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PUBLISHED: 06:04 EST, 22 March 2016 | UPDATED: 08:15 EST, 22 March 2016
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Smart people may be far happier with their own company than meeting friends.
A new study has found that for intelligent people, the more frequently they socialise with friends, the less satisfied they are with life.
The findings come from two evolutionary psychologists who challenge the modern view that the more social contact we have the happier we will likely be.
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Smart people may be far happier with their own company than with friends. A study has found that for intelligent people, the more frequently they socialise, the less satisfied they are with life (stock image). Brighter individuals may find it easier to leave ancestral social roots behind in order to forge ahead
Satoshi Kanazawa of the London School of Economics and Norman Li of Singapore Management University propose that the core social skills developed in our ancient past still hold sway over our happiness today.
They propose that the 'savannah theory' is at the root of modern happiness. This theory dictates that the factors which made early humans satisfied are still true with modern life.
Using data from a large long-term study, which surveyed adults from 18 to 28, they applied the theory to explain the findings of self-reported levels of life satisfaction.
The pair focused on just two of myriad factors, which they say characterise basic differences between modern life and the way our ancestors lived - population density and how frequently we interact with friends.
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Social interaction would have been crucial to survival, in terms of co-operation and finding a mate, but the space was equally important. The pair believe there may be a mismatch between the way we have evolved and the rapid lives we lead today - where society has left our minds and bodies struggling to keep up. Stock image
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Using data from a long-term study, researchers found people living in more densely populated areas (stock image) reported lower levels of life satisfaction. But, more frequent socialisation with friends had a more positive association with levels of life satisfaction for people with average intelligence
As might be expected, they found people living in more densely populated areas reported lower levels of life satisfaction.
CAN'T GET NO SATISFACTION
Evolutionary psychologists have found that among the extremely intelligent, more frequent social interaction is actually linked with reduced satisfaction.
They looked at data from a large long-term study, which surveyed adults from 18 to 28, which provided self-reported levels of life satisfaction.
People living in more densely populated areas reported lower levels of life satisfaction, as did more frequent socialisation with friends.
But among 'the extremely intelligent' more frequent social interaction was found to be linked with reduced life satisfaction.
They propose that the 'savannah theory' is at the root of modern happiness. This theory dictates that the factors which made early humans satisfied are still true with modern life.
The researchers believe smarter individuals may be able to better adapt to the challenges of modern life, and may find it easier to leave their ancestral social roots behind in order to forge ahead in life.
For anyone who braves the daily grind of the rush hour commute in a city, this is no surprise.
Also as we might expect, more frequent socialisation with friends had a more positive association with levels of life satisfaction.
But these two factors interact strongly with intelligence.
The authors explained that 'among the extremely intelligent' more frequent social interaction is actually linked with reduced satisfaction.
According to the Washington Post's Wonkblog, self-reported happiness is higher in small towns than in cities, which previous research has outlined as the 'urban-rural happiness gradient'.
Kanazawa and Li's approach suggests the brains of our hunter-gatherer ancestors were perfectly adapted to life on the African savannah, where there population would have been sparse, living in groups of around 150.
Social interaction would have been crucial to survival, in terms of co-operation and finding a mate, but the space was equally important.
The pair believe there may be a mismatch between the way we have evolved and the rapid lives we lead today – where society has left our minds and bodies struggling to keep up.
The researchers believe smarter individuals may be able to better adapt to the challenges of modern life, and may find it easier to leave ancestral social roots behind in order to forge ahead.
For the most intelligent among us, it may be that there is conflict between aspiring to greater goals and being tied to our evolutionary past.
Kanazawa has caused controversy in the past with a blog post on the attractiveness of women based on race.
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People exhaust me. I like being here. I feel like I have much deeper conversations than I do IRL. Most people don't want to dish politics , religion abortion etc.
I was not responding to you guys directly. Small talk doesn't always involve stupid people and it helps us feel connected.
Are there days that I need my alone time to recharge? Absolutely.
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Well, yeah, we all have to make small talk. It's part of life. Like sitting at the car dealer waiting for your car and striking up a conversation about the weather. I am sure we all do it. I just prefer to gnosh on meatier topics.
I mean, i love chatting with my daughter's lady basketball coach. It is sooo much fun to talk to another gal about basketball and strategy and offense and defense and post moves and baseline out of bound plays, etc. I mean, i can talk to DH or the guys at work or whatever about it but it is awesome to have a gal pal to chat with who really has passion for the game.
Ask Jesse how his day went, he may or may not respond. Most of the time it's a shrug.
Ask Jesse something about a language and he is full of information.
I don't care much for small talk.
I'd rather sit and read a book than talk about the weather.
Caitlyn and I take our ear buds when we get pedicures.
Can't stand the yammering from the techs.
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I was not responding to you guys directly. Small talk doesn't always involve stupid people and it helps us feel connected.
Are there days that I need my alone time to recharge? Absolutely.
flan
Well, yeah, we all have to make small talk. It's part of life. Like sitting at the car dealer waiting for your car and striking up a conversation about the weather. I am sure we all do it. I just prefer to gnosh on meatier topics.
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It depends on my mood whether I find small talk tedious. I seem to work with people who talk a lot. I noticed one day that my boss talked to me all through lunch & didn't even care or notice if I responded. She just wanted to talk. Talk about shows I don't watch even though there are several we both watch. She didn't seem to want to discuss them just talk about something I had no response to. On the same day my coworker who rides home with me talked the entire way home & I couldn't get a word in edgewise. I just shut up & let her talk. It wasn't anything heavy she needed to get off her chest just a rambling. I was utterly exhausted when I got home that evening & so grateful I lived alone.
I can do large gatherings but prefer small gatherings.
I can have fun in either.
But at some point I will be done with it and ready for some quiet time.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
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