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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Abby: Children's Friends Drink our Milk

ed11563 · Guru

I agree

NAOW · Vette's SS

OMG. I just can't take these letters. How do these people get through the day?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Why is Sara friends with this selfish bitty?

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

lilyofcourse wrote:
Why is Sara friends with this selfish bitty?

She isn't selfish, just clueless. Anytime friend comes over I would tell her stop at the store on the way and pick up milk and special creme cheese.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Tell mom to pack snacks. Duh.

huskerbb · Guru

Wow. I have a lot more to worry about in my life than a few glasses of milk.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

huskerbb wrote:
Wow. I have a lot more to worry about in my life than a few glasses of milk.

Not everyone is like you Husker. Again - blinders off please. Experiences exist outside of your own.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

I honestly don't understand the problem here. The OP has friends who come over and drink milk and the OP does not account for that when she grocery shops? So start accounting for it. End of problem.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Tignanello wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Wow. I have a lot more to worry about in my life than a few glasses of milk.
Not everyone is like you Husker. Again - blinders off please. Experiences exist outside of your own.

The OP said she can afford to buy more milk. So I don't understand what she is so upset about. I agree with husker. I don't get it.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Mellow Momma wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Wow. I have a lot more to worry about in my life than a few glasses of milk.
Not everyone is like you Husker. Again - blinders off please. Experiences exist outside of your own.
The OP said she can afford to buy more milk. So I don't understand what she is so upset about. I agree with husker. I don't get it.

Because if the friend comes over only a few times a month and kids gobble up all the milk, she has nothing left for her kids during the week. Why buy extra milk when she shops if plans haven't been made for the friend to come over? Then she would be throwing away all that extra unused milk.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

So when the kids come over put out bologna sandwiches and a pitcher of ice water and tell them No Milk!

I am with husker. I would just buy more milk or do what i suggested above. I feed neighborhood kids all the time. I dont ask them to pack snacks.

FNW · Guru

I agree with husker. Just start buying more milk.

I buy gatorade and popsicles by the caseloads for the neighbor boy who comes to play. They do the same for my boys. I want my boys' friends to make themselves at home and raid my refrigerator. Keeps them here where I know what they are up to.

huskerbb · Guru

Tignanello wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Wow. I have a lot more to worry about in my life than a few glasses of milk.
Not everyone is like you Husker. Again - blinders off please. Experiences exist outside of your own.

I know. I'm a people person who puts friendships above groceries.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Well, i am not a people person but i don't mind feeding kids.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

We loved when company came over cause we got kool-aid and hot dogs for lunch.

I'd rather my kids have fun with friends than worry about milk.

So you're a single mom and work a lot. I bet you pass at least 1 place that sells milk on your way home.

Mary Zombie · Guru

It could be that the LW is annoyed that this friend invites herself and her kids over. If she works 70 hours a week I assume she has limited time with her kids and may not feel like entertaining anyone. Especially people that invite themselves? So I can understand the annoyance at the milk gobbling. If that's the case here.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Maybe if she stops offering snacks they will stop coming by.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Or if she really just doesn't want the kids over there, she could try being a grown up and say "you are not allowed to have friends over tonight". I know that is sooo tough but she could try it.

Vette · Owl drink to that!

We were having an issue for a while when we found out SO's son was sharing our water bottles with all the neighborhood kids. Sure it's just water, but ten bottles a day really add up after a while. We told them they could drink out of the hose faucet if they didn't feel like going to their house to get water :p

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

lilyofcourse wrote:
We loved when company came over cause we got kool-aid and hot dogs for lunch.

I'd rather my kids have fun with friends than worry about milk.

So you're a single mom and work a lot. I bet you pass at least 1 place that sells milk on your way home.

Exactly. Stop by the store and buy milk when you run out. Problem solved. How freaking hard is it to just buy more milk?! Seriously?! If you run out becasue friends came over, take 5 minutes and buy more.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

VetteGirl wrote:
We were having an issue for a while when we found out SO's son was sharing our water bottles with all the neighborhood kids. Sure it's just water, but ten bottles a day really add up after a while. We told them they could drink out of the hose faucet if they didn't feel like going to their house to get water :p

Save any plastic bottles you empty and keep them filled with water in the fridge. Or, keep a supply of plastic cups on hand.

Vette · Owl drink to that!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
We were having an issue for a while when we found out SO's son was sharing our water bottles with all the neighborhood kids. Sure it's just water, but ten bottles a day really add up after a while. We told them they could drink out of the hose faucet if they didn't feel like going to their house to get water :p
Save any plastic bottles you empty and keep them filled with water in the fridge. Or, keep a supply of plastic cups on hand.

