People are getting married later and later so friends are often older. Or there are 2nd weddings. For those of you over 40, how would you feel about being a bridesmaid?
I have been asked to be a bridesmaid. I am honored and have said yes. But, I haven't been a bridesmaid in 25 years. Feels a little odd.
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Oh, man. No thanks! I swear I was doing it every weekend there for a while. When I get married my tiny niece and nephew will walk ahead of me. That is my plan.
People are getting married later and later so friends are often older. Or there are 2nd weddings. For those of you over 40, how would you feel about being a bridesmaid?
I have been asked to be a bridesmaid. I am honored and have said yes. But, I haven't been a bridesmaid in 25 years. Feels a little odd.
Sure, it might feel a little odd.
But times are changing.
This sounds like a close friend, and you feel honored.
If it's a first wedding, then go for all the whoop-la.
But a second wedding, no.
I would not want to be a bridesmaid at my age.
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It's about caring and supporting your friends/loved ones and making a memorable day, not about silly 'rules'. LL's friend obviously wants her to be a part of the special day.
We want pictures! Is it dressy? Casual? In between?
It's about caring and supporting your friends/loved ones and making a memorable day, not about silly 'rules'. LL's friend obviously wants her to be a part of the special day.
We want pictures! Is it dressy? Casual? In between?
Haven't picked dresses, yet - she's very open to different ideas.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
If it's a first wedding, then go for all the whoop-la.
But a second wedding, no.
I would not want to be a bridesmaid at my age.
I think it depends on the situation.
Not all first marriages end in divorce.
My sister, Irene, was a widow, at 43.
She asked our sister Chris to be a bridesmaid, when she married Phil.
It was nice. No big deal.
If LL feels good about it, even if it feels a little odd...well, go for it! Have fun! Enjoy it with your friend.
I didn't distinguish between reasons it's a second marriage, because I still feel the same no matter the reason.
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This is a first marriage for both, so not a 2nd wedding, I was just using that as an example.
Then, yes, all the bells, whistles, and trappings are important.
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I had a MOH and bridesmaid in my second wedding, but I was in my 20's. I had 5 in my first, and I was 19. I was one of 5 in my cousin's wedding, she in her 20's. I think it's more of a thing when you're younger, not just for your first wedding.
LL, you look like you're in your 20's so embrace it! And don't forget to flirt with the groom and drink too much.
You're never too old to be a bridesmaid. If in 50 years my best friend asked me to be her bridesmaid, I would without question. I would be honored and thrilled to celebrate with her.
The only time I would have any hesitation to being a bridesmaid is if I did not agree with the marriage.
I'm a grandmother and would absolutely be a bridesmaid if asked. Why not? Man, life is far too short not to do the things that make us and others happy!
This, but times are changing so I think there really is no limit on the age you can be a bridesmaid. But I personally would not want to be one at my age (54).
You're never too old to be a bridesmaid. If in 50 years my best friend asked me to be her bridesmaid, I would without question. I would be honored and thrilled to celebrate with her.
The only time I would have any hesitation to being a bridesmaid is if I did not agree with the marriage.
Would you tell them that that is why you're declining?
You're never too old to be a bridesmaid. If in 50 years my best friend asked me to be her bridesmaid, I would without question. I would be honored and thrilled to celebrate with her.
The only time I would have any hesitation to being a bridesmaid is if I did not agree with the marriage.
Would you tell them that that is why you're declining?
I would. But in all reality, that probably wouldn't happen. I would probably still be a bridesmaid to support my friend.
I had a friend once where I did not agree with the choices she was making in her relationship. I found a quiet time alone and expressed my concerns to her. The result was she defended the POS she was with and didn't speak to me for a decade. After that, I decided to keep my opinions to myself in an effort to preserve the friendship so that I could be a support system when things aren't good. I wasn't able to be there for her when she was going through the breakup (and all the crap during the relationship), I really wish I could have been.
There are obvious exceptions for if their safety is in question. I wouldn't stand silent then.
You're never too old to be a bridesmaid. If in 50 years my best friend asked me to be her bridesmaid, I would without question. I would be honored and thrilled to celebrate with her.
The only time I would have any hesitation to being a bridesmaid is if I did not agree with the marriage.
Would you tell them that that is why you're declining?
I would. But in all reality, that probably wouldn't happen. I would probably still be a bridesmaid to support my friend.
I had a friend once where I did not agree with the choices she was making in her relationship. I found a quiet time alone and expressed my concerns to her. The result was she defended the POS she was with and didn't speak to me for a decade. After that, I decided to keep my opinions to myself in an effort to preserve the friendship so that I could be a support system when things aren't good. I wasn't able to be there for her when she was going through the breakup (and all the crap during the relationship), I really wish I could have been.
There are obvious exceptions for if their safety is in question. I wouldn't stand silent then.
One of my very best friends refused to be in my wedding. In fact, she didn't speak to me for years afterwards. I finally tacked her down on My Space 20 years later.
She had done everything, EVERYTHING, to try to get me out of that relationship. She just could not bear it anymore. Looking back, I totally understand.
After reconnecting, we are closer than ever. She lives not far from the house in KY. That's one of the reasons we bought THAT place.
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When DH and I got married 5 years ago, I asked my
best friend from Church to be my Matron of Honor.
She was 79+, and absolutely gorgeous! She wore a
bright purple pants suit, and carried purple irises.
I can't think of anyone else I would have asked to
stand by me, as DH and I made two lives one.
one of my sisters is getting married this fall(for the first time)--both our parents are deceased now--and she asked me to walk her down the aisle and then give her away--on the one hand am honored but on the other, feel it is a bit disrespectful of our father--can't really articulate why but just feel that way
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one of my sisters is getting married this fall(for the first time)--both our parents are deceased now--and she asked me to walk her down the aisle and then give her away--on the one hand am honored but on the other, feel it is a bit disrespectful of our father--can't really articulate why but just feel that way
Aww, burns, that's not disrespectful. Doing this for him is honoring his memory.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
one of my sisters is getting married this fall(for the first time)--both our parents are deceased now--and she asked me to walk her down the aisle and then give her away--on the one hand am honored but on the other, feel it is a bit disrespectful of our father--can't really articulate why but just feel that way
Aww, burns, that's not disrespectful. Doing this for him is honoring his memory.
I agree. My brother-in-law walked his sister down the aisle after their father died.
