I'd tell her to suck it. She sounds so ungrateful. So entitled. Ugh. Why do you enable that behavior? It's not even close to cute. It's ugly. Tell her to pay for it herself.
I'd tell her to suck it. She sounds so ungrateful. So entitled. Ugh. Why do you enable that behavior? It's not even close to cute. It's ugly. Tell her to pay for it herself.
G says we aren't paying a dime. I agree. I just texted her husband with her vile response.
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Tell her you'll take the grandbabies that weekend and then let her handle it.
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I'd tell her to suck it. She sounds so ungrateful. So entitled. Ugh. Why do you enable that behavior? It's not even close to cute. It's ugly. Tell her to pay for it herself.
G says we aren't paying a dime. I agree. I just texted her husband with her vile response.
Good for you. That's ridiculous. She should be kissing your feet for offering to pay for the moving service in the first place. You know??? Wow. I've been blessed.
I'd tell her to suck it. She sounds so ungrateful. So entitled. Ugh. Why do you enable that behavior? It's not even close to cute. It's ugly. Tell her to pay for it herself.
G says we aren't paying a dime. I agree. I just texted her husband with her vile response.
Good for you. That's ridiculous. She should be kissing your feet for offering to pay for the moving service in the first place. You know??? Wow. I've been blessed.
Seriously? How many people get a moving service? But I wanted to help her. What a beyotch to shun me. Done....
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Well, I'm on your side here O4--but I will say that when the underlying relationship is, say, tense--then small things tend to get blown into big things. Things that most people would understand and work around one way or another, get turned into huge situations where each side feels disrespected and feelings are hurt.
Understandably, you made a very nice offer, and in the big scheme of things, what the heck does one day's difference make? She threw a fit, and instead of reasonably talking to you about it, giving her (in her mind) reasonable reasons that Sunday will not work, and coming to some agreement on the extra $500, she burned the bridge you tried to build.
From her perspective, however, I'm wondering if this isn't (again, in HER MIND) just another instance of mom trying to make her do something she doesn't want to do, or whatever.
Again, I'm on your side, I think she is unreasonable, and I don't blame you for being angry.
Unfortunately, however, I'm afraid this will affect your relationship not only with your daughter, but her child, as well.
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Well, I could agree with you--but then we'd both be wrong.
Yeah, she is being a spoiled brat. She could have just paid the extra for Saturday or since she doesn't really have a lot of money to throw around, move on Sunday like the rest of us would have done. I would prefer to move on a Saturday, gives more weekend time to get things together at the new place, so I get the desire to move on Saturday but she is a bit much.
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Well, I'm on your side here O4--but I will say that when the underlying relationship is, say, tense--then small things tend to get blown into big things. Things that most people would understand and work around one way or another, get turned into huge situations where each side feels disrespected and feelings are hurt.
Understandably, you made a very nice offer, and in the big scheme of things, what the heck does one day's difference make? She threw a fit, and instead of reasonably talking to you about it, giving her (in her mind) reasonable reasons that Sunday will not work, and coming to some agreement on the extra $500, she burned the bridge you tried to build.
From her perspective, however, I'm wondering if this isn't (again, in HER MIND) just another instance of mom trying to make her do something she doesn't want to do, or whatever.
Again, I'm on your side, I think she is unreasonable, and I don't blame you for being angry.
Unfortunately, however, I'm afraid this will affect your relationship not only with your daughter, but her child, as well.
I think husker makes some good points. And, being a Right Fighter is great it is really worth being "right" on things that don't matter all that much. You made an offer. She can say yes or no. If she didn't like the date, then fine, I offered $400 and if you want to move on a different day, you can just pay the difference.
I mean, maybe she is under a lot of stress and that just seems like one more thing in her To Do list that isn't quite working out and she reacted badly. I am not making excuses but just saying that turning this into "proof" that she is an "entitled, spoiled brat" isnt necessarily going to further your relationship. Even if that is true, I assume you still want to help her and have a good relationship. So, instead of getting caught up so much in the emotion, maybe just take a step back and say, "Ok, I offered you $400 towards moving, so if you want to avail yourself of that, then you may, and if not, that's OK too". Then we as parents have to just step back and let them figure it out for themselves.
And, realize, coming from Hardcore Husker, he tends to soften up towards his own family, which i think is a good approach. Just my 2 cents.
Sometimes on message boards, people want to be supportive. So, if you are having trouble with a spouse for instance, everyone gets on the "Throw the bum out, get a divorce" type bandwagon. Sometimes you have to step back. Is that really the line you want to take?
I'd just tell her clearly that I offered to pay for a moving service on Sunday. I'm sorry she doesn't want it - I hope she gets everything worked out. And be done. There is no reason to fight. You offered something, it wasn't wanted. If she keeps complaining about Saturday, offer to give her the same amount of money that Sunday would have cost, and tell her that it is her choice.
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Lol Lily.
That's a generous offer. A shame she doesn't appreciate it. I would just refuse we to be baited into arguing and state calmly that you will gladly give them the 400 and they can pay the difference if they choose to move on Saturday. With a smile.
Offer was made & not accepted. The end. She can figure out how to get her stuff moved on Saturday on her own.
On her behalf though she probably is super stressed. Moving is always stressful. It doesn't give her the right to be a shyt but it speaks to her mind frame.
So, she called me this morning and apologized. She HAS been stressed. Bruiser had surgery a couple of weeks ago, Sweetness has a fractured tibia, both kids' birthdays, plus moving.
Im going to give her the money I would have spent on movers. She really does feel bad...
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Offer was made & not accepted. The end. She can figure out how to get her stuff moved on Saturday on her own.
On her behalf though she probably is super stressed. Moving is always stressful. It doesn't give her the right to be a shyt but it speaks to her mind frame.
I'm glad she apologized. She really does have a lot going on with both kids medical & the move. I hope the move goes smoothly for her.
So, she called me this morning and apologized. She HAS been stressed. Bruiser had surgery a couple of weeks ago, Sweetness has a fractured tibia, both kids' birthdays, plus moving. Im going to give her the money I would have spent on movers. She really does feel bad...
Well that's good.
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Well, I could agree with you--but then we'd both be wrong.
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Good! She had one idea of moving help in her mind and probably felt you were being controlling, which you weren't and came to her senses. Good for her and good for you for accepting the apology which had to be hard. I hope she sees you as an example as how to be in life.
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She's a bit like her mother. She gets something in her mind and thats the way it is. Thats why we clash. We are both strong willed. And love/hate each other for that. But we know this about ourselves, and can laugh once the tension has died down...
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