TOTALLY GEEKED!

Vette · Owl drink to that!

I have something to say

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Really?

So it's ok to treat you like crap now?

Good Lord.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

I am happy for you if this is what you truly want. But please remember, a proposal doesn't cure things. Please work through the other issues. I beg you to do that and so you can be very happy.

Whenitrains · Member

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
I am happy for you if this is what you truly want. But please remember, a proposal doesn't cure things. Please work through the other issues. I beg you to do that and so you can be very happy.

He gave you what you wanted so you wouldn't leave...now. So how long from the proposal to the wedding? He can delay getting married for years.

ed11563 · Guru

Do you WANT to be married to him? Like, for the next 40 years?

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

I don't want you to think I am judging you at all, I want the best for you and what makes you happy.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

He senses you are leaving so now he is pulling out the big gun. If u can truly live that way that is up to u. But u know u deserve better.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

If u were truly ready to walk away nothing ahould have "saved" him. If your only relationship issue was that you just wanted it to be official then that would be fine. But that isnt the case here.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

I'm happy for you Vette. I hope this will be a very good thing.

FNW · Guru

This is what happened to me with the ex. And I was elated that he found me worthy enough for a ring that I didn't stop and think about what I really wanted, the problems that existed and how the ring would not fix them, and what he was bringing to the table that I accepted. And I found myself staring out a bathroom window wearing a white dress, hoping that one of my (male) co-workers was coming so he could see how beautiful I looked, rather than wondering what my soon-to-be groom would think.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

A wedding proposal should be a joyous moment when you realize that the man that you love and trust more than anyone in the world just told you he wants to spend the rest of your lives creating that special bond with you. It should not be a get out of jail free card.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Vette, we love you. If this makes you happy, then I am happy for you. But,please, please, please don't rush into a wedding. Make sure the issues that bother you are worked through and that he is actually the person you want to spend FOREVER with. FOREVER.

You are too beautiful and wonderful to settle. That is all.

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

Lawyerlady wrote:
Vette, we love you. If this makes you happy, then I am happy for you. But,please, please, please don't rush into a wedding. Make sure the issues that bother you are worked through and that he is actually the person you want to spend FOREVER with. FOREVER.

You are too beautiful and wonderful to settle. That is all.

Yes. Every bit of this.

We want you to feel secure and happy, for the rest of your life. smile

I'll be praying for you.

Lindley · Guru

I agree with LL please don't rush in till the issues are resolved.

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

Fort Worth Mom wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Vette, we love you. If this makes you happy, then I am happy for you. But,please, please, please don't rush into a wedding. Make sure the issues that bother you are worked through and that he is actually the person you want to spend FOREVER with. FOREVER.

You are too beautiful and wonderful to settle. That is all.

Yes. Every bit of this.
We want you to feel secure and happy, for the rest of your life.
I'll be praying for you.

Ditto on both of these.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Pre-marital counseling may be a great idea.

Momala · Great cook-happy wife-superb fisherman

Vette ~
I hope the glow you are feeling right now will last for the rest of your lives!

NAOW · Vette's SS

I wish you all the happiness in the world! You truly deserve it.

Vette · Owl drink to that!

Wow, thank you to the 99% of you who had something nice to say and/or constructive criticism.

We had a hard day today because I did bring up all the garbage. I felt a little bad like I was ruining the moment but it didn't turn out so bad. We both agreed to try counseling again (we tried it once before and didn't really care for it). But I have issues and he has issues to work on.

I have a good feeling. I even told him how the stress has been affecting me physically and that was a relief just to put that out there.

Momala · Great cook-happy wife-superb fisherman

How is his son taking it?

Vette · Owl drink to that!

We haven't told him yet because he's at his mom's for the week. I think he'll be excited though he already introduces me to people as his stepmom :)

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Soooo, was there a ring or do you get to pick one out?

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Southern_Belle wrote:
Soooo, was there a ring or do you get to pick one out?

Oh, he put a ring on it. biggrin

FNW · Guru

Hopefully counseling will help both of you.

I am glad you put it all out there. You can't bottle it in, and he needs to know you are on to him and his secrets.

Have you thought about how you would feel in 5 years...10 years...if he continues to kibitz with his ex-wife about you? Marriage will not change this about him. Counseling might. I hope for your sake it does, but if it doesn't, you need to decide whether you can accept this about him unconditionally BEFORE you get married.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

Oh I didn't see this thread, so you can disregard what I just posted in the other thread.

I cannot tell you how relieved I am to hear you two are open for counseling. I would hate to see you bottling things up because he keeps doing things untrustworthy and you cant trust him because of it.

We just want you happy dear. Please do a self check later when all the excitement has died down and ask yourself if you are really happy. If yes, then good. If no, then do something about it.

Meanwhile, congratulations dear!

TrudyML · Guru

My best to you.

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

FNW wrote:
Hopefully counseling will help both of you.

