People that need to judge and criticize others have one thing in common: in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down.
By being different than them, you become a threat to their existence. You become a target.
See, if you’re different, then what they are can’t be “right” in their minds. There’s no live and let live. There’s no embracing differences. There’s no room for two rights in their minds, because THEY must be RIGHT in order to FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES.
So their answer is to attack you, or make fun of you. If you don’t like potatoes, and they do, then you become a freak or weirdo. “Who doesn’t like potatoes?” they scream to the world.
They do this to prove their view is RIGHT, and you are WRONG. It’s the only way they can feel validated about who they are. It’s the only way they get to feel special and superior. Because somewhere, deep down, some internal programming keeps whispering to them, “If you’re not right, if you’re not better, if you’re not smarter, brighter, more beautiful, more intelligent–whatever their trigger is–then you amount to nothing.” They can’t bare the thought of being nothing, so they strive to put others down and prove to that unheard voice inside them once and for all: I’m better. I’m right. I’m important.
Which is sad, really. The thing to realize about these types of people is that they are emotional vampires, running through the world, taking what’s special about others and calling it ugly–knocking people down–down so that THEY FEEL OKAY to be themselves.
If you tell them this, they’ll tell you you’re full of it, or crazy, or deluded.
Let’s be clear, though: they don’t realize they are doing it.
Ahhh...We know you think only your opinions are right but I find you to be an Emotional Vampire who uses others misfortunes to make yourself feel better by taking on their concerns as your own when they have nothing to do with you.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
Posting an article about people who "in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down".
To which you two responded perfectly. Thank you.
Posting an article about people who "in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down". To which you two responded perfectly. Thank you.
And you don't see how YOU are doing the EXACT same thing.
Apple, you're as transparent as they come.
You only posted this article because of the "white bubble" thread.
You think you are better than others.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
Well certain people unlike me that are ok with married people having open relationships...or men using the girls room are well.....wrong. So yeah different can be wrong. Charles Manson was sure different , so was Hitler. Any psycho or deviant can say Oh but I'm just different than you?
-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Tuesday 12th of July 2016 03:29:48 PM
Posting an article about people who "in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down". To which you two responded perfectly. Thank you.
And you don't see how YOU are doing the EXACT same thing.
Apple, you're as transparent as they come.
You only posted this article because of the "white bubble" thread.
You think you are better than others.
And YOU just launched yet another personal attack.
Do you do this in order to make yourself feel better? Does calling me out somehow make you feel better about yourself?
I did not aim or direct this thread at you Lily but if the shoe fits.
Well certain people unlike me that are ok with married people having open relationships...or men using the girls room are well.....wrong. So yeah different can be wrong. Charles Manson was sure different , so was Hitler. Any psycho or deviant can say Oh but I'm just different than you?
-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Tuesday 12th of July 2016 03:29:48 PM
But if you don't agree with someone, do you have to destroy them somehow?
I think that is the question.
There’s no room for two rights in their minds, because THEY must be RIGHT in order to FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES.
So their answer is to attack you, or make fun of you. If you don’t like potatoes, and they do, then you become a freak or weirdo. “Who doesn’t like potatoes?” they scream to the world.
Posting an article about people who "in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down". To which you two responded perfectly. Thank you.
And you don't see how YOU are doing the EXACT same thing.
Apple, you're as transparent as they come.
You only posted this article because of the "white bubble" thread.
You think you are better than others.
And YOU just launched yet another personal attack.
Do you do this in order to make yourself feel better? Does calling me out somehow make you feel better about yourself?
I did not aim or direct this thread at you Lily but if the shoe fits.
You're joking, right?
Just seeing it for what it is.
You posted this because of the other thread.
You are trying to make a point about how much better you think you are.
You started this.
Have your fun with it.
But don't pretend to be innocent.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
Posting an article about people who "in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down". To which you two responded perfectly. Thank you.
And you don't see how YOU are doing the EXACT same thing.
Apple, you're as transparent as they come.
You only posted this article because of the "white bubble" thread.
You think you are better than others.
And YOU just launched yet another personal attack.
Do you do this in order to make yourself feel better? Does calling me out somehow make you feel better about yourself?
I did not aim or direct this thread at you Lily but if the shoe fits.
You're joking, right?
Just seeing it for what it is.
You posted this because of the other thread.
You are trying to make a point about how much better you think you are.
You started this.
Have your fun with it.
But don't pretend to be innocent.
You are wrong, I am pointing out a style of posting that happens quite often here.
I don't enjoy it and yes I admit that although I came back here trying not to fall into the trap, I have done so at times.
If you don't see it, well I can't make you.
They can’t bare the thought of being nothing, so they strive to put others down and prove to that unheard voice inside them once and for all: I’m better. I’m right. I’m important!
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
Yes because you never see yourself in that mirror do you apple?
I will look in the mirror once you are done with it.