Good idea!

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Mellow Momma wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
We loved when company came over cause we got kool-aid and hot dogs for lunch.

I'd rather my kids have fun with friends than worry about milk.

So you're a single mom and work a lot. I bet you pass at least 1 place that sells milk on your way home.
Exactly. Stop by the store and buy milk when you run out. Problem solved. How freaking hard is it to just buy more milk?! Seriously?! If you run out becasue friends came over, take 5 minutes and buy more.

When one works 70 hours a week, the grocery store may not be opened when one comes home and that is yet another 5 minutes, which is really 15 or 20 for a stop, that is taken away from her time with her kids and doing other household chores. I so get that, I live it.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

VetteGirl wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
We were having an issue for a while when we found out SO's son was sharing our water bottles with all the neighborhood kids. Sure it's just water, but ten bottles a day really add up after a while. We told them they could drink out of the hose faucet if they didn't feel like going to their house to get water :p
Save any plastic bottles you empty and keep them filled with water in the fridge. Or, keep a supply of plastic cups on hand.
Good idea!

I've been a mom for 34 years and have always had the neighbor kids hang around. I've learned a thing or two.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Mary Zombie wrote:
It could be that the LW is annoyed that this friend invites herself and her kids over. If she works 70 hours a week I assume she has limited time with her kids and may not feel like entertaining anyone. Especially people that invite themselves? So I can understand the annoyance at the milk gobbling. If that's the case here.

Now this could be the real issue.

I just don't understand how people go through life without the backbone to state how they feel.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
We were having an issue for a while when we found out SO's son was sharing our water bottles with all the neighborhood kids. Sure it's just water, but ten bottles a day really add up after a while. We told them they could drink out of the hose faucet if they didn't feel like going to their house to get water :p
Save any plastic bottles you empty and keep them filled with water in the fridge. Or, keep a supply of plastic cups on hand.
Good idea!
I've been a mom for 34 years and have always had the neighbor kids hang around. I've learned a thing or two.

Yup.

Little dixie cups are perfect for grabbing a drink.

FNW · Guru

I've also filled a large thermos with iced water...the kind that you put on a table and they push the button with their thumb and the water comes out...kids love "getting" water themselves and are more apt to drink it.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Kool Aid .

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
We loved when company came over cause we got kool-aid and hot dogs for lunch.

I'd rather my kids have fun with friends than worry about milk.

So you're a single mom and work a lot. I bet you pass at least 1 place that sells milk on your way home.
Exactly. Stop by the store and buy milk when you run out. Problem solved. How freaking hard is it to just buy more milk?! Seriously?! If you run out becasue friends came over, take 5 minutes and buy more.
When one works 70 hours a week, the grocery store may not be opened when one comes home and that is yet another 5 minutes, which is really 15 or 20 for a stop, that is taken away from her time with her kids and doing other household chores. I so get that, I live it.

I get it. But she is spending more energy worrying about the milk her friend is drinking than she would if she just stopped by the store and bought some.

There must be a convenience store, gas station, or 24 hour grocery store in her town. Drive by and pick up some milk on the way home. Show your children the example of a generous friend vs a friend who is worried about who drank what. I just can't see getting upset that my friend and her kids drank the milk. If it is really that big of a deal, let your friend know you aren't up for company tonight. Sorry - too busy for a play date. It really isn't complex.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Wow. I have a lot more to worry about in my life than a few glasses of milk.
Not everyone is like you Husker. Again - blinders off please. Experiences exist outside of your own.
The OP said she can afford to buy more milk. So I don't understand what she is so upset about. I agree with husker. I don't get it.
Because if the friend comes over only a few times a month and kids gobble up all the milk, she has nothing left for her kids during the week. Why buy extra milk when she shops if plans haven't been made for the friend to come over? Then she would be throwing away all that extra unused milk.

And why should she be paying to feed other people's kids? She has a budget for her family. Good thing Husker has bigger things to worry about - he doesn't have to experience living at the poverty line. Or think about any sort of experience that might differ from his own.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
So when the kids come over put out bologna sandwiches and a pitcher of ice water and tell them No Milk!

I am with husker. I would just buy more milk or do what i suggested above. I feed neighborhood kids all the time. I dont ask them to pack snacks.

