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Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Dear Abby - wife dirty dances with other people

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

This is flat out disrespectful to her husband. And dirty dancing is not appropriate with anyone but your spouse. And really, it's not appropriate in public for anyone over about age 22.

Tinydancer · Guru

Why would you want to be grinding on some stranger?

huskerbb · Guru

I guess I'd need a better definition of what he's talking about to make a judgment.

My first question would be is he willing to dance with her?

Ilumine · Regular

This is a question of perception I think. Salsa is a very "close" and "sexy" dance genre. And yet one can Salsa without it actually meaning one wants to have sex with the other man. In fact there are a few moves where the pelvis's "gyrate" against eat other and again, that does not necessitate sex. they are specific dance moves.

Oh and one can actually dance and enjoy Salsa and be over 22 and that does not mean that the woman or man wants to have sex with their partner. They just like to dance.

Tinydancer · Guru

Sorry but I still wouldn't want my husband grinding all over some stranger no matter what dance they were doing. It's just a matter of respect.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Grinding
Also Known As Dirty Dancing. When a girl is rubbing her ass all over a guys dick until it comes to the point where he gets a woody
i was grinding with this girl with the biggest booty

Grinding is not going to be confused with the Salsa or tango or any other dance.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

They go out dancing once a year?

Something tells me it's for her birthday and he doesn't dance very much.

HE should be the one she is dancing with.

Sorry, anything more than the two step should be with your husband.

FNW · Guru

My husband said the only pro on Dancing with the Stars I can partner up with is Louis. LOL

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

There is a huge difference in grinding and every other dance.

I love ballroom dancing.

But grinding is nasty.

huskerbb · Guru

Why is it nasty? I don't think it is.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

It's the equivalent of dry humping.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
It's the equivalent of dry humping.

So? I agree that wet humping is more fun, but dry humping can be fun for a little while, too.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Then do that in private.

Why do it in public?

And why with someone besides the man or woman you are with?

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Then do that in private.

Why do it in public?

And why with someone besides the man or woman you are with?

if you are at a place where others are doing it--then you aren't going to be doing the two step. That's the venue. If you don't like that--choose a different venue. It's not up to everyone else to change what they are doing.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Yeah.

But if your wife is grinding on a stranger to the point of the stranger getting an erection, is that really ok with you?

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Yeah.

But if your wife is grinding on a stranger to the point of the stranger getting an erection, is that really ok with you?

Who said anything about anyone getting an erection? Beyond that, that's not something I can control, anyway, either my own or someone else's. guys dont need grinding to get one.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

That is the point of grinding.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

And you didn't answer the question.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
That is the point of grinding.

No it isn't. Wow. That is ridiculous.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
And you didn't answer the question.

No. I'm not going to get too shook up about it.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
That is the point of grinding.

No it isn't. Wow. That is ridiculous.

Yes. It is.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
And you didn't answer the question.
No. I'm not going to get too shook up about it.

Uh huh.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
That is the point of grinding.

No it isn't. Wow. That is ridiculous.
Yes. It is.

No, its not. I've done it before on the dance floor and no erection. When was the last time you had one?

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Good gosh, I remember SLOW dancing with guys and they would get a woody.

IMHO, getting a woody is easy for most men without dirty dancing.

weltschmerz · Guru

Can I do dirty dancing with a diabetic who is incapable of an erection, I wonder?

huskerbb · Guru

just Czech wrote:
Good gosh, I remember SLOW dancing with guys and they would get a woody.

IMHO, getting a woody is easy for most men without dirty dancing.

Yeah. Just looking at a hot woman can do it. That is rather irrelevant to this conversation.

huskerbb · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
Can I do dirty dancing with a diabetic who is incapable of an erection, I wonder?

No I tell you! No! That defeats the purpose.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

huskerbb wrote:
just Czech wrote:
Good gosh, I remember SLOW dancing with guys and they would get a woody.

IMHO, getting a woody is easy for most men without dirty dancing.
Yeah. Just looking at a hot woman can do it. That is rather irrelevant to this conversation.