I am glad you put it all out there. You can't bottle it in, and he needs to know you are on to him and his secrets.

Have you thought about how you would feel in 5 years...10 years...if he continues to kibitz with his ex-wife about you? Marriage will not change this about him. Counseling might. I hope for your sake it does, but if it doesn't, you need to decide whether you can accept this about him unconditionally BEFORE you get married.

This. And we still have your back with a Geek spork posse, just in case... biggrin

Cheerios4606 · Guru

hahaha! I forgot about the spork thing! hahaha!

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Ahumm...some of us MAY know where you live, and will either rescue you or disrupt your wedding! We will be the ones in the back making all kinds of demands that our needs be meet FIRST!

Oh, and I want a front row seat, lit with flashing lights so everyone knows I'm there. biggrin

The rest of the bunch can sit in the back. biggrin

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

just Czech wrote:
Ahumm...some of us MAY know where you live, and will either rescue you or disrupt your wedding! We will be the ones in the back making all kinds of demands that our needs be meet FIRST!

Oh, and I want a front row seat, lit with flashing lights so everyone knows I'm there.
The rest of the bunch can sit in the back.

My shortest-of-short dress will have flashing lights attached to the hem to take the attention off you and put it where it belongs, LOL... biggrin biggrin

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I'm sorry if I came off as rude Vette. I don't wish divorce on anyone. I just want you to be sure this is right and that you're going to be completely happy. I've gotten to know you over the years and you are a good person. I would love to see you have the unconditional love you desire and deserve.

FNW · Guru

I will wear a green, strapless dress.

TrudyML · Guru

FNW wrote:
I will wear a green, strapless dress.

Get a fake tattoo on your shoulder. A big dragon.

Vette · Owl drink to that!

I'm okay with it, my sister takes all the attention off me anyway she's way prettier

Vette · Owl drink to that!

You weren't being rude NJN I appreciate your input :)

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

VetteGirl wrote:
You weren't being rude NJN I appreciate your input :)

Do what is right for YOU!

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Do we get to plan a truly tasteless geek wedding?

Vette · Owl drink to that!

Well we are only inviting immediate family so only like ten people will be offended. And only his side would get offended by anything so only maybe 4 people haha

Vette · Owl drink to that!

So I say have at it!

NAOW · Vette's SS

VetteGirl wrote:
Well we are only inviting immediate family so only like ten people will be offended. And only his side would get offended by anything so only maybe 4 people haha

That is so sweet that you think of the Geeks as immediate family!!! We will all be honored to attend wink

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

NAOW wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
Well we are only inviting immediate family so only like ten people will be offended. And only his side would get offended by anything so only maybe 4 people haha
That is so sweet that you think of the Geeks as immediate family!!! We will all be honored to attend

We must all be bridesmaids!

WYSIWYG · Guru

Do what is right for YOU!
- Nobody Just Nobody

____________________________________

That is really the best advice.

ed11563 · Guru

Southern_Belle wrote:
NAOW wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
Well we are only inviting immediate family so only like ten people will be offended. And only his side would get offended by anything so only maybe 4 people haha
That is so sweet that you think of the Geeks as immediate family!!! We will all be honored to attend
We must all be bridesmaids!

Will II need a new dress?

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

ed11563 wrote:
Southern_Belle wrote:
NAOW wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
Well we are only inviting immediate family so only like ten people will be offended. And only his side would get offended by anything so only maybe 4 people haha
That is so sweet that you think of the Geeks as immediate family!!! We will all be honored to attend
We must all be bridesmaids!
Will II need a new dress?

Oh yes! It has to be green and strapless. And you will be required to shave your pits.

Cheerios4606 · Guru

lolol!

Vette · Owl drink to that!

Okay, I literally just planned the whole wedding in like a day, so anyone who wants to come to Lake Havasu on April 8th feel free!

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

VetteGirl wrote:
Okay, I literally just planned the whole wedding in like a day, so anyone who wants to come to Lake Havasu on April 8th feel free!

Oh that was a mistake posting that here.

Com'n geeks, need to plan this epic geek meet! Vette was the first geek I met so it would be appropriate to crash the wedding!

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
Okay, I literally just planned the whole wedding in like a day, so anyone who wants to come to Lake Havasu on April 8th feel free!
Oh that was a mistake posting that here.

Com'n geeks, need to plan this epic geek meet! Vette was the first geek I met so it would be appropriate to crash the wedding!

I already Googled it and have my trip planned. I have a green, strapless number in mind to wear for the ceremony, and a short, hoochie-mama little dress for the reception!

Ohfour · Hooker

I'm wearing white. Blinding white. Strapless. And I'm going to dye my armpit hair hot pink. And my dress will be so sheer, you will be able to see my hoo ha hair. That will be hot pink too. Oh, and I'm wearing flip flops. And there better be booze, or I'm gonna cause a scene. Free booze.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

I insist that everyone follows my kosher, vegan, gluten free diet that i will be trying thst week.