Divorce DOES run in the family and could be genetic, researchers find
Children of divorced parents are more likely to get divorced themselves
A study found that genetic factors are the primary explanation for this trend
Adopted people resemble their biological parents in their histories of divorce
The findings could have implications for advice provided by marriage therapists
They may begin to target on basic personality traits genetically linked to divorce - for example, high levels of negative emotionality and low constraint
Numerous studies have shown that children of divorced parents are more likely to get divorced when compared to those who grew up with parents who remained married.
But this pattern may not hold true for adopted children, a new study suggests.
According to the research, genetic factors are the primary explanation for the divorce trend, and the new findings could have implications for the advice provided by marriage counselors or therapists.
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Researchers analyzed Swedish population registries and found that people who were adopted resemble their biological - but not adoptive - parents and siblings in their histories of divorce
WHAT THEY FOUND
Children of divorced parents are more likely to get divorced when compared to those who grew up with parents who remained married.
A new study, which will be published in the journal Psychological Science, has found that genetic factors are the primary explanation for the divorce trend.
The researchers analyzed Swedish population registries and found that people who were adopted resemble their biological - but not adoptive - parents and siblings in their histories of divorce.
The new findings could have implications for the advice provided by marriage counselors or therapists.
Focusing on increasing commitment or strengthening interpersonal skills may not be a particularly good use of time for a therapist working with a distressed couple.
Instead, it might be useful for therapists to target some of the more basic personality traits that previous research has suggested are genetically linked to divorce - for example, traits such as high levels of negative emotionality and low levels of constraint
The new study, which will be published in an upcoming issue Journal Psychological Science, was conducted by researchers at Virginia Commonwealth University (VCU) and Lund University in Sweden.
The researchers analyzed Swedish population registries and found that people who were adopted resemble their biological - but not adoptive - parents and siblings in their histories of divorce.
'We were trying to answer the basic question: Why does divorce run in families?' said the study’s first author, Dr Jessica Salvatore, assistant professor in the College of Humanities and Sciences at VCU and a co-author of the study.
'Across a series of designs using Swedish national registry data, we found consistent evidence that genetic factors primarily explained the intergenerational transmission of divorce.'
According to the researchers, the study's findings are significant because they diverge from the predominantly found narrative in divorce literature, which suggests that offspring of divorced parents are more likely to get divorced themselves because they see their parents lacking in commitment or struggling to manage conflict.
As such, this literature suggests that children grow up to internalize that behavior and exhibit it in their own relationships.
'I see this as a quite significant finding,' said Dr Kenneth Kendler, a professor of psychiatry and human and molecular genetics at VCU and a co-author of the research.
'Nearly all the prior literature emphasized that divorce was transmitted across generations psychologically.
'Our results contradict that, suggesting that genetic factors are more important.'
Dr Salvatore says that by recognizing the role that genetics can play in the transmission of divorce, therapists may be able to better identify targets to help couples who are struggling.
'At present, the bulk of evidence on why divorce runs in families points to the idea that growing up with divorced parents weakens your commitment to and the interpersonal skills needed for marriage,' said Dr Salvatore.
'So, if a distressed couple shows up in a therapist's office and finds, as part of learning about the partners’ family histories, that one partner comes from a divorced family, then the therapist may make boosting commitment or strengthening interpersonal skills a focus of their clinical efforts.'
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The study's findings are significant because they diverge from the predominant narrative in divorce literature, suggesting that offspring of divorced parents are more likely to get divorced because they see their parents struggling to manage conflict or lacking commitment
However, Dr Salvatore says that these previous divorce studies did not adequately control for or examine the genetic factors that divorcing parents transmit to their children.
'Our study is, at present, the largest to do this,' said Dr Salvatore.
'And what we find is strong, consistent evidence that genetic factors account for the intergenerational transmission of divorce.
'For this reason, focusing on increasing commitment or strengthening interpersonal skills may not be a particularly good use of time for a therapist working with a distressed couple.'
The study's findings suggest that, instead, it might be useful for therapists to target some of the more basic personality traits that previous research has suggested are genetically linked to divorce - for example, traits such as high levels of negative emotionality and low levels of constraint.
'For example, other research shows that people who are highly neurotic tend to perceive their partners as behaving more negatively than they objectively are [as rated by independent observers],' Dr Salvatore said.
'So, addressing these underlying, personality-driven cognitive distortions through cognitive-behavioral approaches may be a better strategy than trying to foster commitment.'
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For therapists helping struggling couples, it may be beneficial to target some of the more basic personality traits that previous research has suggested are genetically linked to divorce - for example, traits such as high levels of negative emotionality and low levels of constraint
Yet another study to alleviate the responsibility being shouldered by one person or another for a failing marriage. There are so many factors that weigh in on this. Sometimes I think I could write a book. But, I'm really tired of people coming up with one way or another to absolve themselves of the responsibility for their life and how it turns out or their mistakes. "Oh, it's not me! It's genetics! I'm destined to make these because of the genes my ancestors past down to me!"