I never needed it because I'm not a racist. I think you might be a little afraid of your own reaction to a different race so you spend a lot of time projecting onto others. You can continue to say we're all racist all you want but it won't make it true.
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“Until I discovered cooking, I was never really interested in anything.” ― Julia Child ―
Yes because you never see yourself in that mirror do you apple?
I will look in the mirror once you are done with it.
I never needed it because I'm not a racist. I think you might be a little afraid of your own reaction to a different race so you spend a lot of time projecting onto others. You can continue to say we're all racist all you want but it won't make it true.
Show me where exactly it is that I said you are racist.
The whole thread was about white privilege and seeing how I'm white you were talking about me. You believe you're the only one who recognizes racism. YOU make everything about race yet we are the racists.
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“Until I discovered cooking, I was never really interested in anything.” ― Julia Child ―
The whole thread was about white privilege and seeing how I'm white you were talking about me. You believe you're the only one who recognizes racism. YOU make everything about race yet we are the racists.
Might I remind you, this is not that thread and not everything is about you.
Posting an article about people who "in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down". To which you two responded perfectly. Thank you.
Posting an article about people who "in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down". To which you two responded perfectly. Thank you.
Winner winner!!!
flan
You need to grab a tissue...you have something on your nose...
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America guarantees equal opportunity, not equal outcome...
Posting an article about people who "in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down". To which you two responded perfectly. Thank you.
Winner winner!!!
flan
You need to grab a tissue...you have something on your nose...
The thing to realize about these types of people is that they are emotional vampires, running through the world, taking what’s special about others and calling it ugly–knocking people down–down so that THEY FEEL OKAY to be themselves.
If you tell them this, they’ll tell you you’re full of it, or crazy, or deluded.
The thing to realize about these types of people is that they are emotional vampires, running through the world, taking what’s special about others and calling it ugly–knocking people down–down so that THEY FEEL OKAY to be themselves.
If you tell them this, they’ll tell you you’re full of it, or crazy, or deluded.
Read that again.
Really read it.
Understand what it is saying.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
The thing to realize about these types of people is that they are emotional vampires, running through the world, taking what’s special about others and calling it ugly–knocking people down–down so that THEY FEEL OKAY to be themselves.
If you tell them this, they’ll tell you you’re full of it, or crazy, or deluded.
Read that again.
Really read it.
Understand what it is saying.
I Really, Really read it before I posted it.
Its about bullying of a sort that I see frequently on message boards. Don't you agree?
Posting an article about people who "in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down". To which you two responded perfectly. Thank you.
Winner winner!!!
flan
For the most snark?
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Sometimes you're the windshield, and sometimes you're the bug.
Posting an article about people who "in order to feel better about themselves, they need to knock others that aren’t like them down". To which you two responded perfectly. Thank you.
Winner winner!!!
flan
You need to grab a tissue...you have something on your nose...
Yet it's fine when YOU suck up...
flan
Well that is just gross.
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Sometimes you're the windshield, and sometimes you're the bug.
The thing to realize about these types of people is that they are emotional vampires, running through the world, taking what’s special about others and calling it ugly–knocking people down–down so that THEY FEEL OKAY to be themselves.
If you tell them this, they’ll tell you you’re full of it, or crazy, or deluded.
Read that again.
Really read it.
Understand what it is saying.
I Really, Really read it before I posted it.
Its about bullying of a sort that I see frequently on message boards. Don't you agree?
Nope.
I don't see that.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
Well certain people unlike me that are ok with married people having open relationships...or men using the girls room are well.....wrong. So yeah different can be wrong. Charles Manson was sure different , so was Hitler. Any psycho or deviant can say Oh but I'm just different than you?
-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Tuesday 12th of July 2016 03:29:48 PM
But if you don't agree with someone, do you have to destroy them somehow?
I think that is the question.
There’s no room for two rights in their minds, because THEY must be RIGHT in order to FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES.
So their answer is to attack you, or make fun of you. If you don’t like potatoes, and they do, then you become a freak or weirdo. “Who doesn’t like potatoes?” they scream to the world.
One of my best friends does not like mashed potatoes. I tell her that's just weird and unnatural often.
I'm trying to figure out how disagreeing equates to destroying someone.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
The thing to realize about these types of people is that they are emotional vampires, running through the world, taking what’s special about others and calling it ugly–knocking people down–down so that THEY FEEL OKAY to be themselves.
If you tell them this, they’ll tell you you’re full of it, or crazy, or deluded.
Read that again.
Really read it.
Understand what it is saying.
I Really, Really read it before I posted it.
Its about bullying of a sort that I see frequently on message boards. Don't you agree?
I'm trying to figure out how disagreeing equates to destroying someone.
It doesn't have to. But we all know that person that does everything in their power to tear down everything. If something good happens to you, they had something better happen. If something bad happens, they had something worse happen. They are never happy and they don't want anyone else to be happy either.
