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So my Cousin's daughter is getting married in two weeks.  She lives about 2 hours from me.  The wedding invites were sent in March.  There were plain card one sided things, the kind someone would send you if your dog was due for his annual.  (arrived on the same day the notification did for my dog's annual from the vet, hence the analogy) Everything, including RSVPs was on-line.  When you replied you HAD to choose either 1) bringing something for the pot luck, or 2) contributing cash toward the meal.  And the registry links followed all that...

My cousin, who lives 2000 miles away was mortified.  She and her husband, son (bro of one of the brides, and his toddlers) are driving up.  My Bro's cottage (our family cottage) is less than an hour's drive from the wedding and Cousin and family asked my bro if they could stay at the cottage; which is comical since now bro (who can't say no) now has to rent another place to stay, Cousin is not paying him to stay in his cottage.

And no, Husker, there will be no booze, heck, there won't even be real plates or silverware.  As much as these people are so hill billy-ish, they are fun and they are family, I just get really annoyed at their life events and having everyone else pay for them.

So rip them apart, you are my outlet after all!



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I like pot lucks so I'd pick option 1.

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Caitlyn says she wants potluck for her reception.

It's an old tradition, really.

I would have refused to give up my place to stay though.

I bet it'll be fun.

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My niece is getting married in Wilmington, NC in a few weeks. We will all be staying at the Wyndham. Still need to decide on gift or Cash.

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That sounds like fun!

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I don't over think it. People are gonna do what they wanna do. So, go spend the day and celebrate with them. Be it some fancy schmancy affair or a potluck supper in the church basement.

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How have I not heard about this??

So much.....I just can't even

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A potluck is cool I guess but to REQUIRE the guest contribute to it, um, no.

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DG how's this

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DG how's this

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A potluck is cool I guess but to REQUIRE the guest contribute to it, um, no.

 Yeah, that was my thought as well.



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If i ever get married again i just want a big cookout on the beach. I will provide the food but my friends better bring their own booze because they can really drink a lot!

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If i ever get married again i just want a big cookout on the beach. I will provide the food but my friends better bring their own booze because they can really drink a lot!

 Oh, that sounds perfect!!!!

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A potluck is cool I guess but to REQUIRE the guest contribute to it, um, no.

 Yeah, that was my thought as well.

 Yeah, i agree.  There is a difference between Hosting and putting on an event, versus a get together type of event.  A potluck is a get together.  Let's all meet at Suzy's house for cards on Thurs night and everyone bring food.  A wedding is held by the bridal party and hosted by them.



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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
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A potluck is cool I guess but to REQUIRE the guest contribute to it, um, no.

 Yeah, that was my thought as well.

 Yeah, i agree.  There is a difference between Hosting and putting on an event, versus a get together type of event.  A potluck is a get together.  Let's all meet at Suzy's house for cards on Thurs night and everyone bring food.  A wedding is held by the bridal party and hosted by them.

 Oh, just pick up the "special" cream cheese on your way...evileye

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If i ever get married again i just want a big cookout on the beach. I will provide the food but my friends better bring their own booze because they can really drink a lot!

  We went to a wedding of some friends.  And, they had a rich relative with a gorgeous house and inground pool.  They put up a tent, and a volleyball net.  They had someone barbecuing and we had an awesome lunch of bbq and assorted foods. And, after the ceremony,  the bride and groom jumped into the pool and then the party was on, lol.



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flan327 wrote:
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A potluck is cool I guess but to REQUIRE the guest contribute to it, um, no.

 Yeah, that was my thought as well.

 Yeah, i agree.  There is a difference between Hosting and putting on an event, versus a get together type of event.  A potluck is a get together.  Let's all meet at Suzy's house for cards on Thurs night and everyone bring food.  A wedding is held by the bridal party and hosted by them.

 Oh, just pick up the "special" cream cheese on your way...evileye

flan

 Oh!  I should make an app using special Cream cheese, I will giggle the whole time, becoming one of those "odd" relatives.



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How have I not heard about this??

So much.....I just can't even

 Heard about what?  The cottage?



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I like more relaxed weddings. The big onstentatious ones seem to be more about putting on a show. Which is fine if you want to put on a show. But, if you are hysterical about it for months on end, then you are overdoing it! Think about it!

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

I like more relaxed weddings. The big onstentatious ones seem to be more about putting on a show. Which is fine if you want to put on a show. But, if you are hysterical about it for months on end, then you are overdoing it! Think about it!

 You're not the boss of me...

