Someone I am in contact with has suddenly taken to lashing out at me. I have no idea why. I have done nothing to prompt the behavior. Should I try to contact their family members and let them know and perhaps get them help? Or do I just ignore? It is very weird.
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Give them the "are you nuts" look and ask them straight out "why would you say/do that"?
Or "what are you angry at me about"?
And this one particular person, I just told her to stop talking to me like that.
-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Thursday 2nd of March 2017 07:10:52 AM
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What is the age of this person? A child? Definitely needs to have the family informed. An older person? Probably the same answer as it could be a sign of the onset of senility or Alzheimer. In between - Use Lily's advice cause it sounds like good advice to me.
Is this a close friend? If it's someone close and you are noticing a marked difference in behavior, then maybe you should. However, if it is not a close friend, and this person is just a little crazy - listen to Lily and SB.
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Is this a close friend? If it's someone close and you are noticing a marked difference in behavior, then maybe you should. However, if it is not a close friend, and this person is just a little crazy - listen to Lily and SB.
Not a close friend. It's just very odd behavior and weird I seem to be a target.
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I would tell her directly. Why would u tell the family? And if she's an adult, the family doesnt control her. Or do u think this is a display of mental illness or addiction?
I would tell her directly. Why would u tell the family? And if she's an adult, the family doesnt control her. Or do u think this is a display of mental illness or addiction?
Yes, that is why I am asking the question. I think her mental state is questionable. Perhaps just cutting her out altogether is best. Her mental health is none of my business and she is not a close friend or relative.
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If that's the case, then I'd just stop having any thing to do with her.
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If you want to give her a chance to correct her behavior I would ask why are you speaking to me that way and it stops now. Then block her if she doesn't stop.
Ain't no time for that!
Crazy bird lady....my former neighbor would call me sometimes and tell me that she needed to go shopping with her food stamps. But she would get this shi.tty chastising tone like I did something wrong. And she had a regular person that took her shopping. I asked her why she had that tone with me as I did nothing wrong and was going to hang up if she didn't get over herself. She stopped that pretty quick
I try and confront these things in real time. Sometimes they just need to be called out.
I have cut people off for continuing that behavior though.
I can imagine Cheerios. Some of them can get rather demanding. I feel bad for them but not for long when I get the attitude!
Birdy passed away recently and no one in her family would sign her cremation order so I did it. I have a feeling she was ****ty with them too. Sad thing
was it a random event?--a once in a long while event?--or is it a persistent, noticeable change in personality/behavior over time?--if it's a random event, would dismiss it--everyone has bad days--if it's persistent, would address it either with the person themselves or, depending on the circumstances, with their loved ones/family
if we poked each other in the eye every time we behaved like dumbasses, eventually we'd all be blind--there is a similar metaphor in the bible but am unable to recall it exactly--regardless, would seem to apply here
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I would tell her directly. Why would u tell the family? And if she's an adult, the family doesnt control her. Or do u think this is a display of mental illness or addiction?
Yes, that is why I am asking the question. I think her mental state is questionable. Perhaps just cutting her out altogether is best. Her mental health is none of my business and she is not a close friend or relative.
I would think that if there is some mental illness/addiction, then the family would already be experiencing what you are. And, if not, then they must not be very close to this person so not sure how telling them would help.
Anyway, I don't really know what is going on so I don't want to speak out of turn . But, you don't have to be abused by anyone. So i would tell this person to cut it out and leave me alone.
I would tell her directly. Why would u tell the family? And if she's an adult, the family doesnt control her. Or do u think this is a display of mental illness or addiction?
Yes, that is why I am asking the question. I think her mental state is questionable. Perhaps just cutting her out altogether is best. Her mental health is none of my business and she is not a close friend or relative.
I would think that if there is some mental illness/addiction, then the family would already be experiencing what you are. And, if not, then they must not be very close to this person so not sure how telling them would help.
Anyway, I don't really know what is going on so I don't want to speak out of turn . But, you don't have to be abused by anyone. So i would tell this person to cut it out and leave me alone.
I actually have told the person to F off, just not using the nasty words.
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Sometimes you're the windshield, and sometimes you're the bug.
I would tell her directly. Why would u tell the family? And if she's an adult, the family doesnt control her. Or do u think this is a display of mental illness or addiction?
Yes, that is why I am asking the question. I think her mental state is questionable. Perhaps just cutting her out altogether is best. Her mental health is none of my business and she is not a close friend or relative.
I would think that if there is some mental illness/addiction, then the family would already be experiencing what you are. And, if not, then they must not be very close to this person so not sure how telling them would help.
Anyway, I don't really know what is going on so I don't want to speak out of turn . But, you don't have to be abused by anyone. So i would tell this person to cut it out and leave me alone.
I actually have told the person to F off, just not using the nasty words.
