The CBC's story of an unidentified Mississauga, Ontario 15-year-old who called 911 last week to report her parents for "forcing her" to go on vacation to a rental cottage east of Toronto is going viral, with the Ontario Provincial police officers who investigated the report calling it "a case of a teenager being a teenager."
"Although she perceived this as a real issue, it was not an appropriate use of 911," an officer told CBC News after the police visited the family's cabin to make sure it was not an actual emergency and that the teenager was, in fact, safe.
It's not unusual for teenagers to balk at family vacations. Anne Bruntrager, a mother of four boys in Boston, said that her own 15-year-old son, Jack, had protested so much about vacations in the past that this summer, she and her husband left him at home with grandparents when they took a trip to Scotland.
"Jack was so miserable when we took him to Europe last summer," she told TODAY Parents. "He spent the whole trip dragging his feet, complaining, expressing how much happier he would have been if he had stayed home. We vowed never to take him on an expensivevacation again."
Bruntrager said she feels disappointed by her son's protests against family vacations. "We're finally to the point with our four kids where we can travel without diapers, strollers, or Pack 'n Plays, and everyone can pull their own weight," she said, "But now, the older kids have less and less interest in being with us."
TODAY Tastemaker and child development expert Deborah Gilboa told TODAY Parents that the real crime in the Canadian teenager's 911 call to report her parents last week "seems to be that we have robbed teenagers of any sense of true difficulty or emergency."
What stands out to Gilboa is not only that the Canadian teenager apparently believed her situation to be an unusual and remarkable experience, but also that she thought it was appropriate to report her parents to the police for it. "She wanted embarrassment at the least, and criminal consequences at most, for her family simply for insisting they spend time together," Gilboa said.
Gilboa also lamented that the teenager in last week's incident only received a warning for her misuse of emergency resources. "While it's easy to feel that the police were compassionate with this girl due to her age, our unwillingness as a society to show teens the real consequences of their serious action is making problems worse, not better," she said.
Perhaps the Canadian teenager's actions added up to more than just "a case of a teenager being a teenager," but Bruntrager admitted that teenagers' lack of interest in family vacations is not a modern problem; she did it to her own parents when she was younger. "During college, when I was 19, they booked our family on a special Caribbean cruise," she said. "I did my best job to make them miserable, because I was miserable to be there with them.
"I just wanted to see my friends, relax at home, and feel better after what had been a very stressful and emotionally draining summer. So, I do feel like I can understand his point of view, and this year we tried to take that into consideration and planned an adult-onlyvacation instead of a family one."
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I'd been completely stoked to go any one of those places with my parents!
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This just simply doesn't compute with me. We took the kids on vacations when they were teenagers. They loved it and they enjoyed spending time with us. The sulking around Europe thing would not have lasted longer than the airplane. Get your **** together and parent that ungrateful brat. One stern look and a "knock it off" would have been all it took had that attitude arisen. But it didn't. We did vacations at the beach, vacations in Europe, vacations touring famous places in the US, and it never occurred to the kids to call 911. Maybe it's because our family loves each other and genuinely enjoys spending time together. The kids in the OP sound like they have been allowed to get away with far too much for far too long.
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Out of all the lies I have told, "just kidding" is my favorite !
We went to Disney when Caitlyn was 8 or 9. My mom bought Caitlyn and I the princess breakfast.
Caitlyn has always been a princess junkie but she was a bit too old, in her mind, for this particular experience.
So after about 20 minutes, and a couple princesses coming by, I looked her in the eye and told her if she didn't start at least pretending she was having fun, I was going to fangirl like a maniac over the next one that walked up.
She knew me. Knew I wasn't kidding.
She loosened up and started having fun.
It's one of our favorite memories of that trip.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.