But I agree with you. Your wedding is only ONE day.

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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:

How have I not heard about this??

So much.....I just can't even

 Heard about what?  The cottage?

 this disaster of a wedding. I've heard about the cottage, it sounds like a nice place. 



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Divine Geek wrote:
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How have I not heard about this??

So much.....I just can't even

 Heard about what?  The cottage?

 this disaster of a wedding. I've heard about the cottage, it sounds like a nice place. 

 Not everyone got an invite...



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I'd drag my own cooler! Just saying.

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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

So my Cousin's daughter is getting married in two weeks.  She lives about 2 hours from me.  The wedding invites were sent in March.  There were plain card one sided things, the kind someone would send you if your dog was due for his annual.  (arrived on the same day the notification did for my dog's annual from the vet, hence the analogy) Everything, including RSVPs was on-line.  When you replied you HAD to choose either 1) bringing something for the pot luck, or 2) contributing cash toward the meal.  And the registry links followed all that...

My cousin, who lives 2000 miles away was mortified.  She and her husband, son (bro of one of the brides, and his toddlers) are driving up.  My Bro's cottage (our family cottage) is less than an hour's drive from the wedding and Cousin and family asked my bro if they could stay at the cottage; which is comical since now bro (who can't say no) now has to rent another place to stay, Cousin is not paying him to stay in his cottage.

And no, Husker, there will be no booze, heck, there won't even be real plates or silverware.  As much as these people are so hill billy-ish, they are fun and they are family, I just get really annoyed at their life events and having everyone else pay for them.

So rip them apart, you are my outlet after all!

 Well then you know what to RSVP.  Decline with regrets.



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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Southern_Belle wrote:

If i ever get married again i just want a big cookout on the beach. I will provide the food but my friends better bring their own booze because they can really drink a lot!

  We went to a wedding of some friends.  And, they had a rich relative with a gorgeous house and inground pool.  They put up a tent, and a volleyball net.  They had someone barbecuing and we had an awesome lunch of bbq and assorted foods. And, after the ceremony,  the bride and groom jumped into the pool and then the party was on, lol.

What a blast! 



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This thread about gives me hives.

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Grab a beer!

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I don't really mnd the invite style so much. People are going to making their own to cut down on cost.

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You all àre disappointing me. I personally don't care about the wedding situation but I expected you-all to entertain me with wedding shaming.

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I like the relaxed events better, as well.



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You all àre disappointing me. I personally don't care about the wedding situation but I expected you-all to entertain me with wedding shaming.

 I would not go.  I would be completely turned off by this horrible display of awful etiquette.  It's shameful and disgusting.  If you can't afford to have a wedding - go to the courthouse or elope, don't expect your guests to pay for it. 



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I don't really mind the potluck & I'd bring something but the option of throwing money towards the dinner is really off putting. Asking for money is just tacky. And no booze would be a deal breaker.

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Yeah um no. I'm not catering someone else's wedding. And to the guy that gave away his place to stay. Grow a pair and say no. Geesh
I don't think I'm breaking too many rules with mine. We are having a buffet brunch with plenty of seating and open bar for 2 hours. Hopefully that will be enough time lol.

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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

You all àre disappointing me. I personally don't care about the wedding situation but I expected you-all to entertain me with wedding shaming.

 Do they have a honeyfund?



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I went to one potluck wedding. Personally, I do not care for them. But I went and brought a dish to share, and it was a really hot day in early fall and the wedding started over an hour late and once the ceremony was over we all had to make our way to the reception area a few blocks away.. so all that food was sitting in people's cars for a couple of hours before being served...

I like more laid back weddings as well, but as a guest it certainly was not relaxing having a chore to do before going to the wedding.

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You all àre disappointing me. I personally don't care about the wedding situation but I expected you-all to entertain me with wedding shaming.

 I would not go.  I would be completely turned off by this horrible display of awful etiquette.  It's shameful and disgusting.  If you can't afford to have a wedding - go to the courthouse or elope, don't expect your guests to pay for it. 

 Agreed. Personally, I think eloping is the way to go. 



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You all àre disappointing me. I personally don't care about the wedding situation but I expected you-all to entertain me with wedding shaming.

 I would not go.  I would be completely turned off by this horrible display of awful etiquette.  It's shameful and disgusting.  If you can't afford to have a wedding - go to the courthouse or elope, don't expect your guests to pay for it. 

 Agreed. Personally, I think eloping is the way to go. 

 But what about the parents that want to make a big deal out of it? 



