Back from my week at the beach. We had fun. SIL joined us. Hail the queen. While she was nice, funny, and the boys did not get sick, I don't think we'll be inviting her again.
Lazy. Didn't do a damn thing to help. Just sat there and either read a book or sewed. Occasionally she would join us for Uno Attack. But when it came to cooking & cleaning, nada. Couldn't even put her sofa bed bad each day. Except the last day when we were leaving. She did it then. So she was capable and knew how. Took her sewing stuff to the dining room table to work, where we left the dishes, jams, etc., for last (on purpose to see if she would help). She stood there, looked annoyed, and took her sewing to the front porch and sewed there. Didn't lift a finger to clear the table while my mom was washing dishes in the kitchen. Seven days of waiting on her hand/foot. Laundry? Yes please. Didn't bother to put it in dryer or help fold. Not even her stuff. Offer to help? Nope. Never.
It was nice visiting with her but after a day or so you start to feel used.
OH, and she is excited to come down and flop at hotel K in October and go to the annual Waterford Festival. Told DH if she comes, I'm putting her to work. And no, I'm not taking leave on Friday to go with her. She also gave a list of places she wants to visit when she's down. She wanted to go to FL with us in November, and got all excited when she found out we were going to Universal (she's a big Harry Potter fan). I told her I would let her know if it's worth the trip when we come back.
Mom & I did that, and we told her months ago, including a meal/food sign-up, but she said, "oh okay" and when DH told her he would send her the information she declined and said "don't bother" she would figure things out when she got there. So, as for food, we went ahead and made a list and just divvied it up between ourselves and brought extra so there would be enough for her.
Mom & I did that, and we told her months ago, including a meal/food sign-up, but she said, "oh okay" and when DH told her he would send her the information she declined and said "don't bother" she would figure things out when she got there. So, as for food, we went ahead and made a list and just divvied it up between ourselves and brought extra so there would be enough for her.
She knew ahead of time and still didn't help? I would send her a bill for a portion of total food costs.
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We should, but it's not even about the food. We realized when she did not contact us or showed an interest in the meal planning, that we would just figure in an additional night to go out to eat. (We usually have a CORN night but planned on no leftovers since there would be an additional mouth to feed). She brought some kale chips and hummus to share, and a small jug of iced tea and some beer margaritas and offered them. And a pack of English muffins which she sent home with us. The iced tea was for herself and she kept this insulated drinking mug of hers filled throughout the week.
If she had at least helped with chores.......but nope, she was there to relax.
DH and his family were never very good communicators. I think a lot of it was poor communication on both DH & SIL's part.
We had to laugh....SIL complained that on her last girls' weekend one of the friends was on her cell phone the entire time. How is that any different than having your nose in a book or sewing? Mom called her out on that in a teasing way and if looks could kill, I'd be an orphan. She obviously cannot be teased. Mom didn't care. She figured what would she do, stop helping? LOL Even #1 commented in the car on the way home, out of the blue, that all she did was sew and not help.
I already warned DH that if she comes down in October, I'm putting her to work. The second she glances at her sewing, I'll find a project. I'm not her servant.
The boys are at the point where they are waking each other up so I am planning to separate them, giving them their own bedrooms. SIL was quite upset about this....asked which rooms they would have. I said whichever ones they want. She later talked to my mother and told her we had to have a guest room. Wanted her to talk to me about that. Mom said they have plenty of room to spread out, should spread out, and anyone who comes back here usually stay in a hotel anyway.
Weird thing is, each boy CAN have their own room and we would still have a guest room. I'm not sure why she is worried about that.
I'm looking up themes....#2 doesn't want the sports theme anymore, and if he gets new decor then #1 wants new, too. Ugh. I'll use the sports stuff to decorate the basement now.
Czech, I am glad he is doing better. Whew. What a scare.
Yes, SIL is a user. His whole family are users. I make nice for DH. She wants to stay with us, she will be earning her keep. And no more family vacations with her.
Czech, I am glad he is doing better. Whew. What a scare.
Yes, SIL is a user. His whole family are users. I make nice for DH. She wants to stay with us, she will be earning her keep. And no more family vacations with her.
Glad you're back, Czech!
FNW, I don't blame you. I wouldn't invite her for any more vacations either.
Today I get to fast so that I am properly "empty" for my plumbing surgery tomorrow. I am ok right now, but by 3 pm I am pretty sure I will be climbing the walls. Pray for me folks, this will be hard!
Today I get to fast so that I am properly "empty" for my plumbing surgery tomorrow. I am ok right now, but by 3 pm I am pretty sure I will be climbing the walls. Pray for me folks, this will be hard!
Today I get to fast so that I am properly "empty" for my plumbing surgery tomorrow. I am ok right now, but by 3 pm I am pretty sure I will be climbing the walls. Pray for me folks, this will be hard!
Prayers on the way!
Oh, wow! More prayers coming your way, Cheerios!
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The boys are at the point where they are waking each other up so I am planning to separate them, giving them their own bedrooms. SIL was quite upset about this....asked which rooms they would have. I said whichever ones they want. She later talked to my mother and told her we had to have a guest room. Wanted her to talk to me about that. Mom said they have plenty of room to spread out, should spread out, and anyone who comes back here usually stay in a hotel anyway.
Weird thing is, each boy CAN have their own room and we would still have a guest room. I'm not sure why she is worried about that.
I'm looking up themes....#2 doesn't want the sports theme anymore, and if he gets new decor then #1 wants new, too. Ugh. I'll use the sports stuff to decorate the basement now.
So, she's lazy and a controlling busybody. Ugg.
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Didn't really care to much about seeing them. (LOL!)
