DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently went through a divorce, and I am in the process of moving out of the house. We have a small child, so I didn't want to move too far. However, I have been having trouble finding work over the past couple of years, and I got a job offer in another state. I would hate to move my child away from his father, but if my son is going to live with me, I'll need to be able to take care of him. Is it wrong for me to take my son with me to another state? I don't see any other option at this time. -- Gotta Go, Memphis, Tennessee
DEAR GOTTA GO: Work this out with your ex, or you may end up in court. Talk to him about your need for work and your plan to move away. Discuss logistics for how you can keep him in your son's life as you also provide for your son and yourself. It would be wrong of you to just up and leave. Map everything out with his father.
A good divorce agreement would have a stipulation about one parent moving a child out of state.
There must be a parenting plan in place that details all the "rules". This has got to be a made up letter. You don't go to an advise columnist, you ask your divorce lawyer.
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