Give me a break!
-- Edited by Forever Sunshine on Thursday 5th of October 2017 07:05:16 AM
Or its really the last, and healthiest, thing a person can do for themselves and their kids.
Divorce isn't easy, and it shouldn't be.
Divorce is like a death.
I get so tired of people hearing divorce and deciding the ones who divorced were just flippant or fickle.
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I think there are way too many factors in determining what leads to divorce. My personal observations have been that at least one person in the marriage tried their hardest and gave a lot of chances to make it better until they realized there was nothing left to do.
But it is interesting about adoptive kids having similar habits as their bio families- I've seen similar studies in other areas. Genetics are pretty mysterious.
I still think it's primarily learned, maybe in combination with bonding or trust issues. The latter (bonding, trust issues) may have some genetic factors though I guess.
There are some instances when divorce can't be avoided and is the best option. But that is certainly not always the case. A lot of instances these days is the "me, me, me" mentality. I know plenty of people who bust their family apart so they can "find themselves" or for someone else.
Unless we're talking about an abusive situation of some kind, divorce is rarely better for the children and the ease with which it is done has a great deal to do with our societal decay.
And divorce can be the fault of one party and not the other. Saying divorce is bad is not a condemnation of every divorced person out there. Marriages are meant to last - especially with children involved, but that doesn't mean anyone is saying someone who had a putz of a spouse should have stayed married to the bastard. The divorce was the *******'s fault.
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
I know for some, they go into marriage thinking if it doesn't wor they can divorce. It's the exit sign they keep in sight.
It drives me nuts when someone says to me "if you had just tried harder" or "you took the easy way out".
Yes, a two parent home can be better for children, but it isn't always so.
Like I said, sometimes, the healthiest thing you can do for the kids is divorce.
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There are some instances when divorce can't be avoided and is the best option. But that is certainly not always the case. A lot of instances these days is the "me, me, me" mentality. I know plenty of people who bust their family apart so they can "find themselves" or for someone else.
Unless we're talking about an abusive situation of some kind, divorce is rarely better for the children and the ease with which it is done has a great deal to do with our societal decay.
Saying divorce is bad is not a condemnation of every divorced person out there. Marriages are meant to last - espe
And divorce can be the fault of one party and not the other.
cially with children involved, but that doesn't mean anyone is saying someone who had a putz of a spouse should have stayed married to the bastard. The divorce was the *******'s fault.
The bolded is so true, thinking about my divorce. Who trips their pregnant wife in the airport and does numerous other abusive stuff to try to make a miscarriage happen? Sorry for the rant. But that abuse was the catalyst to the divorce to just protect by unborn baby.
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My maternal grandparents were divorced. Gpop remarried and remained married for almost 50 years before he died. Womb donor was married at least three times, one child out of wedlock, shacked up with several men. Mom had a good role model with Gpop and her Grandparents. Mom & Dad stayed married.
I am still happily married although DH was divorced before me. I went into marriage with the idea that divorce is not really a possiblity. It would take a lot for that to happen. Guess that is part of the reason it took us 9 years to actually get married.
DB is twice divorced and a little shy on pulling the gun to get married a third time (or possibly not actually divorced from #2).
ETA I think that many people do not take marriage seriously. They have the attitude that if it does not work out, we can get divorced.
-- Edited by jlbear71 on Friday 6th of October 2017 08:30:09 PM
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lily! Having been divorced twice due to abusive relationships, I have always said if God wanted me to be married, he'd have the guy get lost and end up at my door asking for directions! That way I'd know he was "the one". Guess what? No one has ever knocked on my door asking for directions. But, then again, we all know men won't ask for directions. hahaha
lily! Having been divorced twice due to abusive relationships, I have always said if God wanted me to be married, he'd have the guy get lost and end up at my door asking for directions! That way I'd know he was "the one". Guess what? No one has ever knocked on my door asking for directions. But, then again, we all know men won't ask for directions. hahaha
You be careful with that. I made the a similar challenge to God once. I said if God wanted me to have another baby, he'd have to drop one in my lap. I said this in church when everyone was bugging me to have another kid. About a year later, I inherited Jojo.
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
lily! Having been divorced twice due to abusive relationships, I have always said if God wanted me to be married, he'd have the guy get lost and end up at my door asking for directions! That way I'd know he was "the one". Guess what? No one has ever knocked on my door asking for directions. But, then again, we all know men won't ask for directions. hahaha
I've said the man would have to have a neon sign saying "he's the one" over his head.
Once was enough for me.
Ha, one and done.
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I think that maybe coping styles might have some genetic basis perhaps? That some people are more willing to confront or explore a problem and some people might react more with a fight or flight kind of approach? Just a thought.
Or the person you marry becomes a complete nightmare and no matter how hard you work and fight to save the marriage, eventually you realize it's over.
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When a person is on life support, there comes a time in which you have to weigh the options. Is it time to pull the plug and let go?
I'm not saying every divorce is the same, but most of the time, for those I have known, that's the situation.
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