it.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

But, OK, you win. She's not a victim. Does that now make everyone feel better or something? Kick her out of the Relay for Life events or what? To what end?

Divine Geek · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Well, having a double mastectomy and hysterectomy isn't exactly a small undertaking.
No, it's not. And I am not saying it was not traumatic for her. But the fact is, she did not have cancer. And even with the genetic testing, it was still possible she would never get breast cancer.

Doctors are not going to do this unless there is strong medical evidence that it is her best interests to do it.

And she still didn't have cancer

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

And, your point is what? What do you propose be done? Ban her from the events? Or her wonderful coworkers can beitch slap her for the fine people that they apparently are. Having survived cancer you would think they have more important things to do than this petty arse crap.

Divine Geek · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
And, your point is what? What do you propose be done? Ban her from the events? Or her wonderful coworkers can beitch slap her for the fine people that they apparently are. Having survived cancer you would think they have more important things to do than this petty arse crap.

My point is, in my opinion she is misrepresenting her situation. I do not propose anything be done about it. She is welcome to participate in these events, and as far as I know, they do not require verification of survivor status, so she can all herself anything she wants. My conscious would not allow me to do what this woman is doing.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Well., I don't disagree. Basically, she can say she dodged a bullet. And, most likely she did. And, yeah, i don't think most people would call themselves that. However, you can participate in Relay for Life without having had cancer. She is helping with a good cause. If she is misrepresenting herself, that's on her. But, neither do i think much of her coworkers that seem to want to make an issue out it as well or act like gossipy backstabbers. You dont' agree, then you don't agree. But going on social media behind her back seems pretty bietchy.

Divine Geek · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Well., I don't disagree. Basically, she can say she dodged a bullet. And, most likely she did. And, yeah, i don't think most people would call themselves that. However, you can participate in Relay for Life without having had cancer. She is helping with a good cause. If she is misrepresenting herself, that's on her. But, neither do i think much of her coworkers that seem to want to make an issue out it as well or act like gossipy backstabbers. You dont' agree, then you don't agree. But going on social media behind her back seems pretty bietchy.

I have participated in Relay for Life and Race for a Cure. You don't have to have cancer to participate. There are special things for survivors - different color shirt, the survivor lap, etc. her participating in those parts is what the co-workers have issue with. I agree, the co-workers are wrong. Unless you're in charge of the event, keep your trap shut.

weltschmerz · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
If Lady Gaga can call herself a survivor of sexual assault because her aunt was assaulted, then this lady certainly has a right to.
After all, she has body parts removed before the cancer could eat away at her.
Um, your attacking Lady Gaga is one of your slams at me, so whatevs. But, Lady Gaga was raped at 19. Sooo, maybe you ought to try this Google thing that you are always crowing about.

How in God's name was that a slam agianst you?

Fior someone who is always howling about victimhood, you sure don't hesitate to claim it yourself.

-- Edited by weltschmerz on Sunday 20th of March 2016 04:24:43 PM

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Oh don't play your Miss Innocent tripe.
You are very calculated in what you say duh. However I dont go whining to Mods like you do.

weltschmerz · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Oh don't play your Miss Innocent tripe.
You are very calculated in what you say duh. However I dont go whining to Mods like you do.

Lol! WTF are you talking about? If you're going to make accusations, you'd damn well better back them up. I haven't whined to a single mod about anything.

Enjoy your delusions.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Eh, no she's not really a survivor, but after losing her aunt and mother (and I am sure watching their battle) and then having the gene and making the difficult decision to do the surgery that would prevent that fate for herself, I certainly wouldn't begrudge her walking the lap. Geez. What a thing to get your panties in a wad over.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Relay for life is run by anyone who wants to run. It's to raise awareness and money.

The survivor lap is for those who survived cancer.

Sometimes, a relative or friend will run it for someone in their honor. Cause they're not able to.

NAOW · Vette's SS

lilyofcourse wrote:
Relay for life is run by anyone who wants to run. It's to raise awareness and money.

The survivor lap is for those who survived cancer.

Sometimes, a relative or friend will run it for someone in their honor. Cause they're not able to.

Yea, she could be doing this too.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

NAOW wrote:
Eh, no she's not really a survivor, but after losing her aunt and mother (and I am sure watching their battle) and then having the gene and making the difficult decision to do the surgery that would prevent that fate for herself, I certainly wouldn't begrudge her walking the lap. Geez. What a thing to get your panties in a wad over.

I agree and I would probably have the surgeries as well, if fact I have had surgery because I had precancerous cells. But I don't claim to be a cancer survivor.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

NAOW wrote:
Eh, no she's not really a survivor, but after losing her aunt and mother (and I am sure watching their battle) and then having the gene and making the difficult decision to do the surgery that would prevent that fate for herself, I certainly wouldn't begrudge her walking the lap. Geez. What a thing to get your panties in a wad over.

Well said. I mean, yeah, why go about saying you are but i don't know why the coworkers are so bothered.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

She doesn't really qualify as a survivor but the coworkers are rude. Not their business to police her. She should have just walked the survivor lap in memory of someone who died.

Dona Worry Be Happy · Vette's SS!!

What a petty bunch of people. I cannot imagine getting upset over this. There HAS to be more to the story.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
What a petty bunch of people. I cannot imagine getting upset over this. There HAS to be more to the story.

I'm torn, Dona. It's likely some of her co-workers are cancer survivors.

"Cancer" is a powerful word.

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

If she's using the false cancer survivor status to get donations for the race, that is fraud, actually. She needs to be walking for those relatives and being honest with people about it.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

weltschmerz wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Oh don't play your Miss Innocent tripe.
You are very calculated in what you say duh. However I dont go whining to Mods like you do.
Lol! WTF are you talking about? If you're going to make accusations, you'd damn well better back them up. I haven't whined to a single mod about anything.
Enjoy your delusions.

This mod sees right through you. There was no other reason to bring up false accusations against Lady Gaga on this thread except to poke at our own Gaga. She was not the topic of discussion.

Empyreal · Senior Member

NAOW wrote:
Eh, no she's not really a survivor, but after losing her aunt and mother (and I am sure watching their battle) and then having the gene and making the difficult decision to do the surgery that would prevent that fate for herself, I certainly wouldn't begrudge her walking the lap. Geez. What a thing to get your panties in a wad over.

Agreed.

It's no skin off their noses? What the hell do they care? Is she some how profiting from this?

She considers herself a survivor after losing close family members and having some serious tissue removal to save herself from a hellish disease.

If a child lost his/her parent in the holocaust but they were rescued before the Nazi's got them, would they not be a survivor? I think I would let the person decide for themselves. I certainly would be supportive if they wanted to celebrate their outcome.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

Woman can be so catty. Leave the woman be to her own hobbies and support choices.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

As a real cancer survivor, I don't give a rats arse who walks in the survivor lap as long as someone walks for the awareness of the disease.

Gosh, the co-workers need to find something more productive to do with all that time they have for social media bashing.