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My highschool BFF had a potluck wedding. I was a bridesmaid and had to order my own dress from the Sears catalogue, buy my own day-after wedding breakfast, and then she wanted help cleaning the Hall that she had the wedding in. Sadly, I was unavailable for cleaning duty.

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My highschool BFF had a potluck wedding. I was a bridesmaid and had to order my own dress from the Sears catalogue, buy my own day-after wedding breakfast, and then she wanted help cleaning the Hall that she had the wedding in. Sadly, I was unavailable for cleaning duty.

Booo!  You missed cleaning up!  What a drag! 



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One of my Fb friends is getting married in July and is asking peeps to bring a covered dish. And if you can't attend to please send cards. Lol for real. I don't think she really means gimme money but I thought of Ya'll!

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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

You all àre disappointing me. I personally don't care about the wedding situation but I expected you-all to entertain me with wedding shaming.

 I would not go.  I would be completely turned off by this horrible display of awful etiquette.  It's shameful and disgusting.  If you can't afford to have a wedding - go to the courthouse or elope, don't expect your guests to pay for it. 

 Agreed. Personally, I think eloping is the way to go. 

 But what about the parents that want to make a big deal out of it? 

 I guess that would depend on how much I liked the parents. 



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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

You all àre disappointing me. I personally don't care about the wedding situation but I expected you-all to entertain me with wedding shaming.

 I would not go.  I would be completely turned off by this horrible display of awful etiquette.  It's shameful and disgusting.  If you can't afford to have a wedding - go to the courthouse or elope, don't expect your guests to pay for it. 

 Agreed. Personally, I think eloping is the way to go. 

 But what about the parents that want to make a big deal out of it? 

 They are going about it the wrong way.



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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

You all àre disappointing me. I personally don't care about the wedding situation but I expected you-all to entertain me with wedding shaming.

 I would not go.  I would be completely turned off by this horrible display of awful etiquette.  It's shameful and disgusting.  If you can't afford to have a wedding - go to the courthouse or elope, don't expect your guests to pay for it. 

 Agreed. Personally, I think eloping is the way to go. 

 But what about the parents that want to make a big deal out of it? 

 Let them pay for it.  I didn't want my son to elope, so I ponied up the dough for the wedding.



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TrudyML wrote:
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My highschool BFF had a potluck wedding. I was a bridesmaid and had to order my own dress from the Sears catalogue, buy my own day-after wedding breakfast, and then she wanted help cleaning the Hall that she had the wedding in. Sadly, I was unavailable for cleaning duty.

Booo!  You missed cleaning up!  What a drag! 

 Right?  Mostly I was worried they would make me eat the leftover green jello casserole with the floating pieces of canned fruit . . . 



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Tignanello wrote:
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My highschool BFF had a potluck wedding. I was a bridesmaid and had to order my own dress from the Sears catalogue, buy my own day-after wedding breakfast, and then she wanted help cleaning the Hall that she had the wedding in. Sadly, I was unavailable for cleaning duty.

Booo!  You missed cleaning up!  What a drag! 

 Right?  Mostly I was worried they would make me eat the leftover green jello casserole with the floating pieces of canned fruit . . . 

 Gag.



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We came back covered in ticks after my nephew's front yard wedding and picnic style reception.

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Tignanello wrote:

My highschool BFF had a potluck wedding. I was a bridesmaid and had to order my own dress from the Sears catalogue, buy my own day-after wedding breakfast, and then she wanted help cleaning the Hall that she had the wedding in. Sadly, I was unavailable for cleaning duty.

Booo!  You missed cleaning up!  What a drag! 

 Right?  Mostly I was worried they would make me eat the leftover green jello casserole with the floating pieces of canned fruit . . . 

I woulda thrown it on the walls! 



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I like the jell cream cheese mold that my mom used to make. I know....I know....

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I think it depends on where you live and the culture. For a very small town that is to far for catering (till just a few years ago it would have been impossible where I live) some small communities are close and more like family would think nothing of bringing a casserole dish.

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My highschool BFF had a potluck wedding. I was a bridesmaid and had to order my own dress from the Sears catalogue, buy my own day-after wedding breakfast, and then she wanted help cleaning the Hall that she had the wedding in. Sadly, I was unavailable for cleaning duty.

Booo!  You missed cleaning up!  What a drag! 

 Right?  Mostly I was worried they would make me eat the leftover green jello casserole with the floating pieces of canned fruit . . . 

 Haha I love that stuff!



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