LOL

Being a guy, I knew you would understand. wink

huskerbb · Guru

Look, I don't think that married people should make it a regular practice to go out and interact with people of the opposite gender where alcohol and dancing are the activities. It really doesn't matter if it's square dancing or "grinding". That is something that should generally be done together.

That said, I'm not going to get too bent out of shape about the occasional "girls night out" or whatever where maybe a couple of lines get blurred--but none get crossed--and it won't happen again for a long time, if ever.

Ohfour · Hooker

huskerbb wrote:
just Czech wrote:
Good gosh, I remember SLOW dancing with guys and they would get a woody.

IMHO, getting a woody is easy for most men without dirty dancing.
Yeah. Just looking at a hot woman can do it. That is rather irrelevant to this conversation.

Hell, there doesn't even have to be a hot woman. My boys called it a NARB. No apparent reason boner.

huskerbb · Guru

I'm going to bet if this guy took his wife out more than once a year and danced with her, this wouldn't be an issue.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

But the OP is happening once a year after the LW has expressed to his wife that it bothers him

He isn't opposed to her dancing with others.

He is opposed to her basically lap dancing with others.

Tinydancer · Guru

It's called DIRTY dancing for a reason...

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

A girls night out and a cabana boy would also solve the problem....wait....maybe not. biggrin

Getting "turned on" is not limited to men.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
But the OP is happening once a year after the LW has expressed to his wife that it bothers him

He isn't opposed to her dancing with others.

He is opposed to her basically lap dancing with others.

That's why I wouldn't get too shook up. It's once a year, not every weekend.

Tinydancer · Guru

So you'd be fine with your wife practically lap dancing with a stranger? Sure you would...

huskerbb · Guru

Tinydancer wrote:
So you'd be fine with your wife practically lap dancing with a stranger? Sure you would...

???? Um, been there done that. My wife was in a band. Happened a LOT back then.

Tinydancer · Guru

Well is that why you referred to her as ho? As in bros before hos.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

I don't remember husker ever referring to his wife as a ho. Are you making this up?

huskerbb · Guru

Tinydancer wrote:
Well is that why you referred to her as ho? As in bros before hos.

I did not refer to her as such.

Tinydancer · Guru

Not making it up. He said it on the thread where the brother was asking for sperm. When asked if he'd do it even if his wife disagreed.

huskerbb · Guru

Tinydancer wrote:
Not making it up. He said it on the thread where the brother was asking for sperm. When asked if he'd do it even if his wife disagreed.

I wasNt referring to my wife.

Mary Zombie · Guru

Very few people I've seen grind look less than foolish at it.

Tinydancer · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
Not making it up. He said it on the thread where the brother was asking for sperm. When asked if he'd do it even if his wife disagreed.
I wasNt referring to my wife.

Oh you were talking about some one elses wife then. Nice try.

huskerbb · Guru

Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
Not making it up. He said it on the thread where the brother was asking for sperm. When asked if he'd do it even if his wife disagreed.
I wasNt referring to my wife.
Oh you were talking about some one elses wife then. Nice try.

Several, chiefly the LW.

Tinydancer · Guru

You said if a SPOUSE disagreed you'd go with bros before hos. So you meant all wives actually. You're such a romantic...

huskerbb · Guru

Tinydancer wrote:
You said if a SPOUSE disagreed you'd go with bros before hos. So you meant all wives actually. You're such a romantic...

That's not really what I said--however, have it your way, but even using your absurd interpretation, that would automatically exclude spouses who didn't disagree, so it did not mean "all" wives.

My my wife would not disagree, so clearly, again, even using your absurd interpretation it would exclude her.

Tinydancer · Guru

Of course your wife wouldn't disagree because if she did it would be her fault there was a problem and you really don't mind if she basically gives a lap dance to some stranger because she used to do that in the band. I will never believe you'd be fine with your wife rubbing up against some guys genitals but if it makes you feel cooler to say you don't mind well than enjoy the show.

huskerbb · Guru

That makes no sense.