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DEAR ABBY: My 21-year-old daughter has a 6-month-old child. The father is a 36-year-old man who was recently deported to Mexico. He continues to contact her and wants her to travel to Mexico to visit him. I am terrified of all the things that could happen to her if she goes.

I don't trust him. I keep thinking, will he try to keep the baby? Will he try to keep them both or entice her to do something illegal? (He had an earlier felony conviction.) Am I overreacting? How can I get her to recognize that these types of things happen all the time? -- MOTHER IN ILLINOIS

DEAR MOTHER: The most important thing you can do right now is calm down. Your daughter is an adult, and you need to treat her like one. You are within your rights to express your concern, but if she wants to go, you cannot stop her.

If I were her mother, I'd approach it this way: Offer to take care of your grandchild while she visits the baby's daddy. That way she can get a look at how he's living and what he is doing. Suggest she take lots of photos with her. But unless she is absolutely sure that the environment is safe for her child, the little one should stay north of the border.



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The baby needs a passport and getting one is going to be difficult since both parents need to. Sign the application in front of a US notary. Problem solved.

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I agree with Abby.

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A 21 yr old running around with a 36 yr old in the first place?

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Lawyerlady wrote:

I agree with Abby.

 I do too. But it is a non issue until the problem of obtaining a passport is resolved.



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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:

I agree with Abby.

 I do too. But it is a non issue until the problem of obtaining a passport is resolved.

 They were unmarried.  Unless he had the child legitimized or signed the birth certificate, he likely has no parental rights.  She won't need him.



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Lawyerlady wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:

I agree with Abby.

 I do too. But it is a non issue until the problem of obtaining a passport is resolved.

 They were unmarried.  Unless he had the child legitimized or signed the birth certificate, he likely has no parental rights.  She won't need him.

 I didn't think of that. I wonder if she would be given a hard time over that?



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I'm pretty sure children don't need passports like adults do to travel to Mexico and Canada, children just need birth certificates and to be traveling with their parents to get through.


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That's how it used to be NAOW.

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Yes. Children now need a passport to travel.


Obtaining a U.S. passport for a newborn isn't much different than obtaining one for an adult. Even at one day old, infants need a passport to travel abroad, including to Canada and Mexico. You must apply for the passport in person at a passport acceptance facility, and bring your baby with you to do so.



Procedure for Obtaining a Passport for a Newborn Child | USA Today



traveltips.usatoday.com/procedure-obtaining-passport-newborn-child-21094.html

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He wants her to visit, but does she? It could be the daughter feels she dodged a bullet, with him being deported.

Either way, I think the advice is sound.

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Tinydancer wrote:

Yes. Children now need a passport to travel.


Obtaining a U.S. passport for a newborn isn't much different than obtaining one for an adult. Even at one day old, infants need a passport to travel abroad, including to Canada and Mexico. You must apply for the passport in person at a passport acceptance facility, and bring your baby with you to do so.



Procedure for Obtaining a Passport for a Newborn Child | USA Today



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  My daughter  had to get my granddaughter  a passport  and visa after she was born in Asia.



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Oh, you're right, it's just Canada that doesn't require minors to have a passport to enter.

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I'm getting tired of the media parading out children to cry that their fathers got deported. They were here ILLEGALLY. And have obviously had enough time to do something about it and have not.

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I agree!

That kid will most likely be better off if the loser just left and never showed back up.

But I have a feeling there will be an Amber alert and a crying grandmother begging for the return of her kid and grandkid.

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Hopefully the girl's glad he's gone. He can want her to visit but that doesn't mean it will happen.

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