G has a gorgeous new tat. I love it. Really love it. He wants more and I'm totally all about it. Whatever he wants. (But I like them too....)
I want a nose ring. I have forever. But they disgust him.
I can't even imagine doing something that he hates...but if I hated his tats (I don't ) I would never keep him from doing it. He's not stopping me, but he's vocal about it...
What would you do?
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Well, if you want one, you don't have to wear it 24/7 do you? Is it something you could put on when you go out with friends or shopping etc? And, they make nose rings that don't require you being pierced. Could you get those and try them out and they are removable and no big deal.
I wouldn't get one. Of course, I'm not into body piercing, I find a lot of them gross. Now if you are talking a small diamond on the side of the nostril, that actually looks ok, but the hoops don't. Just my opinion. I wouldn't body pierce shame you or anything.
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I think I would take his feelings into consideration.
Caitlyn has a nose piercing.
I've gotten use to it.
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Talk to him about it. Tell him that you respect his opinion but you want to do it. If he respects your opinion, he'll at least listen. DW and I both have nose piercings (nothing huge... just a small silver stud). Occasionally she puts a small silver hoop in and I don't care for it but she does. So I don't say anything. I love her and respect the fact that we don't have the same taste.
On the flip side, she dislikes tattoos. I have two, one on the center top of my back (nobody sees it unless I want them to and it was already there when we met) and one on my upper arm (my entire upper arm). I talked to her before getting the one on my arm because her opinion matters to me. I showed her what I wanted to get and she liked the drawing. It's not colored in or shaded and it's not a prison tat. Actually, I've gotten a lot of compliments from older folks on it. But I wanted to make sure she didn't think I was doing something to myself that she would hate. As it turns out, she just hates the idea of tattooing HER body. As long as I don't ink up my neck or face (and I never would), she's cool. She also appreciated that I came to her first. Would I have done it if she asked me not to? I don't know... We've both done things that other has disapproved of... but a permanent mark on my body? I'd have to think twice for sure.
Talk to him about it. Tell him that you respect his opinion but you want to do it. If he respects your opinion, he'll at least listen. DW and I both have nose piercings (nothing huge... just a small silver stud). Occasionally she puts a small silver hoop in and I don't care for it but she does. So I don't say anything. I love her and respect the fact that we don't have the same taste.
On the flip side, she dislikes tattoos. I have two, one on the center top of my back (nobody sees it unless I want them to and it was already there when we met) and one on my upper arm (my entire upper arm). I talked to her before getting the one on my arm because her opinion matters to me. I showed her what I wanted to get and she liked the drawing. It's not colored in or shaded and it's not a prison tat. Actually, I've gotten a lot of compliments from older folks on it. But I wanted to make sure she didn't think I was doing something to myself that she would hate. As it turns out, she just hates the idea of tattooing HER body. As long as I don't ink up my neck or face (and I never would), she's cool. She also appreciated that I came to her first. Would I have done it if she asked me not to? I don't know... We've both done things that other has disapproved of... but a permanent mark on my body? I'd have to think twice for sure.
I wonder if that may be how G is, O4. He perhaps just can't imagine doing that to himself so he says he doesn't like them. The VT Veg ( ) has some wise advise.
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I had a cartilage piercing in my ear. It was a PIA. I finally let it close up after many years. I can't imagine having one to take care of in my nose. But I can't imagine getting a tattoo either. We're just not into those things. It's funny because when we went to Kings Dominion, I think we were the only ones without tattoos.
We both have tats. He tatted his right arm with the first 8 bars of the song we were married to. I have the last 8 bars on my left ankle. Although not obvious, it connected us. I still want a nose piercing!!!!!! Gagh! But i would never do that without his blessing...
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I have always wanted a tat since we lived next door to a former merchant marine and his wife. He had an anchor on his arm which I thought was so cool. I was 6 at the time. A friend in college had a small blue bird on his shoulder which I also thought was great. My parents were dead against tats plus the fact that I had no idea where to go to get one. (Not a lot of tattoo parlors then in an area which boasted towns of 200 - 1200 people). Then I never got around to getting one, but I still think I might like one. A little too old now, perhaps. LOL
Doubt that my wife would approve, although her younger brother has a full body tat which is terrific....
Well, if you want one, you don't have to wear it 24/7 do you? Is it something you could put on when you go out with friends or shopping etc? And, they make nose rings that don't require you being pierced. Could you get those and try them out and they are removable and no big deal.
I would not get anything done if my DH was disgusted by the idea, whether it be a tattoo, piercing, or a pixie haircut. Yes, I KNOW it's my body and my right to do it - but I love him more than my hair, or any desire to do something like that.
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I would not get anything done if my DH was disgusted by the idea, whether it be a tattoo, piercing, or a pixie haircut. Yes, I KNOW it's my body and my right to do it - but I love him more than my hair, or any desire to do something like that.
That's where I am, LL. But the Geeks have given good advice. I think I will get a magnetic one and let him see what it would look like. If he still really hates it, then I can just wear it when he's not around...
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I know it is just face jewelry, but to me a nose ring reminds me of a slave. It kinda disgusts me. This is just my opinion and I have no probs with folks that do it. My own niece has one... but to be honest, everytime I see it I think "slave".