How nice that you & husker are well enough off to do that. Now, let's look at it from the experience of someone who might not have all the advantages that you have. Oh right - things outside your own frame of reference don't exist. Forgot for a minute.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Tignanello wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
So when the kids come over put out bologna sandwiches and a pitcher of ice water and tell them No Milk!

I am with husker. I would just buy more milk or do what i suggested above. I feed neighborhood kids all the time. I dont ask them to pack snacks.
How nice that you & husker are well enough off to do that. Now, let's look at it from the experience of someone who might not have all the advantages that you have. Oh right - things outside your own frame of reference don't exist. Forgot for a minute.

Except in the OPs case she says it's not about the money, but that she doesn't have time to buy more milk after they use it up. People are suggesting other ideas to help her not have to go back to the store and still have Drinks available.

Eta spell check fix. Also I would buy a box of juice boxes to hand out when they Come over.

-- Edited by NAOW on Monday 6th of June 2016 12:13:52 AM

-- Edited by NAOW on Monday 6th of June 2016 12:14:27 AM

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

You can freeze milk you know. Grab an extra gallon or two and freeze them. If they drink it all up you have an extra. No waste.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

NAOW wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
So when the kids come over put out bologna sandwiches and a pitcher of ice water and tell them No Milk!

I am with husker. I would just buy more milk or do what i suggested above. I feed neighborhood kids all the time. I dont ask them to pack snacks.
How nice that you & husker are well enough off to do that. Now, let's look at it from the experience of someone who might not have all the advantages that you have. Oh right - things outside your own frame of reference don't exist. Forgot for a minute.
Except in the OPs case she says it's not about the money, but that she doesn't have time to buy more milk after they use it up. People are suggesting other ideas to help her not have to go back to the store and still have Drinks available.
Eta spell check fix. Also I would buy a box of juice boxes to hand out when they Come over.

-- Edited by NAOW on Monday 6th of June 2016 12:13:52 AM

-- Edited by NAOW on Monday 6th of June 2016 12:14:27 AM

or just plain ol' don't feed 'em!

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Back in the ole day when I was a child and before dinosaurs roamed the earth powdered milk was cheap, easy, and popular. There were some mysteries of my childhood that I never understood. One, why we never found the "prize" in the cereal and why it was always the same prize. Took a long time to realize mom was putting the fake stuff in the name brand box. Another mystery was the empty milk jugs. We always had a couple that were sitting clean inside our pantry. They'd come and go but they'd always be there. Figured out later on that mom was pouring half the milk out and replacing it with powdered milk. We had no idea!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Tignanello wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
So when the kids come over put out bologna sandwiches and a pitcher of ice water and tell them No Milk!

I am with husker. I would just buy more milk or do what i suggested above. I feed neighborhood kids all the time. I dont ask them to pack snacks.
How nice that you & husker are well enough off to do that. Now, let's look at it from the experience of someone who might not have all the advantages that you have. Oh right - things outside your own frame of reference don't exist. Forgot for a minute.

You keep scolding our point of view by telling us to consider other points of view. Try taking your own advice. And, perhaps read the letter where she said cost isn't an issue.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Mellow Momma wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Wow. I have a lot more to worry about in my life than a few glasses of milk.
Not everyone is like you Husker. Again - blinders off please. Experiences exist outside of your own.
The OP said she can afford to buy more milk. So I don't understand what she is so upset about. I agree with husker. I don't get it.

I agree with Husker, too. And try this - next time you go to the store, buy MORE. That's not an extra trip - it's more milk.

I do not agree with Abby. When you have people over, you should expect to give people refreshments.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Wow. I have a lot more to worry about in my life than a few glasses of milk.
Not everyone is like you Husker. Again - blinders off please. Experiences exist outside of your own.
The OP said she can afford to buy more milk. So I don't understand what she is so upset about. I agree with husker. I don't get it.
Because if the friend comes over only a few times a month and kids gobble up all the milk, she has nothing left for her kids during the week. Why buy extra milk when she shops if plans haven't been made for the friend to come over? Then she would be throwing away all that extra unused milk.

If her kids love milk that much - it's unlikely to be unused. IF there is more, they will drink more - that is usually how it works.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I can't imagine calling the mom and telling her to pack snacks for the kids. Sorry, I can make a few peanut butter sandwiches and some juice or something. A bag of apples is cheap or carrots and make some carrot sticks. OK, so she is working 70hr and too busy. I get that. So, you tell YOUR kids, hey kids, your friends are coming over shortly, so go make a few PBJ and carrot sticks and put on the table. The End. Cut the sandwiches in quarters.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Or tell the friend you are too busy for a play date. "Sorry, I just got home from work and haven't had a chance to unwind yet. Maybe tomorrow?" It's easy!