I'm trying to figure out how disagreeing equates to destroying someone.
It doesn't have to. But we all know that person that does everything in their power to tear down everything. If something good happens to you, they had something better happen. If something bad happens, they had something worse happen. They are never happy and they don't want anyone else to be happy either.
That I understand. Well, I've seen.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
I'm trying to figure out how disagreeing equates to destroying someone.
It doesn't have to. But we all know that person that does everything in their power to tear down everything. If something good happens to you, they had something better happen. If something bad happens, they had something worse happen. They are never happy and they don't want anyone else to be happy either.
Ain't that the truth!
Oh and I am sure I just offended someone or someone rolled their eyes because I agreed with DG.
-- Edited by I know what to do_sometimes on Tuesday 12th of July 2016 08:14:51 PM
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Sometimes you're the windshield, and sometimes you're the bug.
I'm trying to figure out how disagreeing equates to destroying someone.
It doesn't have to. But we all know that person that does everything in their power to tear down everything. If something good happens to you, they had something better happen. If something bad happens, they had something worse happen. They are never happy and they don't want anyone else to be happy either.
I'm trying to figure out how disagreeing equates to destroying someone.
Because everyone is an offended victim. If you don't agree with them, then you are just MEAN! Wah!
I don't feel that way. There are positive ways to disagree with someone and negative ways to do it.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
I'm trying to figure out how disagreeing equates to destroying someone.
When it's a personal attack.
flan
God, could you BE MORE of a hypocrite? ??? On the white privilege thread, YOU flanikins, attacked ME for commenting on the OP. I.did not mention or address you and yet you hade to make snide and stupid comments, directed at me. You REALLY need help. Your delusions have taken over whatever sensibilities you had...
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America guarantees equal opportunity, not equal outcome...
Well certain people unlike me that are ok with married people having open relationships...or men using the girls room are well.....wrong. So yeah different can be wrong. Charles Manson was sure different , so was Hitler. Any psycho or deviant can say Oh but I'm just different than you?
-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Tuesday 12th of July 2016 03:29:48 PM
But if you don't agree with someone, do you have to destroy them somehow?
I think that is the question.
There’s no room for two rights in their minds, because THEY must be RIGHT in order to FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES.
So their answer is to attack you, or make fun of you. If you don’t like potatoes, and they do, then you become a freak or weirdo. “Who doesn’t like potatoes?” they scream to the world.
One of my best friends does not like mashed potatoes. I tell her that's just weird and unnatural often.
We should have a thread about weird food aversions. My DH only likes Kraft mac and cheese. He will turn his nose up at other versions of mac and cheese if you call it mac and cheese. If you call it cheesy pasta, noodle casserole, anything else, he will eat it and love it. Weirdo!
I'm trying to figure out how disagreeing equates to destroying someone.
It's the PC world we live in. If you don't rubber stamp someone's every thought, you must be out to destroy them.
Sometimes, yes, disagreeing turns into far more than simply disagreeing. But, there's also a lot of woe is me types just because someone disagreed with them.
I'm trying to figure out how disagreeing equates to destroying someone.
It's the PC world we live in. If you don't rubber stamp someone's every thought, you must be out to destroy them.
Sometimes, yes, disagreeing turns into far more than simply disagreeing. But, there's also a lot of woe is me types just because someone disagreed with them.
Right???
My BIL just called me...not his brother, me, to ask about Christmas plans. He found round trip tickets for a song and wanted to make sure the dates were ok.
He knows I don't agree with his lifestyle, but we still love each other.
I'm glad I don't live in some of your worlds. No wonder y'all are so miserable.
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America guarantees equal opportunity, not equal outcome...
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
It's not about rubber stamping people's choices. It's about not tearing down who they are as a person because of it. Let's use the potato example.
First scenario. You and a friend go out to dinner.
You: What are you having?
Friend: I see they have rosemary garlic mashed potatoes. I think I'm going to get them.
You: Mashed potatoes are disgusting. They taste like baby food.
Friend: Oh well, I like them. And the rosemary garlic sounds good.
You: Sorry, there's nothing you can do to mashed potatoes to make them better.
Friend: Well, I like them.
You: Disgusting. I can't believe you're going to put that crap in your mouth.
Friend: I am.
You: Well, don't expect me to go out to dinner with you anymore.
Second scenario.
You: What are you having?
Friend: I see they have rosemary garlic mashed potatoes. I think I'm going to get them.
You: I never liked mashed potatoes. I think it was the texture.
Friend: I think they sound really good with rosemary and garlic.
You: Okay, I hope you enjoy them. I'm going to get...
There is a huge difference in the way some people disagree.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
And just to be clear it is not about accepting everyone elses lifestyle or choices. And there are some things that are just plain wrong. Like pedophiles. This isn't about things like this. It's just saying that there are some people who simply cannot allow anyone to have a different opinion on anything without making them a bad person because of it.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou