I've recently transitioned to veganism for various reasons. I haven't tried to convince DH or SS in any way to try it, but for some reason DH is very upset about it. I can't even talk to him about it, and he gets really irritated when we're at the grocery store and I'm buying anything out of the norm.
It's like he is feeling threatened by this, so I've stopped talking about it at all, I've been making meals while he's watching tv and now I go to the store by myself. What is his freaking problem?
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Was it a bad day?
Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?
Vegan, unless you have allergies to certain non vegan food, is not healthy. So that is my opinion on Vegan.
Onto the topic of DH not liking it. Are you talking about it a lot? Are you trying to force him to eat the same? Perhaps you should keep down the chat about it.
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I'm not even talking about it "a lot", but I don't feel I should have to walk on eggshells (no pun intended) for the rest of my life. My personal opinion is he needs to get over it, I just don't know how to put it nicely
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Was it a bad day?
Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?
I've done the vegan thing, it's not terribly hard and can be quite satisfying.
What I've noticed is when someone changes something, they tend to, without even meaning to, get an attitude.
Sometimes it's a look they give, or a sigh, or they make what they think are innocent remarks but it comes across as belittling. "You're really going to eat that?" "You know that's bad for you?"
I couldn't do vegan all the time, nor could I be a vegetarian for long. Mainly for health reasons, but also because I really like bacon and steak.
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Food is a very social thing. Consider that maybe he is feeling that somehow that disconnects you. Or, maybe he is concerned you are going to preach at him or prepare less tasty meals.
Well so far all I've done is grocery shop so I guess if that counts as getting an attitude
Case in point.
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Do you do all the cooking? What you have done is not just gone vegan, but you've changed a very large part of your life. We (people) eat every day, several times. And we don't just eat to survive, but we eat socially, and as a family event. You will now not be able to take part in the sharing of meals that everyone else is eating. BBQs will not be the same. Going to other people's houses for dinner will be difficult. Where you decide to eat out will now have to be decided based on whether they have vegan options. This does not just affect you. And I think your husband already realizes that.
And if you do the cooking in your relationship - has you going vegan affected the meals you prepare for the family?
-- Edited by Lawyerlady on Saturday 16th of September 2017 08:26:04 PM
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Do your vegan ingredients cost more? Are you having to duplicate certain foods? Like regular bread for DH & SS, and a special bread for you? Regular milk vs soy? etc.
-- Edited by Momala on Sunday 17th of September 2017 04:51:41 AM
Food can be a funny thing for some people. My mother rolls her eyes and makes fun of me because I cook. She always sends me recipes where you open a can of this and throw it in a box of that and call it a meal. Rather than fight with her, I just say, "oh, yum!" and delete the emailed recipe. She says cooking is too much work and I shouldn't bother with it. Never mind the fact that I actually enjoy cooking, and my family loves what I serve.
I suggest you shop by yourself and eat what you want. Cook what he likes and add what you like. It's more work for you, but if you are willing to do it, then both of you should be happy.
But if you are doing it to lose weight, there are other options besides going vegan, and I don't think this new "diet" will stick. Kudos to you if it does!