Mary Zombie · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Mary Zombie wrote:
It could be that the LW is annoyed that this friend invites herself and her kids over. If she works 70 hours a week I assume she has limited time with her kids and may not feel like entertaining anyone. Especially people that invite themselves? So I can understand the annoyance at the milk gobbling. If that's the case here.
Now this could be the real issue.
I just don't understand how people go through life without the backbone to state how they feel.

Right? Just tell her friend to call first. I hate it when people invite themselves over. Once in a while ok but I'm getting the impression that might be the issue. Just speak up. Why is it so hard? Whether or not I can afford to feed them wouldn't come into play. I'm not a 7/11 or a flop house!

not to mention I was raised that you did not help yourself to anything in someone's fridge nor did you expect to be fed every time you played with someone we ate at home

-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Monday 6th of June 2016 10:13:07 AM

-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Monday 6th of June 2016 10:15:43 AM

TrudyML · Guru

NAOW wrote:
OMG. I just can't take these letters. How do these people get through the day?

I just burst out laughing. Agreed!

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Mary Zombie wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Mary Zombie wrote:
It could be that the LW is annoyed that this friend invites herself and her kids over. If she works 70 hours a week I assume she has limited time with her kids and may not feel like entertaining anyone. Especially people that invite themselves? So I can understand the annoyance at the milk gobbling. If that's the case here.
Now this could be the real issue.
I just don't understand how people go through life without the backbone to state how they feel.
Right? Just tell her friend to call first. I hate it when people invite themselves over. Once in a while ok but I'm getting the impression that might be the issue. Just speak up. Why is it so hard? Whether or not I can afford to feed them wouldn't come into play. I'm not a 7/11 or a flop house!
not to mention I was raised that you did not help yourself to anything in someone's fridge nor did you expect to be fed every time you played with someone we ate at home

I agree. The inviting themselves over is more of an issue than the milk. If you don't want them to come over, tell them.

Also - a creative solution would be to hide the milk in a cooler in another room, and say you are out.

huskerbb · Guru

Tignanello wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
So when the kids come over put out bologna sandwiches and a pitcher of ice water and tell them No Milk!

I am with husker. I would just buy more milk or do what i suggested above. I feed neighborhood kids all the time. I dont ask them to pack snacks.
How nice that you & husker are well enough off to do that. Now, let's look at it from the experience of someone who might not have all the advantages that you have. Oh right - things outside your own frame of reference don't exist. Forgot for a minute.

Where in the letter does it say that cost is an issue?

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

And quite frankly, if this was my friend, and she was dropping by unexpectedly, when she headed for the fridge, I'd have no problem saying -

"There is only a little milk left and I'm saving it for the kids' breakfast. I don't have time to go to the store tonight, so please choose something besides milk for them to drink."

Ohfour · Hooker

huskerbb wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
So when the kids come over put out bologna sandwiches and a pitcher of ice water and tell them No Milk!

I am with husker. I would just buy more milk or do what i suggested above. I feed neighborhood kids all the time. I dont ask them to pack snacks.
How nice that you & husker are well enough off to do that. Now, let's look at it from the experience of someone who might not have all the advantages that you have. Oh right - things outside your own frame of reference don't exist. Forgot for a minute.
Where in the letter does it say that cost is an issue?

In fact, she says exactly the opposite. She CAN afford it, she just doesn't have time.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Lawyerlady wrote:
And quite frankly, if this was my friend, and she was dropping by unexpectedly, when she headed for the fridge, I'd have no problem saying -

"There is only a little milk left and I'm saving it for the kids' breakfast. I don't have time to go to the store tonight, so please choose something besides milk for them to drink."

That's what I tell my friends about wine!😂

apple · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
So when the kids come over put out bologna sandwiches and a pitcher of ice water and tell them No Milk!

I am with husker. I would just buy more milk or do what i suggested above. I feed neighborhood kids all the time. I dont ask them to pack snacks.

Same here, and I have to assume that over the years my kids have had their fare share of snacks at neighbors houses.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
And quite frankly, if this was my friend, and she was dropping by unexpectedly, when she headed for the fridge, I'd have no problem saying -

"There is only a little milk left and I'm saving it for the kids' breakfast. I don't have time to go to the store tonight, so please choose something besides milk for them to drink."

That's what I tell my friends about wine!😂

Hahahaha!!