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Parents Question School's Response to Harassment of Daughter

Jun 22, 2016 - Letter 2 of 2

 
 
 

DEAR ABBY: Our daughter came home for spring break from college with troubling news. She has been sexually harassed by a very large and aggressive lesbian in her dorm this year. When the girl first came on to her, my daughter told her NO. Later, on two separate occasions, the girl pushed her to the floor and groped her in the lobby of the dorm.

My daughter was afraid to fight the girl because she's small. She was also afraid to report it -- I guess she thought it was an isolated incident.

Recently she found out that the girl has done the same thing to several other girls. They all went to the Title IX people on campus to file a complaint, but were told they won't get any answers until late summer, which is after school is out.

Is this kind of harassment common in our schools? Should she take it to the campus police or city police? Our daughter really likes her college, but she shouldn't have to put up with this. -- TROUBLING NEWS

DEAR TROUBLING NEWS: I agree that your daughter -- and the other girls -- should not have to put up with being assaulted. I wish you had revealed a little bit more about what happened when the assaults were reported. Was the aggressor counseled? Warned to stay away from the girls she had harassed? Removed from the dorm?

If nothing was done, before informing the police, I'm advising you to discuss this with a lawyer because a school that would ignore what happened may be liable.



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Depending on the age of the daughter, she should call the police and file a report. And carry mace.

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The police should have been called, the day it happened the first time.

Talking to a lawyer, is a good idea.

But good grief........report this to the police, first.

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I say a knife. Stab the hag.

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Yeah, you want to have a police report on file before lawyering up.

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TrudyML wrote:

I say a knife. Stab the hag.

Oh my gosh!

I love you, Trudy!biggrin 



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In with Trudy! Then call the cops. I would do that before anything. Once the police were involved the school can't really ignore it .

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The aggressor should not be allowed to live in the dorm if she isn't tossed out of school. I think the girls should go as a group to the police & report it.

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I too would say call the police.

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File a report with the police.

Get a stun gun.

Learn to land a solid punch.



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Lexxy wrote:

The aggressor should not be allowed to live in the dorm if she isn't tossed out of school. I think the girls should go as a group to the police & report it.

 That would be a reasonable response. They should go as a group and also report it to the school so it is on record.



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I believe they did.

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apple wrote:
Lexxy wrote:

The aggressor should not be allowed to live in the dorm if she isn't tossed out of school. I think the girls should go as a group to the police & report it.

 That would be a reasonable response. They should go as a group and also report it to the school so it is on record.

They already went as a group to report it to the school but aren't happy with the school's response so far.  I think the police need to be made aware. 



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Lexxy wrote:
apple wrote:
Lexxy wrote:

The aggressor should not be allowed to live in the dorm if she isn't tossed out of school. I think the girls should go as a group to the police & report it.

 That would be a reasonable response. They should go as a group and also report it to the school so it is on record.

They already went as a group to report it to the school but aren't happy with the school's response so far.  I think the police need to be made aware. 

 As a group they might be more effective, also I would not accept the schools answer and keep reporting to different departments, have it noted. Schools pay attention when they think there might be a law suit in the making.



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apple wrote:
Lexxy wrote:
apple wrote:
Lexxy wrote:

The aggressor should not be allowed to live in the dorm if she isn't tossed out of school. I think the girls should go as a group to the police & report it.

 That would be a reasonable response. They should go as a group and also report it to the school so it is on record.

They already went as a group to report it to the school but aren't happy with the school's response so far.  I think the police need to be made aware. 

 As a group they might be more effective, also I would not accept the schools answer and keep reporting to different departments, have it noted. Schools pay attention when they think there might be a law suit in the making.

Totally.  I bet they pay attention if the girls started talking to the alumni donors! 



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